*Explicit sexy stuff*. Don't open and whinge that it's about sex because you have been warned

[ChristmasSexyTime]

I posted in the sex topic before (under a different name) and had some pervy guys write to me so I'd rather just post in chat, I want some practical advice from actual females!

So here's my issue... Sometimes, during sex, if I'm not getting anywhere, my DH will place my hand on my ladybits so I can DIY it. I'm always on my back when this happens.

This is all well and good but I actually don't get off that way. I always masturbate on my front ('humping' my pillow for want of a better word). Thing is, we've been together for a while now and I haven't demonstrated because I'm worried that it looks really frickin weird. (I'd have to have my back to him so that would be really antisocial) .

Anyhoo, three questions:

1. straw poll - does anybody else do it this way? Or am I the weirdest woman in the world?

2. How, after all this time do I casually bring up that the way he thinks I do is not the way I actually do it?

3. If you use this method, do you do it in front of your partner? I don't know but to me, it seems odd.

This isn't the sort of thing I can bring up in real life with anybody and the Internet is not helping. So any advice would be super appreciated!

I have done but it’s not my usual position. When he starts to move your hand, can you keep hold of his hand on yours and move into the position you prefer?

I used to do this when I was a young teenager exploring but haven’t for about 15 years

I have machines that do it for me now usually whilst relaxing in the bath

Use a vibrator during sex if you don't want to do it the usual way? I don't think your way would work well with couple sex tbh! Unless he's doing you from behind which would possibly put you off your stroke!

*Let me guess...you haven't been here long enough to post in the "sex" section?

And, you want us to share with you how we get off, yes?*

Nope. Re-read my first para. There's always one!

I'm very surprised the internet isn't helping with that tbh

I'm just hoping you wash your pillow often and robustly.

I don't mastirbate in my front (althiugh has got me thinking!)
I deffo DIY it whilst we're having sex though infront of dh. I fint it really good for me and get turned on doing it while dh can see!
Could you do it when he's doing you from behind and see his reaction?

I don't think your way would work well with couple sex tbh!

Yeah, that's my feeling too and it's clearly (from his actions) something he's seen before or is expecting to see!

I like @EagleFlight's suggestion and might think of a way to work that in.

*Clearly NOT something he's seen before, I mean

@Vampirethriller

No, I think the Internet (generally) seems to assume that all women masturbate in a porny way, I.e. In a way that can be displayed.

@MacDuffsMuff

I'm just hoping you wash your pillow often and robustly.

😂

Is it a green one like that girl in 'You'?

Plenty of grinders around, Christmas.

Makes bad tv, though, so it's not in porn as there's nothing for the male gaze to see.

Efficient, though.

Agree with vibrator. Get a little bullet. It’ll do the job for positions where you aren’t able to get into your position. I love using mine because it makes getting to climax much faster and means I can have multiple orgasms in one session, rather than working towards that “just one” if you know what i Mean

Really? I don't believe that.

It's not odd to tell your partner what works for you sexually. That is the key to a good sex life. Show him how you like it and what gets you off. There is no bigger turn on than seeing your partner get pleasure.

I’m now wondering how people wash their pillows in a robust way

I think all of the women have hidden the sex topic :o

females?

Could you lie on top of him instead of the pillow?

females?

Yup, not hairy handed men, having a wank at my expense by trawling the sex topic.

Problem with that?

The bullet sounds like a really good idea, thanks @Strivari. That could definitely help. God I'm so awkward.

@Vivariumvivariumvivarium I think that's one of the reasons why I think it's so odd. You never see it. I've only seen it once on TV/film and that was in Secretary, a film with Maggie Gyllenhaal in.

I prefer this way for masturbation and did used to involve my an ex partner in it, it was a long time so my memory of exactly how we did it and where he placed his hand etc is hazy but I was definitely on my front and I don’t recall it being awkward or him finding it weird.