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My husband died 2 days ago

197 replies

ghostmouse · 10/07/2021 10:27

Mr Mouse sadly lost his short battle with cancer 2 days ago.

I am absolutely heartbroken and lost and missing him so badly.

Will this pain ever stop?

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mommathatwearspink · 11/07/2021 23:24

I’m so sorry Flowers
Sending lots of strength at this sad time x

AgathaMystery · 12/07/2021 00:35

Oh Mouse in so so sorry.

I don't know what to say. I've been thinking about you all week wondering how you were all doing.

Much love to you xxx

caringcarer · 12/07/2021 02:00

Love like starlight never dies. Don't do more than you can cope with. Get/accept help with children. Go as slowly as you need to. You are still married. Focus on getting through 1 minute at a time. In the beginning every moment is tough and in the beginning you will be offered lots of help. Take it while it is offered. After a while less help might be offered. I hope you have good family and friends around you. Over time the bad memories of seeing Mr Mouse in pain will fade but the good memories remain.

episcomama · 12/07/2021 04:11

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Mumdiva99 · 12/07/2021 04:36

I'm so sorry for your loss. Life is shit sometimes.

Stormystar · 12/07/2021 06:49

I'm so sorry. No words, it's just heartbreaking. Sending you strength at this difficult time xx

Oldowl · 12/07/2021 06:58

Sending you lots of love. x

ablutiions · 12/07/2021 07:15

My condolences @ghostmouse . The speed of this all must be so hard to deal with. You are surrounded here by people who care, and some who have been there. Take some solace and comfort from then and lean in when you need it. Thanks

LFH1990 · 13/07/2021 17:22

Oh Mrs Mouse, this is so sad and I’m so so sorry, I can’t even begin to imagine how awful it must be for you. Of course you are still married and he will always be your husband, I’m sure that will have helped Mr Mouse, and I hope in the future it will help you as well. Be kind to yourself and take your time with the process xx

Fourmagpies · 13/07/2021 20:06

I'm so sorry. I read your previous threads and was wondering how you were getting on. My mum was the same age as you when my dad passed away. She went on to remarry (twice!) and was happy but never forgot my dad and he was always her big love.
Take each day as it comes, nothing is more important than you and your kids at the moment. Flowers

popcornlover13 · 13/07/2021 20:16

I'm so sorry Thanksthinking of you xxx

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ghostmouse · 13/07/2021 23:26

Thank you all so much. I've had a crappy day today, I arranged the funeral and that was hard

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MrsCalypsoGrant · 13/07/2021 23:38

Hello Mrs Mouse,

I was just catching up on your wedding thread - I posted good wishes on there having read your first thread (I didn't contribute to that as didn't feel I had anything useful to say.)

To be honest I feel just as useless now, but I suppose there's not really anything anyone can say that will really help to take the pain away. You did everything a wife could, try & take pride in that. I hope you have good support around you. Lean on that when you need to. I'm sure people will want to help.

You will always be his wife, he will always be your husband.

The sun will come out again one day, even though it's hard for you to believe that now.

Take care, thinking of you Thanks

WitchDancer · 14/07/2021 09:53

Thanks Arranging a funeral is so hard, making everything feel so final somehow. Well done for getting through it.

I wish there was something meaningful I could say, but words escape me right now. All I can do is offer a hand to hold 🤝

Oldtiredfedup · 15/07/2021 16:25

So so sorry. I had followed your other thread and had hoped for more time for you.

Huge hugs

Rainbowsew · 15/07/2021 17:27

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RedRocketGirl · 15/07/2021 17:49

Oh @ghostmouse I'm so sorry to see this. I was just thinking of you both this morning remembering your post about getting married.
There is nothing I can say right now to help but I really do feel for you. He was clearly loved and cherised by you and I'm sure that must have meant the world to him.
I send you a huge big virtual hug from one stranger on the internet to another. Please be kind to yourself, although I can't promise that it will magically get better any time soon, it won't always be this raw.

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MintMatchmaker · 15/07/2021 18:44

I’m so so sorry for your loss Flowers

Theluggagerules · 15/07/2021 20:10

I am so sorry for your loss. Nothing I say will make it better but at least he knew how much he was loved, and so were you. That will be a comfort later on down the road. For now, be kind to yourself and let others help you

Rowgtfc72 · 15/07/2021 20:16

So so sorryFlowers xx

indecisivewoman81 · 16/07/2021 18:04

I'm so sorry to read this. I followed both your threads; everything has happened so fast you must be reeling.

Take all the offers of support you can get x

SquigglePigs · 16/07/2021 18:11

So sorry for your loss. You are most definitely still married. Try to focus on happy memories, not just the end, and let them be what you hold onto. Flowers

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