DP in hospital. Reassure me he’ll be ok.

[icecreamgirl94]

DP had his appendix out on Sunday, home Monday and recovering well, posted a thread at the time which some people might have seen. This morning he woke me at 6 saying he didn’t feel good but he couldn’t explain how exactly. I thought he was just half asleep and painkillers were wearing off so I just cuddled him till he went back to sleep. Reading that back I’m aware of how stupid it sounds. When I woke up properly a bit later though he was sweaty and breathing funny. Now he’s in hospital and they’re saying it’s sepsis. I don’t understand how this has happened when he was recovering so well. He even went out and saw a mate yesterday. I’ve just been sat at home all day not knowing what to do with myself and waiting for news which hasn’t come. I don’t want to go to bed because he’s not there. Not sure I’ve even posted this in the right place I just wanted a bit of reassurance.

Ah OP, that must have been so hard.
He’s going to need you to look after him when he’s home, so I’m going to put my bossy pants on now and tell you that your job right now is to look after yourself in each moment. Whatever nourishes, comforts, sustains or strengthens you- that’s what you need to do, so you aren’t exhausted when he needs you x

I am so sorry to hear this after last week. He is in the best possible place and will be getting the best care. Make sure you take care of yourself though as well! Sending you lots of hugs 🤗

FIL
had sepsis a few years back after surgery. He was fine but it was a scary time.

Best wishes Op, be kind to yourself

Just read your thread and wanted to add my voice to the many others here...I'm thinking of you and your little family this afternoon and sending all positive thoughts and best wishes to your DH but especially to you as it's hardest in many ways on those waiting at home for news of a loved one needing care. Be kind to yourself, you've done amazingly so far especially looking after a young baby too.

Thank you everyone I appreciate these messages so much. I can’t believe how many people have taken the time to be supportive it really does mean so much. My dad’s just left as he’s got work early tomorrow and I’ve dropped DS with DP’s parents for the night because they want to see him. Me and DP’s mum cried which made it all seem a bit bleak but we’ve given ourselves a slap and tried to pull ourselves together. I’ve decided to stay home on my own tonight so hopefully I’ll be better than last night and not end up a complete mess. Thank you so much for all the messages. I really don’t want to sound over dramatic but they’re helping more than any of you realise. This thread was literally my saviour last night.
@SunsetandCupcakes thank you so much. The support on here has just been incredible.
@Battleofwhocouldcareless thank you so much for sharing a positive experience.
@Seiheiki thank you. I’ve only had real proper flu once and I remember being totally wiped out by if. Thanks for sharing your experience. I don’t care how long it takes him to be properly better I just want him home where I can look after him.
@Redsquirrel5 thank you so much.
@LemonViolet thank you so much. The positive stories are helping more than I can say. DS has had a lovely day thank you, I’m just relieved that he’s too young to know what’s happening. Thank you, hand cream and lip balm are a lovely idea. He actually loves using my lip balm but he tells me not to tell anyone that!
@Alternista thank you, you’re absolutely right. I am trying to look after myself. I’m about to make myself something to eat even though I’m not really hungry. I just want him here so that I can start looking after him.
@neonorchid thank you so much.
@WaterBottle123 thank you for sharing another positive story.
@MWestie thank you so much. I don’t feel like I’ve done well at all so far but I’m trying my best. I’ve had a lot of support with DS so I can’t say I’ve even done great with him to be honest. I just want all 3 of us together again.
Thank you everyone. I know I keep saying it and it’s probably really boring but I don’t know what else to say. Kind of wish there was a bigger word because I’m so grateful. I’ve never been religious but the posters saying they are praying for DP are so so kind. Truly thank you ❤️

Not getting worse is actually a great start. With sepsis, if you can get to the point of stopping getting worse, then the odds of getting better improve enormously. Hang on in there.

@nocoolnamesleft thank you so much for saying that ❤️

Thinking of you and sending lots of good thoughts your way. I hope you manage to sleep tonight. Just take things one day at a time for now.

Wishing you luck hope dh is hone with you soon my ds had sepsis after being born at 33 weeks at just 2 days old he’ll be 7 next month just another story for luck

Sending you a hug OP, hope your dear husband is well soon xx

@Candleabra thank you so much. The night is the hardest part because I just end up checking my phone every minute. I’m scared to try and sleep incase I miss a call.
@Hm2020 thank you so much for another positive story. I’ve heard so many lovely ones this can only be a good thing.
@Hummusislife thank you so much.

Stay strong. Someone is always here on MN to get you through this time. Please make sure you look after yourself though as well xx

@neonorchid thank you so so much. I honestly can’t believe how much support I’ve had on here. You’re all amazing. Last night this thread saved me from completely breaking down. Really hoped I’d hear something positive before it got late tonight but looks like it’s not going to happen. I’m trying to tell myself that no news is good news.

OP please don't feel guilty, you should be proud of yourself - you've been an amazing wife and mother and I admire your bravery through all this.

Please keep us updated

His body will be fighting the infection and once they've matched the right antibiotics and pump them into him it should help

Think of it as in he's in healing mode so all his Energy can fight it. I've had sepsis and it takes it out of you

Can you see him tomorrow? Is he in high dependency or icu?

@FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop thank you so much that’s such a kind thing to say. I don’t feel brave at all to be honest I feel like a total mess! Hoping more than anything that I’ll have something positive to update soon.

@Lotsalotsagiggles thank you for sharing that. Other people’s positive experiences really do help. Nothing’s been said about seeing him tomorrow yet, I was hoping for a call with some sort of update today but it hasn’t happened so I’ll phone in the morning to see if I can see him again. He’s in ICU at the moment.

I'm wishing you all the best, OP. He's in absolutely the best place for him, and it sounds like you're doing a wonderful job supporting him while he's there.

@Nancydrawn thank you. I feel completely useless but everyone’s telling me I’m doing ok so thank you so much.

Really hope you get some positive news tomorrow/soon. But for now, for you, your baby, & DP's sake you should try to sleep. You will wake up if your phone goes I'm sure so you should rest when you can now so you don't make yourself unwell!!!

You're being amazingly strong, hang in there

Hi OP, another one checking in with a handhold. My late partner had Sepsis & ended up in ICU, it was touch & go & I'll never forget the stress but as others have said once they get on top of it it's a strong road to recovery (do not read anything into the 'late' bit - she died of something completely unconnected much later.)

I know it feels near impossible right now but try & look after yourself, he will be home before you know it & you'll want to care for him, if you let caring for yourself slip now you'll be in no fit state to do that. Consider that caring for yourself right now is part of caring for him, if that makes sense. Love to you & your little one

@HappyGoLuckyLuLu thank you so much you’re absolutely right I know. I’m going to finish what I’m watching then try and settle down for the night. Thank you for being so kind.
@MrsCalypsoGrant thank you so much for your message. I’m so sorry for the loss of your partner but thank you for sharing your experience with me. What you’re saying makes perfect sense. I’m really trying to stay calmer tonight and hopefully get some proper sleep. Thank you.

The only experience of sepsis I have had was my mum. Two years ago at the age of 82, already frail and crippled with osteoarthritis she had sepsis along with a perforated stomach ulcer. After an op where she was given a 5% chance of surviving she was pumped full of antibiotics and made a 100% recovery. Hoping for good news for you in the morning.

Good morning, hoping you’ve been able to get some rest.

Good morning Icecreamgirl, hope you’ve had a restful night.
Please don’t reproach yourself for not having acted sooner. When Mr Duchess was ill with Covid, I put out three 999 calls for him and by the third, felt I should have pushed for him to go in sooner. I would have sold my soul for some oxygen to give him. Thankfully, once he got into hospital and on c- pap, he rallied.
I’m so glad you got in to see your partner yesterday and had a relax in the garden with your Dad and Dc. Your Dad sounds lovely! My thoughts and prayers are with you. X