What's the oldest "acceptable" age a man can father his last baby?

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What do you think? 39? 52? 65? How old would a man have to be when having his last child for you to think "that's a bit old isn't it?"

I guess same can be asked for a woman actually? What's "acceptable"?

None of my business. But my partner was 51 when our little girl was born

It depends on how rich he is

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Our friend was 62. My dad 47. DH 40 when Ds1 arrives. Seems normal to me to be a bit older.

arrived not arrives.

Honestly I think the actual age is leas of an issue than whether they have grandchildren etc.

A relative is always complaining as her dad barely sees her children. All because he met someone and had kids that are half the age of hers.

So he’s almost at retirement age and having to be full-time parent to preschoolers.

I think there are too many variable factors to give an age for that - it will depend on a case by case basis. Eg. Fit and healthy? Stressful job or not ? Finances ? Access to wider family support ? When is an ‘acceptable’ age for anyone to have a baby??? Can’t answer it !!

DH was 47 when DS was born.

My Pa was 56 when my DBro was born.

Depends on the man and family circumstances I suppose. Is he fit and healthy, how are the finances, does he want to be a dad...

For context, my DH late 40s and we are contemplating more children. I'm late 30s. I just don't want people to look at us like he is their grandparent or for people to comment behind our backs.

I know it shouldn't bother me, but it does.

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Depends on the man and family circumstances I suppose. Is he fit and healthy, how are the finances, does he want to be a dad...

This. My BF's husband was 57 when their first and only child was born. Child is 10 now and he is retired. It seems to work for them.

I’d say 45, I think it’s a bit selfish to have children when you’re older than that.

Meant to add, DH had children from his first marriage, so DS12 has brothers who are in their mid 20s and 30s.

At an age where he has a reasonable chance of being alive to be there until she’s an adult. I know there are no gaurantees but having lost a parent young I’d want to at least have age on our side

I’m hoping there’s a prize for the correct answer.

DP was 42 and we felt that was fine. So I’m going for 59!

Rod Stewart springs to mind

45, when taking into account sperm health and health life expectancy. Maybe older if in excellent health. I went to uni with someone whose dad was 50 when she was born. He was 71 when she finished uni and in very poor health. She was juggling a lot and I really felt for her. I think parents have a responsibility to try and stick around in good health for as long as possible (lots of caveats here obviously- bad things happen unexpectedly, and I'm not saying that those with chronic illness shouldn't have kids).

50-ish, I guess. For women, your body tells you when enough is enough.

DH was 46 when our DD was born, we probably won’t have a second but he’d be 48/49 if we do.
I think before 50 is “normal”, probably 55+ would seem older to me.

My great grandfather was 82 when his wife had their last child. She was a lot younger. Completely weird but apparently not that weird in the part of Ireland he was in.

I'd say 40 would be the cut off. But everyone is different and I'm speaking from my own personal experience of losing both parents by my mid 20s. My parents were 51 and 66 when they died.

I guess the key question is about the person's health and fitness. Some people are 50 but more like 40 year olds because of the lifestyle they lead. You can't really compare an extremely healthy person who exercises every day to a couch potato who lives off chips with their only exercise being the walk to the fridge.

I know not everyone has a good relationship with their kids when their kids are adults but from experience of having lost parents before I was a settled adult, I'd want to live till my youngest was at least 30. You can't really plan though. Anyone can die early.

I dont believe there is any set age for the man however its worth thinking about how a child would cope with an older parent along with the fact they won't get as much time with them. My Dad had his last child, my brother at 45, he then suffered a stroke at 60 when my brother was only 15. We really thought we were going to lose him and it was incredibly difficult for my brother. Thankfully he did pull through and is still with us 15 years later.
My best friend wasn't so lucky. Her father died when she was 21 leaving behind her and her 2 younger sisters 16 and 12. I know its awful to lose a parent at any age but to not even finish your childhood with both parents is so sad.