DP in hospital. Reassure me he’ll be ok.

[icecreamgirl94]

DP had his appendix out on Sunday, home Monday and recovering well, posted a thread at the time which some people might have seen. This morning he woke me at 6 saying he didn’t feel good but he couldn’t explain how exactly. I thought he was just half asleep and painkillers were wearing off so I just cuddled him till he went back to sleep. Reading that back I’m aware of how stupid it sounds. When I woke up properly a bit later though he was sweaty and breathing funny. Now he’s in hospital and they’re saying it’s sepsis. I don’t understand how this has happened when he was recovering so well. He even went out and saw a mate yesterday. I’ve just been sat at home all day not knowing what to do with myself and waiting for news which hasn’t come. I don’t want to go to bed because he’s not there. Not sure I’ve even posted this in the right place I just wanted a bit of reassurance.

Woke up thinking of you- hope today brings good news x

I got a call from the hospital late last night to say he’d woken up asking for me! 😭 It was only brief and they said he was confused and disoriented, didn’t know where he was or anything and he was asleep/unconscious again soon after but I feel like this must be a step in the right direction. After hearing that I’ve actually managed to get a proper night’s sleep which has been a massive help. They’re going to let me know if he comes round again and if he does I should hopefully be able to see him again.
@IthinkIsawahairbrushbackthere wow that’s an incredible story, thank you so much for sharing it. Your gran sounds incredible.
@TheDuchessofDukeStreet thank you so much for being so kind and sharing your experiences. I’m so sorry you had to go through that, it sounds horrifically stressful. So many lovely people have come on here and told me I did act quickly and do the right thing but I think I’m just one of those people who beats themselves up. It’s that he told me he wasn’t feeling well and I didn’t act straight away. Even when I woke up again to his weird breathing I asked him what he was doing before realising something was wrong. Thank you, my dad really is one of the best people I know. It was him who got DP to the hospital with the appendix last week so I think he definitely deserves a treat when this is hopefully all over. Thank you so much for checking in.
Thank you everybody. Hopefully I’ll have another positive update soon.

That's a great update, I'm really pleased for you.

Please stop beating yourself up, every time you do just remember how unfeeling I am that I even thought my partner was faking. I told him about this thread so it has renewed his piss taking of my stone cold heart. You saw that something was wrong and got him the help he needed. You do not have a frozen heart like me

Great update OP. He's on his way back, it'll just take time for his body to heal.

I arrived at my late partner's flat & she was yellow with jaundice. She was reticent to getting the doctors in involved, looking back I should have dialled 999, in the end it was the next day before I acted & she got much sicker because of the delay. I used to beat myself up about it but you just have to tell yourself that you made the decision that felt right at the time. Hindsight is a marvellous thing. And in any case, you did act & he is on the mend. I'm glad you got some sleep 👍🏻

You are being so so hard on yourself. Your DP is an adult and unless he was unconscious he still has full responsibility for knowing himself how unwell he feels. You are treating it as if he was 3yrs old and that you somehow 'should' know better than him about illnesses, like a mother with a small child. Hopefully all will be well and wishing you the best.

aw that's really good to hear that he briefly woke up and asked for you! I can't see how that's anything other than a good sign.
Hopefully he will do so again soon. Surely all the medicines they're giving him would send him away with the fairies for quite a while while they do their work. Fingers crossed that he turns a corner in the next day or two.

That's a positive update. Im keeping everything crossed for you x

New to this thread and have no experience with sepsis but just wanted to say am thinking of you, your DP and your DS icecreamgirl and I'm so glad he came to even if briefly. Here's to more steps towards a full recovery!

Also this may be the nicest I've ever seen MN as a whole - what a wonderful bunch you all are

I’m glad you got slightly better news last night.

I’m sharing my story to give you hope - even though it involves a much older man with underlying health issues which ultimately got the better of him.

But here is my dad’s story; he had a series of strokes, some minor, some major. He had a catastrophic one and was in a deep coma. GCS of just three on arrival at the hospital - the most severe brain injury - and fitting constantly. He was in his deep coma for many, many weeks, never once moving off GCS 3. One day I visited him and and he replied to me when I spoke. Just one word, but he told me he was fine.

A few weeks later he woke again - for a good few hours - and was able to chat lucidly with the whole family, fully aware and articulate.

My point is - being unconscious gives the body time to heal, it is not always a terrible position, and the human body and brain are, frankly, remarkable.

I wish you and your DH many more moments of consciousness till he fully sealed and comes back to you.

This happened to me. I had appendix out and was sent home. I developed sepsis and needed a second operation to fit a pelvic drain as there was so much infection. I was back in work after 3 weeks. Scary - but just to reassure you I was in the same boat.

@Airplanes haha your posts make me laugh, thank you! I’ll try to keep telling myself that I don’t have a frozen heart 🙂
@MrsCalypsoGrant thank you so much for sharing your experiences. You’re right hindsight is a wonderful thing. I’m just trying to be positive about the future now.
@sadie9 well to be fair he did tell me he wasn’t well and I told him to go back to sleep and he was pretty much unconscious when I knew something was wrong, but thank you for being blunt I really do actually appreciate that 🙂 Whatever the wrongs and rights I can’t change it now I just need to think positive. Thank you for your message.
@Frazzled2207 thank you so much. Hopefully things can only improve from here.
@neonorchid thank you I really appreciate that.
@StartingGrid thank you so much. I’m so so grateful for the kindness. I’ve not been on the site that long but I’ve seen how some threads go and fully expected to be told to pull myself together or get off mumsnet and look after my child. Had my opinion totally changed now.
@CormoranStrike thank you so much for sharing your story. Your dad sounds absolutely amazing and your way of looking at things is so positive. Thank you.
@Bulldoglady89 thank you so much for sharing another positive story. I really really appreciate it.

Thinking of you, op, and hoping you get good news soon. You are being brave whether you think so or not. Amazing.
( This thread is mumsnet at its best 😪)

Thinking of you and your dp. Echoing others that you should in no way blame yourself. I had appendicitis a couple of years ago and DH found me passed out on the sofa downstairs. He thought I’d just had a stomach bug when I was being sick all night and left me to it. He felt so bad when he found out how ill I was but there is no way he could have know and I don’t blame him at all. I made a full recovery from it.

My sister was also very unwell with sepsis after her son was born and she is fine now. Sepsis is such a scary word but so many people recover and your dp is in the right place and has his age and fitness on his side.

Hope you are doing ok today op

That's a positive update for sure OP!

@icecreamgirl94

Thank you everyone. know I keep saying it but honestly your kindness is overwhelming. I’ve been to the hospital. I wasn’t allowed near him so couldn’t even hold his hand or give him a kiss which was really hard but at least I’ve seen him. I don’t think he knew I was there, he’s still on oxygen and there’s so many tubes but the staff were amazing and explained things to me. Obviously I burst into tears and said I thought they’d let me visit because he was going to die. They were honest and said he’s not good at the moment but he’s also not getting worse so I guess I have to hold onto that. It’s so horrible to see him like this, last week was awful but at least he was still “there” if that makes sense. He’s the last person I could ever see this happening to, he’s so strong, he’s over a foot taller than me and can lift me up on his shoulders, he looks like Harry Kane 😭 My lovely dad looked after DS and he’s filled up the paddling pool in the garden while I’ve been gone so I think we’re going to spend the day out here. Just hoping for any little positive sign today. I don’t think I can do another night like last night. *@MrsPerfect12* thank you for sharing another positive experience. It means such a lot. *@changingstages* thank you so much for sharing. Do you have a link to your thread at all? *@FizzyPink* thank you so much for sharing your story. That sounds exactly like DP, he was literally fine on Thursday, he went out with a mate, was picking DS up without much discomfort, you would’ve thought he was fine. *@Puffthemagicdragongoestobed* thank you so much, I’m glad your dad has recovered. It’s great to hear about young babies and elderly people making recoveries. Surely a fit 27 year old should do too. *@kissmelittleass* thank you. I’m really glad you’re feeling better now. Thanks for sharing a bit of long term experience with me. I don’t care how long it takes him to get back to himself I just want him to be ok. *@Ilikeknitting* thank you so much for the gin and roses. My dad’s just gone to get ice cream as well. Thank you so so much everyone ❤️

I should have put a link to the thread in my post, what an eejit - it's here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4283113-Sepsis-I-need-some-positive-stories-please-please-please?msgid=108610486

I'm keeping everything crossed for some positive news for you today.

Our friend who's in his 60s had sepsis a couple of weeks ago following a kidney infection. It came on really fast (so don't beat yourself up for not realising what was happening when your DH first wokr you), and he was very very poorly for a few days, but he's home now and well on the road to recovery. He's a bit tired and foggy (or he was when we saw him last weekend) but he says he's improving a bit every day. Hopefully your DH will be the same. Waking up asking for you is a good sign.

That’s such good news! 💐
I’m sending you a lucky black cat!

Have been following your thread OP. So glad you had a better sleep last night. It’s so important that you look after yourself too, and getting a decent sleep will definitely help.

Hope you get some more good news soon.

Have they mentioned your DH’s infection markers?

How are things today? Hope DP, you & DS are all doing ok!

Thank you everybody. Sorry I’ve not had a chance to check the thread since this morning, my sister took me out for the day and DP’s parents have been round for the evening dropping the baby back. Spent all day waiting for the hospital to call which they finally did about 8 this evening. DP has been awake and more lucid tonight! 😭 Still very weak but more aware of his surroundings and if he has a good night I can go and see him in the morning. He texted me an hour ago! Literally a couple of words but I cried. Hopefully he’s over the worst and this is the start of proper recovery now. Thank you all so so so much for all your kind words and support and I am so sorry for being such a complete mess on here. I still am but I think that’s mainly relief now. Hopefully I’ll be able to speak to him properly tomorrow. I’ll let you all know how he is when I’ve seen him. Thank you again everyone ❤️
@Amdone123 thank you so much. Praying the worst is over now.
@MarmaladeToastAndAMarmaladeCat thank you so much for sharing your experiences. I really appreciate it. I’m sorry for what you went through with the appendicitis but it’s comforting to know I’m not the only partner to get it wrong. DP has never had a stomach bug before so he didn’t know the pain he was in wasn’t normal.
@changingstages thank you so much for sharing the link, I’m going to read it now.
@Needapoodle thank you so much.
@spiderlight thank you so much for sharing. Fingers crossed DP will be home now soon.
@TheDuchessofDukeStreet thank you for the cat! Much appreciated.
@harverina thank you so much. Family have been great at looking after me and I’m feeling a lot more positive after today’s update so should hopefully sleep well again tonight. Infection markers were mentioned when I was at the hospital but to be totally honest it went a bit over my head I just tried to take in what they were giving him and why. Sorry I know that’s really unhelpful. Is that something I should be asking about tomorrow?
@HappyGoLuckyLuLu thank you for checking in, that’s really kind.

@icecreamgirl94 that's really good progress, sepsis can be a bit slow to recover from but it sounds like he's on the up and up and receiving great care.

You're doing really, really well

That's great news !

Ah OP, this sounds like encouraging news. Keep hanging in there sweetheart, you're doing amazingly 💐

Brilliant. Def sounds to me like he’s over the worst and starting his recovery now. I hope you get to see him properly tomorrow.