@Nightbear
Get to fuck with your ‘not all men.’
How many women have been murdered by their current or former partners this year? How many women have been murdered by men who were strangers to them because they happened to cross paths with them?
This is male violence.
I put a not all men reference in my post, not because I am protecting the reputation of men, but because I think the similarities in all these stories are frightening, and ,what is more , the similarities are cross cultural, and additionally involve all class and economic demographics . Somehow all of us, particularly women and girls, need to be educated to recognise the techniques, the isolation, the possessiveness, the jealousy , the obsessive behaviours, the spitefulness. How can we teach young, and not so young women to recognise red flags and safely ask for help, how can we teach other men to recognise them too, and respond to them so that they can support their daughters, sisters, nieces, cousins and friends . And importantly , how can we teach young women to raise their self esteem and lower their social anxiety so that they are less vulnerable to the conniving, manipulative men who prey on them.
Of course we shouldn’t have to be finding ways to safeguard against these monsters, it stinks of victim blaming, but these vile people are at large, are in our world and are targeting vulnerable people.