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DP in hospital. Reassure me he’ll be ok.

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icecreamgirl94 · 16/07/2021 23:42

DP had his appendix out on Sunday, home Monday and recovering well, posted a thread at the time which some people might have seen. This morning he woke me at 6 saying he didn’t feel good but he couldn’t explain how exactly. I thought he was just half asleep and painkillers were wearing off so I just cuddled him till he went back to sleep. Reading that back I’m aware of how stupid it sounds. When I woke up properly a bit later though he was sweaty and breathing funny. Now he’s in hospital and they’re saying it’s sepsis. I don’t understand how this has happened when he was recovering so well. He even went out and saw a mate yesterday. I’ve just been sat at home all day not knowing what to do with myself and waiting for news which hasn’t come. I don’t want to go to bed because he’s not there. Not sure I’ve even posted this in the right place I just wanted a bit of reassurance.

OP posts:
MrsPerfect12 · 18/07/2021 07:31

My mum contracted sepsis a couple of years ago. It's was a stressful time but she's fully recovered now. Wishing you DP a speedy recovery. Remember to take care of yourself too. Flowers

SunsetandCupcakes · 18/07/2021 08:05

Just sending you Flowers hope that seeing him today goes well.

changingstages · 18/07/2021 08:06

Hope you're ok this morning - I started a thread a few weeks ago as my lovely sister in law had sepsis and I, like you, heard sepsis and was absolutely terrified. I asked for positive stories about recovery and people posted loads, it was really helpful.
Anyway, now I have my own to add: SIL was very poorly for a few days but was home after six days and is now doing extremely well! Tired but feeling very good.

I hope you and your partner both have a good day.

FizzyPink · 18/07/2021 08:10

This exact thing happened to my DP a few years ago. He went from being on a night out (maybe not advisable so soon after having his appendix out but he was a lot younger then) to being taken to hospital by ambulance.
After a few days he was much much better and totally recovered very quickly. The one thing that did happen to him though was that he was very muscular before and quite well built but for whatever reason lost a lot of weight and has never been able to regain it in the same way.
Please try not to worry and focus on looking after yourself, although I appreciate that’s much easier said than done Flowers

JackieQueen · 18/07/2021 08:19

Wishing your partner a speedy recovery, hope today goes well Flowers

Puffthemagicdragongoestobed · 18/07/2021 08:41

All the best to your DP. My dad recently got sepsis and recovered, he is 79! It took him a while to regain strength but he is almost back to his old self.

kissmelittleass · 18/07/2021 09:48

Op I had severe periodontitis that led to sepsis last winter I was told I just got to hospital in time! I was in hospital for 17 days I was quite ill and I'd say I'm only starting to recently become me again.
At the start of year I got a chest infection it took three lots of antibiotics to clear then shortly after urine infections and more antibiotics, the doctor said my immune system was low after sepsis and can take up to a year to recover.
I'm starting to be me again now and getting some energy back to want to do things, what I'm trying to say is your partner will probably take a while to regain himself again it takes a lot out of you.
Well done on getting him to hospital so quick, believe it or not I actually have a sibling in hospital with the last few days who is being monitored due to infection tracking and sepsis.. I know how you feel it's horrible but you'll get through it he's in the right place x

rainbowstardrops · 18/07/2021 09:56

How bloody scary for you all. I hope your partner is on the mend soon and you can see him today Thanks

sherrystrull · 18/07/2021 10:42

Thinking of you and praying for your dp and a speedy recovery. Hope he is soon on the mend.

Ilikeknitting · 18/07/2021 11:03

Big hugs to you sweetie, it must be so scary for you right now.

The hospital will take good care of your man. Have a gin 🍸on me and a bouquet of Roses 🌹

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icecreamgirl94 · 18/07/2021 12:22

Thank you everyone. know I keep saying it but honestly your kindness is overwhelming.
I’ve been to the hospital. I wasn’t allowed near him so couldn’t even hold his hand or give him a kiss which was really hard but at least I’ve seen him. I don’t think he knew I was there, he’s still on oxygen and there’s so many tubes but the staff were amazing and explained things to me. Obviously I burst into tears and said I thought they’d let me visit because he was going to die. They were honest and said he’s not good at the moment but he’s also not getting worse so I guess I have to hold onto that. It’s so horrible to see him like this, last week was awful but at least he was still “there” if that makes sense. He’s the last person I could ever see this happening to, he’s so strong, he’s over a foot taller than me and can lift me up on his shoulders, he looks like Harry Kane 😭
My lovely dad looked after DS and he’s filled up the paddling pool in the garden while I’ve been gone so I think we’re going to spend the day out here. Just hoping for any little positive sign today. I don’t think I can do another night like last night.
@MrsPerfect12 thank you for sharing another positive experience. It means such a lot.
@changingstages thank you so much for sharing. Do you have a link to your thread at all?
@FizzyPink thank you so much for sharing your story. That sounds exactly like DP, he was literally fine on Thursday, he went out with a mate, was picking DS up without much discomfort, you would’ve thought he was fine.
@Puffthemagicdragongoestobed thank you so much, I’m glad your dad has recovered. It’s great to hear about young babies and elderly people making recoveries. Surely a fit 27 year old should do too.
@kissmelittleass thank you. I’m really glad you’re feeling better now. Thanks for sharing a bit of long term experience with me. I don’t care how long it takes him to get back to himself I just want him to be ok.
@Ilikeknitting thank you so much for the gin and roses. My dad’s just gone to get ice cream as well.
Thank you so so much everyone ❤️

OP posts:
SunsetandCupcakes · 18/07/2021 12:38

I'm so pleased you have seen him, he is in the best place. There is always support here when you need it. I hope today is a little easier and that you get a positive sign before tonight.

sherrystrull · 18/07/2021 13:32

Bless you op. Enjoy the afternoon as best you can. Thanks

JackieQueen · 18/07/2021 13:39

So pleased you've seen him now op, hopefully he will improve more each day Daffodil

Lifeispassingby · 18/07/2021 13:49

Keeping everything crossed for you and your DP xx

FleetwoodRaincoat · 18/07/2021 14:06

Glad to hear that he's no worse, that's obviously great news. Keeping everything crossed for you.

KatherineJaneway · 18/07/2021 14:09
Flowers
Tistheseason17 · 18/07/2021 14:09

Thinking of you and sending positive thoughts

Kittenss · 18/07/2021 14:12

Thinking of you. Be kind to yourself and do whatever helps you to take your mind off things. X

Battleofwhocouldcareless · 18/07/2021 14:27

Thinking of you, glad you got to see him. Flowers
I had sepsis 14 years ago as a healthy 29 year old. Oxygen and IV antibiotics worked a treat and I was home in 10 days.

SRS29 · 18/07/2021 14:38

Just found this post OP, so sorry you're going through this...keeping everything crossed for you Flowers

Seiheiki · 18/07/2021 14:52

Hi OP,

I've had Sepsis 3 times. Oxygen and IV antibiotics and bags of fluids turned it around over a few days.

Have you ever had real proper flu? If you have, that fatigue that you get once you start to try to do a few things is how your partner is going to feel for a while when he comes home. Lots of pacing will be needed, and as healthy a diet as possible. Thinking of you all.

Frazzled2207 · 18/07/2021 14:58

What a horrible situation for your and your baby

I will keen you both in my thoughts.

Redsquirrel5 · 18/07/2021 15:02

I had a gall stone op and was found to have septicaemia when I went for surgery. I was 35 and DD was 6months old and being breast fed. I was only supposed to be in for one night after waiting nine months for surgery. I was in theatre for 5 1/2 hrs instead of 1 1/2 hrs and in hospital for about 6 days. I struggled when I came home and DH worked away but I had a couple of excellent friends who gave me lots of support and practical help. I was on oxygen too.
Once the antibiotics start working you should see a difference. I will keep him in my prayers.

LemonViolet · 18/07/2021 15:43

I hope your little one is having a nice day with grandad around, the paddling pool and ice cream, and that you can get some rest and look after yourself a little, it all must feel so surreal right now. Hopefully all these stories from sepsis survivors are a little heartening. Fingers and toes crossed for a favourable update later today for you. But whatever news, you will be able to get through tonight. Just do whatever you need to do minute to minute to get though.

Some other thoughts for things for your DP in hospital for when he’s on the mend, are some lip balm and hand cream/moisturiser - even if he is a tough cookie - hospitals tend to be very dry air conditioned places and things like that can make you feel more comfortable.