Youngest mum whose parents didn’t know at 11...

[Breastfeedingworries]

I’m so shocked by this article!!

Apologises if this has already been posted about.

Does anyone else know anything else about this? I hope her rapist will face justice. Why is it reported she’s a young mum! She’s 11, when she had sex. It’s disgusting. Horrified by this. :(

www.leicestermercury.co.uk/news/uk-world-news/11-year-old-girl-becomes-5579935?fbclid=IwAR1f-Abx0qIwCZIJ84bgAxo0mnLcgVnAdCUSCFMV9GdRL9OCZdbDeNQvDqs

She didn’t have sex, she was raped. It says the council and social services are investigating, the police should be as well. I know that pregnancy can present differently in children, but a responsible adult would have noticed something was wrong, I hope the child and the baby are now being cared for properly.

@SleepingStandingUp oh absolutely I would. Having said that by the time I got her in to my GP she would probably be a grandmother never mind a mother.

@Suzi888

How a five year old could carry a child to term with nobody knowing is utterly beyond me. Horrendous situation for that poor child, I can’t imagine what she has been through. Heartbreaking.

Well. If the parent(s) knew about it then they would have had some extremely awkward questions to answer...

Don't think I can say more, I expect this to be deleted.

@NeverNotChasingDreams

Tressa Middleton I think her name was, she gave birth at 12 and told a social worker about her brother when she was 14 which was when they removed the child and had it adopted. She told her story as she ended up a heroin addict after, to be honest I cant blame her, 5 years of abuse then her child snatched at adopted and all whilst she was a young child. Its so sad.

You mean “10 when she was raped”
But is it rape if he's also 10? Does it make a difference if he's two weeks younger Vs 2 weeks older?

And yy to safeguarding issue, possible parental neglect, the father needs tracing and appropriate legal action taking

I’m just so upset at how the article is worded, truly awful reporting and wording. She isn’t a mother, she’s a child! She should be still watching Disney and going to soft play. Wtf. It’s very unsettling how they compared the other child victims too. I can’t imagine what the poor 5 year old has gone through! How it’s even possible.

I used to think dd on contraception at 14/15 not 10! You couldn’t imagine that being a risk that young.

@Soubriquet

If two ten year old children had sex I would be extremely concerned about two things:-

How on earth did they know about sex

And

How were they alone enough to be able to have sex

Most 10 year olds will know what sex is

Also 10 year olds are often unsupervised with their friends! I don’t think it’s common for parents to worry about leaving children alone together in case they have sex. Most 10 year olds are pre-pubescent.

Poor child i hope she gets the professional help she needs.

I suspect a family member.

@Tinysalmonswimminginastream

We can't jump to the conclusion that a much older person raped her. What if she was in a relationship?

Huh?

the other person could have been a child of a same age, who called each other bf and gf. Lots of parents give kids honest answers to how babies are made. The idea that 10 year olds have no idea how sex happens is a little naive

@Soubriquet most ten year olds will definitely know what sex is. It’s taught as part of PSE in Year 5.

Oh bless her. It must have been absolutely terrifying for her.
It’s heartbreaking.

The solution to this isn't putting 10-year-olds on birth control. The solution to this is safeguarding and teaching children about consent in an age-appropriate way so that 10-year-olds do not get raped, and in the horrifying circumstances where this happens, they have safe people to talk to and do not fear repercussions.

It's been said repeatedly on this thread: this girl did not have sex, she was raped. I think it's irresponsible that this is even in the press. I read Tressa Middleton's book a few years ago and what happened to her was utterly devastating.

A girl at my school was pregnant at 14, she was very petite and she didn’t know she was pregnant until she was about 30 weeks, she’d never had a period and the baby was quite high up under her ribs so her bump only popped out quite late on.

I agree with you OP the way this story is being reported as if its some sort of achievement is just beyond fucking stupid, it made me cross too.

I'm also incredibly dubious that it was a similarly aged peer. The fact this wasn't discovered until she actually had the baby makes me very doubtful.

@SleepingStandingUp
It is possible the “father” is also a primary school age boy but sadly, it’s more likely that she has been abused by an older male.
If you consider the statistics on ten year olds having sex with each other with the statistics of children being sexually abused by older people, it’s much more likely to be the latter.

@lubeybooby

The poor love. Bet it will turn out to be a family member. I hope she is believed, gets a lot of help and time to heal and whoever raped her is put away for a very long time.

How the actual fuck can she not be believed, the baby is pretty indisputable evidence.

@Soubriquet

I saw this too and was horrified

I don’t think she even consented (if that’s what the parents are saying). I think she was just raped

That poor child

She was 100% raped

@TSSDNCOP

It feels very wrong to call this child a mum. She is a child who was clearly raped. The entire experience must have been horrific for her. Where the hell are the adults in her life that 30 weeks of pregnancy on a 10 year olds frame could be unnoticed?

I completely agree. I just cannot comprehend having a child of that age and not noticing she was pregnant. My daughter is 12 and there is no way on earth that I wouldn't have seen.

There are some serious questions to be answered by the family here.

Poor girl. My heart just breaks for her.

@Soubriquet

If two ten year old children had sex I would be extremely concerned about two things:-

How on earth did they know about sex

And

How were they alone enough to be able to have sex

My 10 year old DD's best friend is a boy. When she goes to his house to play I have no idea how much his parents supervise what they get up to or how much they are left to themselves by his siblings, but it would never in a million years cross my mind that anything like this could happen if they weren't fully supervised at all times.

The wording in these articles (and some of these comments) is horrific. She didn’t have sex, she is a victim of abuse. People falling over themselves to believe that she must have been complicit somehow, that she may have had a boyfriend or could have consented (even though she actually couldn’t).

Rape culture through and through.

Her poor baby is evidence of her abuse and her case should not be in the papers as a salacious ‘Britain’s youngest mum’ headline.

This poor girl didn’t “have sex”, she was raped. Possibly by someone in her family/household, given that most of the past 15 months this country has been in lockdown so there’s a strong chance it’s someone very, very close to her, she needs to be protected from them.

I hope she’s getting all the support that there is available to her right now and this is being properly investigated.

@SleepingStandingUp

You mean “10 when she was raped” But is it rape if he's also 10? Does it make a difference if he's two weeks younger Vs 2 weeks older?

And yy to safeguarding issue, possible parental neglect, the father needs tracing and appropriate legal action taking

No.

If a fellow ten year old raped her, that would be a massive red flag for the fellow ten year old.

In safeguarding, it's fine to talk about 'normal'. In fact, it's quite important to keep hold of a sense of 'normal'.

It is not normal for a ten year old to be exhibiting such sexualised behaviour at that age.

They have almost certainly been exposed to inappropriate adult sexual behaviour if they do.

There is no way two ten year olds are developmentally secure enough to pursue a mature, sexual relationship.

@cashoncollection

The wording in these articles (and some of these comments) is horrific. She didn’t have sex, she is a victim of abuse. People falling over themselves to believe that she must have been complicit somehow, that she may have had a boyfriend or could have consented (even though she actually couldn’t).

Rape culture through and through.

Her poor baby is evidence of her abuse and her case should not be in the papers as a salacious ‘Britain’s youngest mum’ headline.

Agree re the article. But those people saying she might not have been raped are talking about the other person being the same age. If neither child can consent are they both guilty or rape / sexual abuse? No one seems to be suggesting she could have consented to someone older

Unsurprisingly the 2 journalists who wrote this article are male.

Of course not catfromjapan, but my question was if they CONSIDERED themselves to be in a relationship, and both believed they knew what they wanted to do and both believed they were making a choice, what is the legal standpoint? I think one of the other families mentioned in the article the parents were slightly older but still below the age of consent.