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Can somebody hold my hand whilst I take a pregnancy test, I'm terrified

194 replies

Plzholdmyhandforamin · 01/03/2021 21:41

My period is 6 days late, I have a certain type of discharge, period like cramps but different to actual period pains (I had this with DS before I tested positive) my boobs are so sore and I'm ridiculously thirsty.

I didn't connect the dots until I checked the calender and realised how late I am.

I can't have another baby for so many reasons.

Lack of space
My mental health is shit
My eldest is disabled and wouldn't cope with another baby
I almost died giving birth to my youngest and have PTSD from that.

I would have to abort but doing so would just about finish me off, I've always been against abortions where my body is concerned (but fully support other women's rights to make decisions about their own)

I was taking precautions but clearly not enough.

OH has gone to the small Tesco extra down the road to buy a test.

Please hold my hand I'm terrified

OP posts:
mxmxm · 01/03/2021 21:43

[hand holding] here at the ready for you ❤️

Luffsmypup · 01/03/2021 21:43

Holding your hand.
Deep breaths, don’t panic.

needadvice54321 · 01/03/2021 21:44

Right here x

User1511 · 01/03/2021 21:44

❤️ I hope it’s negative OP x

Dollywilde · 01/03/2021 21:45

Here with you darling.

Positivelysober · 01/03/2021 21:45

Holding your hand x

ApolloandDaphne · 01/03/2021 21:46

We are here for you whatever the outcome.

PeopleAreAllWeveGot · 01/03/2021 21:47

Here for you x

OhToBeASeahorse · 01/03/2021 21:50

Hand hold right here OP

Plzholdmyhandforamin · 01/03/2021 21:57

It's positive

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TokenGinger · 01/03/2021 21:59

I'm so sorry, OP. Take some time to come to terms with it and try not to worry too much tonight or tomorrow about next steps. Just take some time to get your head around it xx

needadvice54321 · 01/03/2021 21:59

Oh op, sorry Sad

Anotherdayanotherdollar · 01/03/2021 21:59

Sorry to hear you didn't get the result you hoped for Flowers

Brunt0n · 01/03/2021 22:00

Here for you 🖐
There are ALWAYS options
It’ll be okay, promise

wheresmycrown · 01/03/2021 22:01

❤️ op x
I'm sorry it's not the answer you were hoping for.

No need to make a decision today. Let it sink in a bit and sleep on it. Make the decision with a clear head x

TokyoSushi · 01/03/2021 22:03

Small steps, it sounds like you're still very early, so you have options Flowers

Positivelysober · 01/03/2021 22:03

I'm sorry it's not the result you wantedFlowers

Malteser71 · 01/03/2021 22:03

That was quick

Neverspeakofthisagain · 01/03/2021 22:04

I'm sorry OP.

I'm sure you are off having a good cry and I don't blame you.

Somehow, things will work out. Will your OH support you in your decision?

Neverspeakofthisagain · 01/03/2021 22:06

@Malteser71

That was quick
It was quick, but it would take me about 180 seconds door to door, to get a pregnancy test from where I am sitting at home. Two minutes to pee and a couple of minutes to wait for a result.
AngelDelightUk · 01/03/2021 22:06

Hope your OH is being supportive. You can deal with this x

User1511 · 01/03/2021 22:08
Flowers
Plzholdmyhandforamin · 01/03/2021 22:10

It says 3+ weeks

My last period began on 25th Jan

OH %100 does not want more children, nor do I but the prospect of a termination is gut wrenching.

To the PP who said that was quick, cheers for that. He was already on his way to the shop when I posted. Please don't goad me I cannot be fucking arsed.

OP posts:
Plzholdmyhandforamin · 01/03/2021 22:12

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Can somebody hold my hand whilst I take a pregnancy test, I'm terrified
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Plzholdmyhandforamin · 01/03/2021 22:13

OH is just sat in silence

I asked him to say something and he said he just doesn't know what to say.

He's useless in high stress situations he just clams up.

Not what I need right now.

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