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I posted in the sex topic before (under a different name) and had some pervy guys write to me so I'd rather just post in chat, I want some practical advice from actual females!

So here's my issue... Sometimes, during sex, if I'm not getting anywhere, my DH will place my hand on my ladybits so I can DIY it. I'm always on my back when this happens.

This is all well and good but I actually don't get off that way. I always masturbate on my front ('humping' my pillow for want of a better word). Thing is, we've been together for a while now and I haven't demonstrated because I'm worried that it looks really frickin weird. (I'd have to have my back to him so that would be really antisocial) .

Anyhoo, three questions:

1. straw poll - does anybody else do it this way? Or am I the weirdest woman in the world?

2. How, after all this time do I casually bring up that the way he thinks I do is not the way I actually do it?

3. If you use this method, do you do it in front of your partner? I don't know but to me, it seems odd.

This isn't the sort of thing I can bring up in real life with anybody and the Internet is not helping. So any advice would be super appreciated!

Could you lie on top of him instead of the pillow?

Good suggestion @Raera I'll have a think about how this could work. Would worry about crushing him though I'm not very big but I use a lot of force

Thanks @BillysMyBunny that's reassuring in lots of ways.

I wish I wasn't so stuck in my ways but it's been the way it has been since as long as I can remember. No other way really works effectively. But it's rubbish for involving somebody else in, be good if I could find a way.

This is going to sound odd but I trained myself to get off on my back!
I used to self pleasure on my front as a teen then when I became sexually active, I realised this wasn’t the best way to involve a partner.
Just kept practicing on my back solo and viola... I now can’t get off on my front lol 😆
Have some fun on your own first is what I’d suggest!

I can’t work out why any bloke would bother with the Sex topic when there’s an entire internet full of X rated material to wank over.

I second the idea of a vibrator. However I think a lot of men would get off on seeing their partners enjoying themselves in whatever position that entails.

I’m now wondering how people wash their pillows in a robust way

Mine get washed frequently, but unsurprisingly, lose their shape quite quickly So I bin mine and buy new ones every six months.

The Percy guys would find you here, too, as would certain newspapers.

Pervy!

yep definitely normal method - just keep him inside you but from behind , wedge pillow underneath and move that way - combo sex and masturbation

This is going to sound odd but I trained myself to get off on my back!

This is exactly what I need to do. It will be the best thing in the long run but my body just isn't up for re-wiring . But I reckon I'll buy a few toys and force myself to change

It depends on which type of orgasm you’re trying to achieve surely. Clitoral stimulation isn’t always the way that women masturbate, though it tends to be in porn videos. Some women who have an easier time getting there from gentle penetration / a different sort of pressure may have an easier time as you do op, laying on their front.
Ime you can learn to orgasm several ways for your own pleasure, but it takes time. However it could be a new string to your bow
There are all sort of new tricks to be learnt with the right person.

I can’t work out why any bloke would bother with the Sex topic when there’s an entire internet full of X rated material to wank over.

I know! It's utterly bizarre. I don't know whether it's wall to wall men in there but when I posted before (over a year ago and on a different subject), I just got men replying on a variation of 'would love to do that with you'

Could you do it on your side, and grind against his hand/or thigh whilst kissing/touching?

Would it work if you use his knee/thigh to grind against instead?

1. I understand this is a pretty common technique.

2. don't feel embarrassed. He hasn't aaked you, in all this time, what you would like or what would get you off, so it's not like you've been fibbing to him. You could go a few ways - you could just say 'can I show you what I like?' with a smile, or just show him, or you could say it over text ( do you ever sext?). It would be great if he were to ask or you were to tell him what you'd like him to do to help.

3. i dont use that method but I do use my method in front of my partner and vice versa.

I'd just tell him. In my experience men will be happy to do whatever it is that gets you off. No matter how weird you may think it. Just tell him you were masturbating recently and had the best orgasm ever, so want to try it that way with him.

I don't understand your way works fine if he is behind you on his knees. You have bigger problems if you can't express your needs!

You have bigger problems if you can't express your needs!

I think with everything else, I'm pretty candid. But with this... I guess it's my lack of exposure to other women masturbating in this week. It feels a bit freakish so I've got an oversized paranoia about it.

But this thread is really helping actually. There are quite a lot of us out there by the looks of things!

Get a bodywand

You could be hanging from the ceiling and you'd still get there in under a minute.

I user to do it like that but since hitting 40 now so it the more, errr visible way

Can you put your pillow under your bum when on your back and then initiate swapping positions and “discover” you like it that way. Then you don’t have to have a cringey conversation!

Just say you want to change position. If you’re not getting anywhere on your back, switch it up so you are getting there.

poundland (oh lol !that just whole new meaning)has bullet vibrators usually.that are way better than the shop thats not on high street anymores...i think at the point youre casual enough to be intimate,saying,wait-i wanna do this face first ..shouldni be real issue.?

No comments on the actual issue but yes I noticed the frequent perve factor in the Sex topic. On the plus side it keeps them all there I guess.

I do it the same way so your not alone. I often is a vibrator but lay on top of it