Is it rude to do this when invited for dinner?

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I often bring my own bottle of fizzy drink when going to someone else's house for dinner.

There's been a few situations over the years where I just don't know the host enough to know if they'll have a fizzy.

Anyway, I'm off to MIL's for a dinner tomorrow night and H questioned me in the car, saying 'Oh you're not bringing a bottle of drink are you? People must feel really uncomfortable'.

I said I am! It's what I like to have with my food. He just looked very

Am I really rude to do this? Is it some unspoken etiquette? If it helps, I don't announce it's for sharing but I do always say 'Got this with me, you're welcome to some' to the person standing by whilst I put it in the fridge

I think it's okay. I'd have soft drink options for people coming to dinner but I wouldn't be offended if someone brought their own preference. Some people look to be offended, I think

Thank you @MrsHuntGeneNotJeremyObviously

If I discover people already have a soft drink I'd usually just have that! But often people don't have anything - Just alcoholic wines, beer, gin etc

One host once offered me some 'Indian tonic water' as a substitute t'was not nice

I think it's strange, like you are addicted to it and can't go an evening without! If it was catering for a special diet or allergy that would be fine.

I think it's strange, like you are addicted to it and can't go an evening without

Sounds suspiciously like the majority of people at dinners - But with alcohol!

It's fine! Can't imagine what frame of mind I'd have to be in to find anything offensive in that.
I guess you might get different reactions if it was fluorescent pink Panda Pops vs Belvoir sparkling pressé (even though they're not that different! )

I am always happy for guests to bring a drink they would like.

It’s fine, I know people who take decafe teabags and their own milk around with them, I’d rather my guest was enjoying their meal.

Well I wouldn't care.

I like to be asked if someone wants to put shit in my fridge though.

Puzzled how husbands granny got a war widows pension when he died in 1960.on top of state pension

I think it is weird you are bringing it for yourself, can you bring a bigger bottle (or 2 bottles) to share?

The way you phrase it sounds you are reluctant to share/throw it in the group

I wouldn't take offence. But I'm not up my own arse.

No one would bat an eyelid if you turned up with six bottles of wine or a crate of beer. But god forbid you turn up with a bottle of tango.

It sounds quite a normal thing to do to me.

@ChubbyLittleManInACampervan

I think it is weird you are bringing it for yourself, can you bring a bigger bottle (or 2 bottles) to share?

The way you phrase it sounds you are reluctant to share/throw it in the group

I do bring a big bottle, a 1/2ltr one

would you take enough to share op?

I always saw guest bringing a bottle as a contribution to the communal meal/ thank you to the hosts, rather than a personal drink. I think if you are bringing your own drink for you, you should bring a contribution for the table as well.

Hi I think I know you.

Are you my husband's friend's wife who always brings a large bottle of diet coke. And has diet coke in the car as well. I don't think it's rude but a bit strange? Is it really necessary to drink fizzy? Just drink water or whatever they are offering with the meal.

I would probably try and remove this habit before it become too ingrained.

I would be silently offended if an adult with no unusual, specific needs brought something so basic, for their own consumption.

Wine is a luxury item, so it's nice if guests bring some for the house. It would be very weird if they brought a bottle of wine for themselves.

I assume that anyone accepting an invitation to my house is confident that I will provide everything necessary for the meal. I would take your action as an obvious dig at my catering!

I wouldn’t mind but I would think you were a bit odd in the sense that you absolutely have to have it, to the extent that you take some places.

Is it a particular fizzy drink or anything fizzy?

I wouldn't care if you brought it here, but I'd drink water if there was nothing but alcohol where I was a guest, although if I'm not drinking water would be my choice anyway.

It does feel a bit rude, like pointing out that they haven't catered adequately, so I wouldn't do it, but wouldn't be offended if someone did it to me.

It's a bit why taking wine is viewed as offensive - you're suggesting the host won't have a drink you like and so hasn't thought of your needs. I wouldn't think it through that much and wouldn't be too bothered. But I imagine it is the reason that you have offended some

I wouldn’t mind one bit. But id judge, in the same way I judge omnivores who can’t have one dinner without meat, or people who drink alcohol who can’t go one dinner without booze. If you’re being hosted, it’s about the company rather than the food, so in my books it’s about being gracious to the host. Bringing your own food or drink is a bit “I couldn’t possibly enjoy myself at your house without this”, whatever the “this” is.

I wouldn't want you looking in my fridge so that would bother me. The drink? not so much.

Is it really necessary to drink fizzy? Just drink water or whatever they are offering with the meal.

Is it really necessary to drink wine? People drink it as they enjoy it. I don't like alcohol Beyond the odd WKD

Wouldn't bother me. Not everyone drinks alcohol and its best to have something you actually like instead of the host assuming you'd love a glass of non alcoholic wine or beer.

seems childish and pernickity