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Children’s choice of clothes - bad taste!!!

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Divebar · 26/10/2020 07:27

Yesterday we were shopping and saw that Schuh were having a sale so went in. I was interested in some boots for DD8. I would probably have chosen DMs or biker boots for her. DD came over and said “ I’ve seen these trainers and you’re probably going to hate them” - she was right. Pale pink Fila trainers with the chunky sole. I do hate them. She was obviously disappointed that I wouldn’t get them which made me feel a bit shit. I fully appreciate that as she gets older my opinion about clothing choices will be much less / non existent but how much of her clothes now do you think should be governed by her taste? Obviously Christmas is coming and I may buy the trainers in black or buy biker books which we’d both probably like. My question is not really about what I should buy but how you manage these differences in taste as they get more interested in clothes & fashion.

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Scarydinosaurs · 26/10/2020 07:28

She is 8. I would let her pick.

Cloverforever · 26/10/2020 07:30

How would you feel if she made you wear clothes you hated?

Russell19 · 26/10/2020 07:31

She is her own person....

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missyB1 · 26/10/2020 07:31

My ds is 11 and we negotiate when clothes / shoe shopping. I too him to H&M the other day I did say no to one very garish hoody that hurt my eyes! But he was allowed to choose another less offensive one, then we both agreed on a pair of jeans. Shoes I tend to just buy for him because he’s never not liked any that I’ve chosen, and it’s important to to get ones that will do what they need to do.

NaughtipussMaximus · 26/10/2020 07:31

Yes, agree. Let her pick. Don’t get her the same ones in black, ffs.

If she needs black boots for school, explain that and again, let her pick, as long as they’re well made and you can afford them.

Ickabog · 26/10/2020 07:31

She's 8, let her pick her own trainers. Why do you care so much about the colour? They're for playing in, and will likely be covered in mud and scuffed up in a matter of weeks. I find it odd that you're so controlling over what she can wear. 🙄

OrangeGinLemonFanta · 26/10/2020 07:32

Why would you buy black trainers when she likes pink? My DD wants everything she wears to be covered in rainbows and unicorns which is not to my taste either. She's the one wearing them, so long as they're not stupidly impractical or covered in offensive slogans I don't see the problem.

NavyBerry · 26/10/2020 07:33

How to manage? Trust? If it matches your purpose (weather/school/walking/dancing) then let her choose

PhylisPrice · 26/10/2020 07:33

Oh bless her, buy the shoes she likes if they are practical and you can afford them. My mum used to (and still does) tell me how much she absolutely hated my choice of clothes and it made me feel like shit all the time!

Sara2000 · 26/10/2020 07:33

I'd let her pick, but only if it was the type of shoes I felt she needed. Ie, if you went in for boots then maybe trainers weren't needed. Wait untill they're 15 OP Grin . Dd went out in white fishnet tights ,a tennis skirt and red DMs the other day. The skirt was skimming her bum. DH and I just looked the other way.

MrsRobinsonsHandprints · 26/10/2020 07:33

She isn't your fashion accessory. I have seen your name around so I assume this isn't a windup. Let her choose what she puts on her body, I thought by 'bad taste' it was going to be a crop top with 'touch these' written on it, that's bad taste, wanting pink trainers is just different taste.

BuffaloCauliflower · 26/10/2020 07:34

At 8 I would let her choose, within the boundaries of something actually appropriate (so not flip flops if she needs wellies) beyond that, should be her choice.

ClassyRodent · 26/10/2020 07:34

I would have let her have them unless it was specifically boots you were shopping for for a reason and she didn't need trainers.

I let my 4 year old choose what he want for his down time clothes. If I decide we're out to buy wellies, then he can't choose trainers but he could have any wellies he wanted.

thebear1 · 26/10/2020 07:35

Unless the item was not practical so say not waterproof when I was looking for waterproof shoes I would let dc choose. One of mine wears mostly black, the other is covered in characters. None of it is my taste.

Wolfiefan · 26/10/2020 07:35

She’s not a baby. You don’t get to dress her. Buy her the trainers and apologise.

drspouse · 26/10/2020 07:37

My DS is 8, we buy the clothes, he chooses which ones to wear and how to combine them. If he wants to use his pocket money to buy a Minecraft t-shirt he can. If ditto Fortnite then no.
We are the purse string holders and have some say over his purchases (only if not suitable)
If we buy something expensive he won't wear we will learn our lesson! He doesn't wear jeans but will wear the stretchy ones, so any thoughts of him looking cool in Gap jeans would be a waste of money.
I wouldn't buy pink trainers on grounds of practicality TBH.

NerrSnerr · 26/10/2020 07:37

Why are the black ones better than pink?
You say they're 'bad taste', what if it's your taste that's bad?

Frdd · 26/10/2020 07:37

Why are you so controlling of what she wears? She’s 8. If they’re for day to day wear (ie not posh lunch with granny or a wedding or similar) why does it matter?

EdwardCullensBiteOnTheSide · 26/10/2020 07:38

I thought it was going to be about really short skirts and crop tops and I was going to agree, but pink trainers? Yabu

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 26/10/2020 07:38

As clothing goes, pink trainers on a youbg girl are pretty inoffensive.

My 9yo is going through a black phase. We've negotiated to include other dark colours such as dark grey, navy and burgundy. I didn't overly like the pink glitter phase, but I sort of miss it now.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 26/10/2020 07:38

This is so sad.;8 year old girls are allowed to prefer tacky pink trainers to on-trend (for right thinking adults) sturdy black boots. Can she not have sensible shoes for school, and the pink ones for home?

Are you worried people will think you chose them?

Peanutbutteryogurt · 26/10/2020 07:38

Yes I think she should be able to pick. I think biker boots and DM are quite ugly, not everyone has to like them. Not sure why your like of them is more valid than her like of pink trainers.

lazylinguist · 26/10/2020 07:41

As lomg as her choices are not impractical or inappropriate, I don't really see why your fashion taste should override hers tbh.

AriettyHomily · 26/10/2020 07:41

My daughter has pink DM boots and white and pink Fila trainers 🤷‍♀️

NerrSnerr · 26/10/2020 07:42

*My question is not really about what I should buy but how you manage these differences in taste as they get more interested in clothes & fashion.
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I didn't answer this. As long as the clothes are appropriate for climate and not too old for her she gets to follow her own fashion. You wear what you want- wear your own biker boots and DMs and she wears whatever fashion she chooses. She is her own person, not as extension of you.