Children’s choice of clothes - bad taste!!!

[Divebar]

Yesterday we were shopping and saw that Schuh were having a sale so went in. I was interested in some boots for DD8. I would probably have chosen DMs or biker boots for her. DD came over and said “ I’ve seen these trainers and you’re probably going to hate them” - she was right. Pale pink Fila trainers with the chunky sole. I do hate them. She was obviously disappointed that I wouldn’t get them which made me feel a bit shit. I fully appreciate that as she gets older my opinion about clothing choices will be much less / non existent but how much of her clothes now do you think should be governed by her taste? Obviously Christmas is coming and I may buy the trainers in black or buy biker books which we’d both probably like. My question is not really about what I should buy but how you manage these differences in taste as they get more interested in clothes & fashion.

MissyB1

Well an important point of being a parent is to allow our children to develop their independence and exercise choice. If we hold the fact that we pay for everything over them for ever then we will
prevent them from growing up and being able to express their independence. Of course affordability comes into it but a degree of choice is important. We don't have kids to control them surely? Like a dead hand.

I was a teenager who made her own clothes and dyed my hair and changed its style every which way. My very traditional Mum respected me enough to enjoy my individuality and I do the same with my DC. I love it!

Because OP pays for her dd’s clothes, dd does not pay for OP’s clothes.

Not rocket science is it?

Of course she does. She is the parent. Paying for her child's clothes is a bloody expected minimum. Most parents don't assume that paying for your dc's clothes means you are entitled to total control over them, though (the op, give her her due, does not seem to think that). Is it beyond you to understand that, or is it a little too much like 'rocket science'?

@Divebar

You have to expect your tastes to diverge at some point

I agree. I would expect to have no influence at 13 but 8?

I accidentally called a specific shirt a "party shirt" and from that point forward (aged 2, now 4) my child only wants to wear that shirt so yes, at 8 they will have their own style tastes and wants. Bad taste is individual preference. You will sadly have to compromise. Also, New York Governor Cuomo mentions that if you say you don't like something to a child, they will immediately say it's their favourite thing so I'm not even more weary of saying I dislike something than like something!