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My husband died 2 days ago

197 replies

ghostmouse · 10/07/2021 10:27

Mr Mouse sadly lost his short battle with cancer 2 days ago.

I am absolutely heartbroken and lost and missing him so badly.

Will this pain ever stop?

OP posts:
PegasusReturns · 10/07/2021 10:28

I’m so so sorry.

Try and take some small comfort in your love for each other.

HorseGallopingOnATomato · 10/07/2021 10:29

I am so, so sorry for your loss. I remember your previous threads. Sending all my love to you and your family. We are always here, day or night, on MN to support you through this.

1fluffydoodle · 10/07/2021 10:29

Such sad news ... thinking of you

FiveGoMadInDorset · 10/07/2021 10:29

Oh lovely, it is so raw now for you all. Two years in for me and still get overwhelmed and tearful at random moments, you do learn to love with it ❤️

RosieLeaLovesTea · 10/07/2021 10:29

So sorry for your loss. The pain will ease over time although in the middle of grief it does not feel that way. I hope you have got family and friends around you for support. Sending hugs and strength.

Cheermonger · 10/07/2021 10:30

I’m so sorry. We could see how much you loved him and that will have been comforting for him. My thoughts go out to you x

Biscuitsneeded · 10/07/2021 10:30

So sorry to read this. I followed your story. Sending you strength.

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 10/07/2021 10:33

oh you poor thing, I'm so sorry for your lossFlowers

I can't link it but Google "ball in box grief".
it's the perfect analogy of how the pain changes over time.

CloudsOfCeonothus · 10/07/2021 10:35

Oh ghostmouse Sad I'm so very sorry. Life has been very unfair to you & it's all happened so fast.

You've been on a massive rollercoaster with so much happening & only just got married. I did cry when you described Mr Mouse's face when you walked in.

Pause & learn to re-breathe. Be gentle with yourself & surround yourself with whatever & whoever you need to get through this hardest bit. Thinking of you xxx

Pansypotter123 · 10/07/2021 10:35

So very sorry to read this update. I too have been following your story. Sending you heartfelt love and much sympathy (I lost my husband to cancer several years ago) xxx

TheSparkling · 10/07/2021 10:36

I'm so sorry for your loss. My husband died two and a half years ago. I can assure you it does get a little easier, but the pain of grieving is horrendous for a long time. There isn't a way to avoid it. I hope you have people with you and looking after you right now.
Be kind to yourself and take it one step or even one breath at a time. Xx

Pansypotter123 · 10/07/2021 10:37

Can I ask how old you are, you May wish to consider joining WAY - widowed and young -
www.widowedandyoung.org.uk

Xx

EatingAllThePies · 10/07/2021 10:39

I'm so sorry to hear this. I have been following your posts. I wish there was more I could do to support Flowers

HelenUrth · 10/07/2021 10:40

So very sad for you. Its very early days but yes you will learn to live with your terrible loss. Perhaps right now just take it a day, an hour or even a minute at a time rather than looking too far into the future. I hope you have plenty of support around you. My heart goes out to you.

Crockof · 10/07/2021 10:41

I am so very sorry, its so bloody shit and unfair. Sending you all love.

hlc123 · 10/07/2021 10:41

So sorry for your loss

InteriorDesignHell · 10/07/2021 10:42

Another vote for WAY. A friend lost his wife to swift, late diagnosed cancer (at Christmas) and they were really there for him.

Mogloveseggs · 10/07/2021 10:42

Oh I'm so sorry Flowers

Hippywannabe · 10/07/2021 10:43

I am so sorry x

FuckingFabulous · 10/07/2021 10:44

I can't offer any advice. I'm just deeply sorry for you and your children, and for poor Mr Mouse, who was taken cruelly and prematurely. Xx

ChakaDakotaRegina · 10/07/2021 10:46

I’m so sorry for your loss Flowers

EKGEMS · 10/07/2021 10:47

My deepest condolences to you. Sending you hugs.

30degreesandmeltinghere · 10/07/2021 10:47

So sorry for your loss.

jessycake · 10/07/2021 10:49

So sorry for you x . There is a saying "Grief is the price we pay for love " and its true . It will be a long and bumpy road and a little bit of you will have changed forever , but it will get easier , just not yet for a while .

beigebrownblue · 10/07/2021 10:52

So sorry for your loss. Please look after yourself. Drink water.