If you are one of three children...

[Onetwo3456]

...do you feel you had the attention and resources you needed from your parents, and are you glad to have your siblings or not?

In terms of holidays and money, things were thin on the ground but we never really seemed to notice I guess? Parents were always on a low wage so no trips abroad anyway. Grandparents live in Wales and Scotland so used to go there for holidays.

Yes. I was the eldest. Youngest was apparently unplanned. My parents had a very unhappy marriage and so family life at times was awful but I always had my siblings and we're all pretty close now. Wouldn't have been the same with just two of us.

I hear you @thenewduchessofhastings

I still feel so guilty about the fact that I once shouted, "I hate you" at the youngest when I was changing her nappy and she had been crying for two hours straight

But that's what happens when you leave a 12 year old in sole charge of a baby all evening (my other 2 siblings were at boarding school). I actually adored her and never shouted at her again. I didn't even really mind babysitting; I was just overwhelmed, but there is no way I could have told my DM that I wasn't going to do it.

There was the golden child.

Then there was one with testicles, these apparently were golden.

Then there was me, unliked if we are being honest by either parent despite being the first born.

My sister has them bang to rights and we get on extraordinarily well, my brother and I get on really well, but he won;t criticise the narcs that they clearly were.

My father died, two years ago and seemingly( post funeral it came out), I annoyed him (all my life it would appear)

I have a working relationship with my mother, because I don't want any fall out between my siblings whom I love dearly and they me.

I persist because I am in line for 33 and 1/3 of the estate if it doesn't go on nursing care and I bloody earned it.

The mental abuse, the physical abuse (back of the hand) a beating once from my father that would have me in care these days.

I am holding out for 1/3.

I can pass myself off to her on a day to day basis, but I have her measure good and proper.

The Christmas the estate is sorted,(if there is anything left) I will stay in the top hotel in my home city, somewhere she always aspired to and I will take great pleasure in spending it.

Eldest of three girls - massively toxic situation

Adore the middle sister - she hates everybody else and only speaks to me. She in nit valued despite being the best, funniest, most genuine person in our family by some way.

Youngest sister is a proper narcissistic little bitch who has sucked my parents dry in every way. Bullied my little sis relentlessly and I have never forgiven her.

I am the eldest and still not allowed to step out of line, whereas shit behaviour is expected of the others!

It’s all very draining and as soon as my parents pop their clogs I will only be bothering with my little sis

No I'm the youngest and definitely grew up with q vibe from my siblings of why was you even born?

Yes, I definitely had everything I needed. I’m not super close to my siblings but I love them and I’m very glad they exist. We had lots of fun as children and I remember we confided a lot in each other when we shared a room on family holidays. My mum was a saint for looking after us as she did with very little help.

No I'm the eldest who very quickly became the second adult at a very young age due to relationship break ups and spent most of my childhood raising my siblings.
Now I have a strained relationship with the middle sibling but I have an amazing relationship with the youngest. Needless to say my relationship with both my parents is also strained very much an I love them but don't always particularly like them.
My childhood though has made me into a much better parent than my own I've certainly avoided history repeating itself.

It's been said before but I'm middle. I was neglected. I'm far more resourceful, string minded and independent than my siblings.
Might be genes might be nurture

We are very different. I have two.

They are very different. One is resourceful and one is introvert. I give them equal time now but I know in their adult life, my time will be eaten up by my introvert.