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Amber Heard & Johnny Depp....Your thoughts?

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Whatdoyouthinkaboutthisone · 08/07/2020 18:53

I have seen this in the news over the past couple of days and wasn't really sure what to think. It sounds to me like a very volatile relationship and it may be that they are both abusers. Or at the least they are completely incompatible with each other.

Today I noticed that Amber Heard was walking into court and she had a scarf around her face. Then she removed the scarf and smiled for everyone and waved and seemed to enjoy the cameras being there. It's just an observation but maybe the accusations of her being a narcissist could be accurate? Or is she maybe trying to put a brave face on it all under what must be a very stressful situation for all concerned?

Johnny Depp kept his mask on but was also waving for the cameras I should add.

Anyway, I'm well aware it's none of my business really, it was just something I had thought about after seeing the news today and wondered what others thought!

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YabbaDabbaHooooo · 08/07/2020 19:04

I don't know either, it does seem like the fight in question might have been both parties at fault, to some degree. But no one really knows and that's all hearsay

But, he's had a lot of relationships and a lot of those women have come out to say they believe him and he never harmed them.
And she's had (2?) former partners accuse her of violence, abuse and narcissism. It Don't look good.
I hate to not believe her but somethings up.

covetingthepreciousthings · 08/07/2020 19:09

I'm not sure either.. but I'm inclined to believe him at the moment I think.

From what I gather A.H wasn't actually needed in court and I think Depp actually requested she not be there but seemingly she wanted to be there. I also think it's rather telling that Depp is really quite private and yet feels strongly enough about this to take it this to court.

I was actually quite pleased to see Dan Wooton being sued...

Ffsseriously · 08/07/2020 19:11

And pooing in his bed, AH admitted it and described it as a prank, seriously thats abuse.

Samcro · 08/07/2020 19:12

Tbh i had never heard of her until this.

GlummyMcGlummerson · 08/07/2020 19:13

Thing is OP, the last time she walked into court (with a black eye) when they first split up she got criticised heavily for not smiling.

She can't win.

I think JD has a reputation for violence and I remember a video where she secretly filmed an a us ice drunken outburst. It was utterly terrifying.

Mind you I don't trust the opinions of MN when it comes to these two - one poster once said, WRT him chucking a phone at her face "well she should have just ducked". Not kidding

DomDoesWotHeWants · 08/07/2020 19:15

I've always believed him.

Or rather I believe his exes who wouldn't speak out for him if they thought he behaved that way.

JKRisagryff · 08/07/2020 19:16

I believe him and I have a lot of respect for him for how he has dealt with the whole situation. If you listen to the tapes the language she uses towards him is so degrading and trying to emasculate him. She also sounds like she’s talking in circles a lot trying to convince herself of her victimhood. I think she is probably a narcissist.

Not saying he is perfect and there was obviously some substance abuse going on but I think a lot of what she said was completely made up.

It’s all incredibly damaging to domestic abuse victims who already aren’t believed.

ArriettyJones · 08/07/2020 19:17

Toxic in the extreme.

He sounds completely dysfunctional and misogynistic on every level.

Equally, it’s hard to understand why she stayed for so long, and even married him, after all these dysfunctional events had played out. She had enough money and support to leave.

Paul Bettany isn’t coming out of it at all well either, is he? Horrible specimen.

ChicCroissant · 08/07/2020 19:20

Nobody's coming out of it well IMO. They all sound horrendous!

Redcrow · 08/07/2020 19:20

I believe him.

LaszlosHat · 08/07/2020 19:20

It's a bit of a clusterfuck all round isn't it, a literal shitshow. I actually don't know what I think about it all.

Heartening though, to finally find someone who's monthly booze bill is higher than mine has been recently.

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mbosnz · 08/07/2020 19:21

I'm extremely wary of forming any sort of opinion, because I'm aware I've had a crush on Johnny Depp since I was around 15, and Amber Heard gives me the heebies.

MarioPuzo · 08/07/2020 19:21

I haven't really been following the case, but from other things I've read, it seems they were in a completely toxic dysfunctional relationship and were both horrible to each other. This toxicity is continuing by the endless ongoing legal arguments between them as each strives to 'win', but there is no winning, they are both losing.

june2007 · 08/07/2020 19:23

TBH i believe him, The fact Venessa Paradis supports him is one reason. (although just because one isn,t abusive in one relationship doesn't,t mean they are not in another.)

bigknickersbigknockers · 08/07/2020 19:23

There is something odd about her, not really a Depp fan but think she is a manipulator.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 08/07/2020 19:24

I think they are both as bad as each other, neither are victims and they were in an incredibly toxic relationship. They have both done vile things and I think they're both playing tit for tat now.

TheQueef · 08/07/2020 19:25

@Ffsseriously

And pooing in his bed, AH admitted it and described it as a prank, seriously thats abuse.
I agree.
heartsonacake · 08/07/2020 19:26

Amber Heard is absolutely crazy. I believe Johnny Depp.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 08/07/2020 19:26

Publicity stunt from start to finish.

CaptainMarvelDanvers · 08/07/2020 19:27

Heard blind items about before and during her relationship with JD. Wouldn’t trust her as far as I could throw her.

Toxic relationship.

Anotherthink · 08/07/2020 19:27

They both sound like hideous people. It's a bit of an eye opener how scummy they and their circle are, not that I'd actually given it much thought before!

Waxonwaxoff0 · 08/07/2020 19:28

Johnny Depp isn't exactly a picture of stability. He was clearly abusing alcohol while they were together and he has a temper, remember him trashing that hotel room while he was dating Kate Moss.

I don't believe Amber is a victim at all though and I think she is manipulative and deliberately goaded him.

ArriettyJones · 08/07/2020 19:29

@june2007

TBH i believe him, The fact Venessa Paradis supports him is one reason. (although just because one isn,t abusive in one relationship doesn't,t mean they are not in another.)
I think she might well choose her words carefully for the sake of their DC.

It’s been heavily implied she ended their relationship due to his substance issues and I don’t think she can honestly give him a glowing character reference.

Even his own defence is roughly “Yes I’m a jealous, drug addled, alcoholic who smashes thing up and is horribly verbally abusive but I’ve never actually hit a woman”. There isn’t much Vanessa or Winona can do to temper that picture really. All they can do is confirm that, to their knowledge he has commuted no actual physical assault.

rayoflightboy · 08/07/2020 19:29

I believe him,always did.Even when this all came out and she was automatically believed because she was a woman.

Hes always come across as private,but he does loads for charity.Her i always got a bad vibe off her.

I hope he wins and Dan Wooten is ruined.Cant stand the snidey fucker.