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DP in hospital. Reassure me he’ll be ok.

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icecreamgirl94 · 16/07/2021 23:42

DP had his appendix out on Sunday, home Monday and recovering well, posted a thread at the time which some people might have seen. This morning he woke me at 6 saying he didn’t feel good but he couldn’t explain how exactly. I thought he was just half asleep and painkillers were wearing off so I just cuddled him till he went back to sleep. Reading that back I’m aware of how stupid it sounds. When I woke up properly a bit later though he was sweaty and breathing funny. Now he’s in hospital and they’re saying it’s sepsis. I don’t understand how this has happened when he was recovering so well. He even went out and saw a mate yesterday. I’ve just been sat at home all day not knowing what to do with myself and waiting for news which hasn’t come. I don’t want to go to bed because he’s not there. Not sure I’ve even posted this in the right place I just wanted a bit of reassurance.

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MarmaladeToastAndAMarmaladeCat · 23/07/2021 18:59

That is amazing news op. I know I don’t you you or you dp but that has absolutely made my evening hearing he is home. Hope he continues to recover well!

Candleabra · 23/07/2021 19:09

Lovely news, so pleased for you x

Phyllidakettle · 23/07/2021 19:29

Lovely news, look after each other xx

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icecreamgirl94 · 23/07/2021 20:28

Thank you everybody 😭 He’s been fast asleep since 7 so he’s probably out for the night now. DS is wide awake and playing on the bed and he’s not even stirring! Obviously it’s been a busy day for him, coming home and finally getting some fresh air and seeing DS for the first time in a week which meant the world to him 😭 We’ve had a lovely chilled afternoon and both agreed to stop apologising for this week because that’s all we both keep doing! He’s in really good spirits despite everything but I think he’s just so glad to be home. No appetite and no energy, he had to stop twice on the stairs on his way up to bed and he says he feels 72 rather than 27 now! It’s so strange to think that just a couple of weeks ago we were watching England in the semi finals and I was up on his shoulders, now he can barely lift DS. We’ll get there though! He says he mainly just feels tired and cold and he has a constant stomach ache like he did when the appendicitis first started but the painkillers are helping the shooting pains from the kidney infection which should start to improve soon with the antibiotics. Appendix wound is healing up really well but he still can’t lay on that side or hold DS on that hip. Sorry I don’t know why I’m writing so much detail I just feel like I owe it to everyone for being so supportive.
I just wanted to say a genuine massive thank you. I know I’ve kept saying it constantly in here this last week but I really really mean it and I really need to say it properly now the worst is over. I’ve only been on this site since January and I’ve lurked on a lot of threads and seen how they can turn out so I was really worried about coming across as over dramatic and getting accused of being a troll trying to make a drama especially as I’d posted about DP being ill the week before. On Saturday night I was honestly convinced that he was going to die, I just had that sense of dread that I couldn’t shake. I dozed off for about an hour over night but spent the rest of the time sat up shaking and crying and trying not to break down completely while reading through all the amazing messages I got on here. It was the middle of the night and there were so many kind people (strangers for want if a better word) just letting me know they were there. I was so overwhelmed I couldn’t even reply at first, my step mum and sister were texting through the night too and I couldn’t reply to them either. I was going over in my head how to explain to DS when he was older why he didn’t have his lovely daddy anymore. I can see how ridiculous that sounds now but I’ve genuinely never been more frightened in my life, even though I’m hindsight I think we’ve been very lucky and DP has made an amazing improvement in a short space of time. Sorry for such a slushy and over dramatic post, I just really needed to say all of that. I promise to be far less over emotional from now on! But thank you all so so so much ❤️ xx

DP in hospital. Reassure me he’ll be ok.
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pegboardsu · 23/07/2021 21:02

Big hugs to you all.

HappyGoLuckyLuLu · 23/07/2021 21:12

❤️

Frasecam · 23/07/2021 21:27

So happy for you all 💕xx

harverina · 23/07/2021 21:35

Absolutely fantastic news!! I’m so happy for you both.

And I honestly don’t think for a second that you were being dramatic OP. You’ve had a really traumatic week and I think it’s only natural you thought the worst.

Honeyroar · 23/07/2021 22:10

Brilliant. I’m so glad he’s home. But watch him like a hawk, my husband was sent home too early twice and we ended up rushing back to A&E. Hopefully your husband will be fine, but just keep an eye.. (not wanting to rain on your happy day).

slowandsteady · 23/07/2021 22:35

I've been following this thread and just had to post to say how happy I am that he's home with you and on the mend. You've been super strong (even if you don't feel it at times) and should be so proud of yourself Thanks

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icecreamgirl94 · 23/07/2021 22:56

Thank you so so much everybody ❤️
@harverina thank you, that’s reassuring to know that I haven’t been too annoying!
@Honeyroar thank you and no I totally get what you mean. He’s under house arrest at the moment (not that he has any energy to go anywhere) and is being watched like a hawk. He’s slept all evening but I’ve just got in bed to cuddle up with him, temperate and breathing all normal and he looks lovely and peaceful 😊 Sorry you and your husband had to go through that, it must have been horrible.
@slowandsteady thank you for your message, that really does mean a lot.

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FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 23/07/2021 23:12

OP I'm so happy he's home I've been thinking about you.

Do me a huge favour and give yourself a massive pat on the back. You've been super through all this, he's a lucky guy.

Sepsis is wildly misunderstood and so easy to miss . I'm pleased this story has a happy ending.

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icecreamgirl94 · 24/07/2021 00:14

@FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop thank you very much, I still don’t fully understand it myself but a very helpful poster on here told me about the sepsis trust which I’ve been having a look at. Things definitely could’ve been much much worse and at least now I know what to look out for in future with anyone. He’s told me himself how lucky he is to have me, even though I’ve done precisely nothing, but he feels super guilty which is daft as it was hardly his fault. But it’s our 10 year anniversary next month so maybe he’ll propose to me 🙂 Thank you for your messages through this, I really appreciate them.

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TheDuchessofDukeStreet · 24/07/2021 02:40

So pleased for you 💐

UpHillandDownAle · 24/07/2021 07:51

Yay! What great news. Hope you’re able to find space to take care of yourself too.

rainbowstardrops · 24/07/2021 07:59

Great news that he's home!

Airplanes · 24/07/2021 09:09

So pleased that he's home. He will be exhausted for a while and need to sleep more than you'd think was possible. So glad you're all back together again

spiderlight · 24/07/2021 11:14

Yay - thank goodness he's home!! Ramble away on here if it helps. It will be a long old job getting him back to 100% - our friend who's recovering is still very tired and has a foggy head several weeks on, although he's vastly improved from how he was. Once his kidney infection clears he should start to feel much better.

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icecreamgirl94 · 24/07/2021 16:49

Thanks guys! Can’t believe people are still here being so kind! It’s so appreciated ❤️
Flowers delivered to the door this afternoon which he ordered yesterday 😭 He’s been sleeping again for a lot of today. I made frozen fruit ice lollies last night which were actually meant for DS to try but DP loves them and has had 4! It’s now a competition for who will progress to proper food first, him or DS 😁
@UpHillandDownAle thank you and yes I am, my step mum is a lovely cook and has brought food round for us and offered to take DS tomorrow but we’re going to wait and see as DP has obviously hardly seen him lately and wants to spend time with him now.
@Airplanes thank you, yes I tried to mentally prepare for how much he’d need to sleep but I’ve still been surprised. As someone else said though I’m looking at it as a good thing, giving his body a chance to recover and giving him a break from the pain.
@spiderlight oh thank you so much, I feel like such a bore but it really does help to just chat away on here. Thanks for sharing your experience as well. I hope your friend is fully recovered soon. Hopefully the kidney infection will start to improve soon as I think the discomfort of that is really taking it out of him.

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Groovee · 24/07/2021 22:39

So so happy to hear it. Remember to take care of yourself too. If people offer to have the baby accept it. You need to rest too. Huge hugs x

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icecreamgirl94 · 24/07/2021 23:56

@Groovee thank you 🙂 DP’s spent the evening chilling on the sofa with DS so my step mum will look after him tomorrow. I’ve told DP he needs to take things slow and not worry about not being able to play with DS properly at the moment. Think we’ll both spend most of tomorrow sleeping!

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SlimBoyFat · 26/07/2021 05:36

Glad he's feeling better - what a relief for you!

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icecreamgirl94 · 26/07/2021 22:23

@SlimBoyFat thank you! Small steps but he’s well on the road to recovery 🙂

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cantitbesimpler · 28/07/2021 17:34

So glad, OP - another one who has been following your updates!

And thank you for being emotional, it's so good to hear that this thread has helped you. That's what MN should be about.

Don't be surprised if it takes a long time before he's fully better or if you have a bit of a crash emotionally now. You've both been through a lot x

Candleabra · 28/07/2021 18:05

Don't be surprised if it takes a long time before he's fully better or if you have a bit of a crash emotionally now. You've both been through a lot

I was just popping on to say this. You'll have been running on adrenaline for ages now. Take up every offer of help, and don't neglect yourself. Lots of food and rest. Take care.