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My life is completely fucked

218 replies

Blanketyblanket · 12/08/2020 22:30

And I’m at the stage now that I’m just giggling at the entire ridiculousness of it all. So far this year

  • my marriage has broken down, I have become a single mum and stbxh is showing no interest in the kids that he asked me to destroy my career to raise
  • I have found out stbxh has spent a 5 figure sum on prostitutes during the last 3 years but has also been earning 5 times what he told me he was
  • stbxh has installed either spyware on my phone or spy cams in the house as he is aware that I slept with someone a couple of nights ago
  • the man I slept with a couple of nights ago (who has been lovely to me for months despite me making it very clear I wasn’t after a relationship) blocked me about an hour after sleeping with me
  • my children have gone completely feral during the last 5 months of school
  • I have found out today that I have more abnormal cells on my cervix despite having half of it burnt off a few weeks ago
  • it’s dc1’s birthday on Friday and I’ve got him hardly anything and don’t have time to get him anything without him also being there
  • my best friend has post party’s psychosis and has been sectioned as she was threatening to mill herself. She is convinced her family want her dead as they were the ones who requested the assessment that resulted in her being sectioned so I am the only person she wants to communicate with
  • my dm kindly took the kids for an hour this morning so I could have a swim and clear my head and I got bitten by a cunting seal

I don’t know what to do. I’m drinking gin at my kitchen table right now and alternating between giggling at the complete wreckage of my life and sobbing.

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KickAssAngel · 13/08/2020 22:29

If cunting STBXH joins you for the day then that's the perfect time to remind him that his job is in your hands and he'd better play nice about the child support or you'll be telling the police and his mum about him.

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Blanketyblanket · 13/08/2020 22:30

And I can’t even cry about it to my friend because she’s already gone mad.

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Blanketyblanket · 13/08/2020 22:32

Thanks frostty but the last person I made friends with ended up being sectioned.

I’ve not been eating which is amazing as I haven’t even noticed but I’m now a size 10 for the first time since I was 21. So there are some silver linings.

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Sierramike · 13/08/2020 22:34

Your friend had postnatal psychosis? It does happen, she's in the right place at the moment.

LesleyA · 13/08/2020 22:36

Oh my word you’re having a hectic time but if you don’t mind me saying you have an hysterical sense of humour. Ignore that you’ve been blocked and look forward to having someone who is going to absolutely relish spending time with you and lucky guy you are so witty

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Blanketyblanket · 13/08/2020 22:38

Yes postnatal psychosis. It’s so upsetting to see her like this. I never know what she’s going to be like when I answer the phone - sometimes she’s completely her normal self then she’ll call me back half an hour later in absolute terror because she’s convinced the nurses are trying to kill her baby.

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Bonnieb168 · 13/08/2020 22:49

I’m sorry you are having such a awful time OP. Just a thought but if you ex has spyware on your phone could he have maybe contacted this guy you were with and scared him off? Just seems a bit odd/ too horrible that he blocked straight away! Or maybe I’m just naive and that’s just how things are done these days and he really is just a complete t**t! If that’s the case you are well rid! Hope you are ok and managed to get some bits from Sainsbury’s for tomorrow!

Clearthinking · 13/08/2020 22:49

One of my best friends has phycosis, she will (and most people on here) burst out laughing about that cunting seal!!! Raising a glass x

whatisheupto · 13/08/2020 22:52

OP given how unhinged he is, I think it's really possible your STBXH bombarded your new man with crazy texts/ photos.. and maybe even made it look like they were from you? Or contacted him and told him lies about you? It just doesn't seem right. Or... sorry if this is too much.... but set him up to the whole thing from the outset? To upset you?

Fred578 · 13/08/2020 22:52

Jesus Christ mate... the list was bad but then I got to ‘bitten by a cunting seal’ 😳 the only way is up from here hopefully. I’ve been there with the burnt cervix - not fun at all. Fingers crossed things improve

Teensandfuture · 13/08/2020 22:53

OP, let your phone be checked by IT person, I wouldn't be surprised if ex's in your phone somehow, got the new guy number and somehow made him to back off.

backseatcookers · 13/08/2020 22:55

I don't even know if this is healthy but literally ever post you write shows hutzpah and gallows humour. The right people in your life with LOVE that about you. We do! Don't lose sight of that - it means you are a resilient and brilliant person. I hate people calling me brave in shit times because I feel anything but, but it's a badge of honour I want to learn to wear with pride. You're going to be ok, I just know it. Life is a cunting seal sometimes, but you can be a seal trainer Grin

Vodkacranberryplease · 13/08/2020 22:55

God how awful. I had a friend have a psychotic episode in a country where almost no one spoke English. Fortunately one guy did and managed to wangle her enough Valium for me to get her on a plane. That was the end of that exotic holiday. She's recovered now of course. As will your friend.

As for mr boring you really need to shame him into telling you what's going on. Could he be a plant from the ex? Otherwise he's been threatened off and I think you need to know. If he's on linked in he won't have blocked you there, or Facebook maybe? If he's not a guy you just met he fucking owes you some kind of answer.

But size 10. Go you. Time to get back out there I think. Now that will piss the ex off. Just make sure he's big. And not easily scared. In fact the type of man who your ex might well find difficult to deal with.

Squidwitch · 13/08/2020 22:58

Just think of this month as the crest of a shit rollercoaster, your life will only get better. Life and people do this, every crisis and crap thing happens at once, but you ARE coping! After this, you'll be emotionally the strongest person you know. X

HathorX · 13/08/2020 22:59

You should write a book about your life and self-publish it. You have lost a lot, but not your sense of humour.

Sorry your life is really messed up. I hope it doesnt get any worse.

I've literally never heard of anyone being bitten by a seal....

whatisheupto · 13/08/2020 23:30

Also change your Mumsnet username and password!!

YourObedientServant · 14/08/2020 07:27

The boring guy was someone who wanted to get laid and made that his goal, saying anything he needed to and pretending to be someone in order to facilitate it. Utter prick. Absolutely nothing to you with you and how you look and what you were like in bed. Uurgh. I could slap him. I would have to track him down and have it out with him in real life because there's no way I could let that lie Blush but I can't handle the blocking/ghosting culture anyway. It's horrifically painful.

You are coping so well with everything. My good friend does not have psychosis but other serious mental health issues, her life is a car crash, and it's hard to be there for her at times. Totally understand how draining it is. She will ask about how I am and I can talk to her but I don't want to burden her, and the things I'm moaning about (DH left his pants on the floor!) feel like a total pisstake of the many truly terrible things she's dealing with...

Did you get DS birthday sorted? He'll be happy with mine coins and a fuss being made over him.

Get phone checked by IT or new phone. Also get rid of any Alexa type devices if you have them and change all your passwords to everything. Your STBX sounds utterly awful. What a despicable, pathetic human.

Do you have any beautiful new clothes? Being a size 10 again feels like a reason to splurge.

Lisette1940 · 14/08/2020 07:44

OP you are very lovely and resilient. All this will pass. It seems to be passing like a kidney stone but it will pass none the less. Keep being you.

HollowTalk · 14/08/2020 07:54

@Teensandfuture

OP, let your phone be checked by IT person, I wouldn't be surprised if ex's in your phone somehow, got the new guy number and somehow made him to back off.
This wouldn't surprise me at all.
FredaFrogspawn · 14/08/2020 07:57

I think that guy was probably in a relationship and blocked you to avoid being found out. Anyway - you don’t need him.

Your life could be worse - imagine if your job was running the national seal bite database.

‘Had a busy day dear?’
‘Not really. Still only two’.

You sound funny and strong and gorgeous. Sort out the spyware and the dodgy cells and the son’s birthday and get back up. There is a whole massive forum rooting for you here (minus seal database person but meh).

Flowers
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Blanketyblanket · 14/08/2020 10:13

I’d like to run the seal attack database. I could cope with that.

Ds is very happy with his birthday presents. I’m taking him to the local water park this afternoon with a friend (and exdh) as a treat. It’s outside and it’s absolutely pissing it down. As long as the thunder and lightning doesn’t start again it should all still be open though. I’m fully expecting to be struck by lightning though.

I’ve just received a message from a number that I didn’t recognise saying that it’s from the guy I slept with. He got my number from a mutual friend as he thinks he put his phone on his car roof and drove off after coming round to mine the other week. I assumed he’d blocked me as a WhatsApp message I sent him only ever got one grey tick. Googling suggests that means you’ve been blocked. I didn’t try calling him or anything as I was too mortified at the thought of being blocked. Is this something that happens? It all just seems a bit off to me but then I’m a very suspicious person at the moment.

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WouldBeGood · 14/08/2020 10:20

One grey tick just means it’s sent but not delivered.

Definitely do not go out in lightning though! 😂

backseatcookers · 14/08/2020 10:32

I’d like to run the seal attack database. I could cope with that.

Well of course you could because as a very wise poster informed you upthread, despite your experience of (and that of others on this thread alone) there have only ever been two! Grin

backseatcookers · 14/08/2020 10:33

@Blanketyblanket

I’d like to run the seal attack database. I could cope with that.

Ds is very happy with his birthday presents. I’m taking him to the local water park this afternoon with a friend (and exdh) as a treat. It’s outside and it’s absolutely pissing it down. As long as the thunder and lightning doesn’t start again it should all still be open though. I’m fully expecting to be struck by lightning though.

I’ve just received a message from a number that I didn’t recognise saying that it’s from the guy I slept with. He got my number from a mutual friend as he thinks he put his phone on his car roof and drove off after coming round to mine the other week. I assumed he’d blocked me as a WhatsApp message I sent him only ever got one grey tick. Googling suggests that means you’ve been blocked. I didn’t try calling him or anything as I was too mortified at the thought of being blocked. Is this something that happens? It all just seems a bit off to me but then I’m a very suspicious person at the moment.

If his phone broke or died then it would be one tick, he's right. So if his story is true then the ticks back it up.
Peridodo · 14/08/2020 10:40

OP,

I would suggest checking with the mutual friend first to make sure that this is the case with the guy getting your number from them. Just in case your ex is playing games.

I’m glad to hear you DS is pleased with his birthday presents. I hope he has a great day.
Could it be the tide is turning.........but watch out for them CF seals!

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