Anyone else want a No Judgement rant thread?

[31weeksgone]

This fucking sucks.

The whole thing bloody sucks. We’re in a house, with no garden, with a very “active” 4 year old.

Every single day before lockdown we would be out at the farm/beach/park when not at nursery and work.

DP is a key worker (as was I before I had to stay home to look after her, and started a degree) so whilst I get everyone sacrificing themselves and I’m really grateful, sometimes you need a place to just bloody vent So please don’t jump on me for this.

Stuck at home. With no garden or any outdoor space in this lovely weather, watching everyone out the window enjoying their gardens, with a “D”P I properly hate and was in the process of leaving. I don’t want to feel grateful 24/7 that we’re safe at home, I’m not grateful I’m stuck in, and I want to wallow for 20 minutes without having to be gracious 😡😡

Want to shake anyone who preaches not to go for a walk and to stay home. You’re allowed out for a walk!! It seems none of my neighbours know this the looks I’m getting, I also have to take food to my parents an hour away so no doubt I look dodgy driving away once a week for a few hours.

I was so looking forward to my last summer with my daughter before she started school. Now it’s this.

Anyone else want to rant/wallow/have a pity party please join my thread. No judgement here

That sounds really tough OP, sometimes a situation sucks and you just need to be able to have a moan without hearing how others have it worse.

I have neighbours with children on either side of me, the children are 'enjoying' their gardens by having a screaming contest. The parents have closed the doors because of the volume and I now can't have my windows open because their delightful little offspring are shrieking loudly enough to make my ears bleed. I'm ready to start taking decibel readings and report them for antisocial behaviour (my patience is next to nonexistent right now).

It's shit, I feel like I was an OK mum when we had stay and plays and could see friends, I'm a crap lock down mum. I just keep getting overwhelmed and wanting to cry at the thought of months of this

@FishingPaws bloody hell that sounds awful, I’d have a quiet word over the fence, I wouldn’t let my child scream outside. Playing is one thing screaming is another. Scream yourself, the kids will soon stop

@snuggybuggy me too, feeling like a shit mum because she can’t jump or run around or get any energy out in a small flat above other houses. Really fucking sucks. I can barely think about it, it breaks my heart why she is being so disadvantaged

Yep sucks here too. Am stuck in a flat with a "DP" and 6 year old. Am WFH and "DP" furlough so is supposed to be doing the school stuff. He's fine next to nothing. Am done with this.

Can I have a rant?

I've lost my job
Failed a telephone interview for my dream job that I've sent 10 months jumping through hoops for (social distancing, I'd have done a lot better in a face to face interview as originally planned)
My car is on it's last legs
My degree is compromised due to the last module having been cancelled half way through
My arsehole neighbours are not moving for now so I still can't go in the garden
I can't go running
my gyms closed
DS refuses to do any school work (SN)
and I haven't been able to spend any time with DP since this all kicked off as he's a keyworker and was on nights for the few days before lockdown.
and to top it all off, bloody DD has eaten my ice-cream.
Oh and the other neighbours on the other side have a bouncy castle...3 kids, screaming accompanied by the drone of air being forced into the rubber monstrosity.
DB has had his contract pulled out from under him so he's terrified (doesn't qualify for help)
DM is in hospital
and I've had a shitty headache for 4 days now.
My first holiday in 8 years has been cancelled
EVERYTHING we've been looking forward to has been cancelled...and it just seems that there is no light at the end of the tunnel.

I'm sick to death of the aggression, the lack of shops, the lack of stock and now trying to write a dissertation with no bloody results to finish it, or a half decent discussion to finish it with and all with no bloody future to look forward to (degree subject is no longer hiring due to bloody virus)...and no ice-cream.

Yes, I know there's other people worse off, but this year has just been shit for other reasons too...roll on next year.

Shit, sorry. That was longer than I thought

@Jade308 that’s not on, my “D” should of been ex by now “p” is an arsehole who’s saying he’s busy upstairs everyday and everytime I’ve been up he’s playing phone games when I have uni assignments to write. Wankers the pair of them

@giga the ice cream would of finished me off too. You’re coping with an awful lot, rant away as much as you like. Life is bloody horrible sometimes

@31weeksgone mine is the same with bloody phone/tablet games. He's lucky neither have been inserted somewhere painful. This lockdown has made me realise he brings next to nothing to the table

Thank you @31weeks,

I have to admit though, forced to being stuck in a house with someone who's about to be an Ex would tip me over the edge. It's horrible living miserably and stuck in a situation that's out of your hands. Hats off to you both.

Please may I rant too?

Whilst I don't have young children to those who do, I'm on my own in a small flat with no outside space. I miss my grown children and my 2 beautiful grandchildren and whatsapp video not quite cutting it!

I've been furloughed, but my team hasn't and are still having to go into our office with no hand gel, no fresh towels in the toilets etc. I sent them some hand gel in via post today. My team are also now directly under our frankly psychopath MD, and I always acted as a buffer for them, but not able to do that for them now . I'm also worried that when this is over I won't have a job.

I have chest problems so not been outside my flat in 3 weeks, and there is only so much cleaning of a small flat I can do.

I miss having someone to talk to, I miss hugging my kids and grand children, and I miss my colleagues and I worry for them. I speak to my kids every day and I'm upbeat for them as I don't want them worrying about me so I can't let them know exactly how I'm feeling.

Sorry - I know so many of you are having it so much worse than me but my God it's good to have a rant!

#threadkiller

You haven't killed the tread - it's dinner/tea time for most so it's usually quiet about now. It'll pick up again in about an hour or so.

Is it dinner or tea?

It dinner here in this house, but the area I live in call it tea.

Yep. I hate working from home. Dd 6 sits with her nose in a tablet all day and I'm too busy to do anything with her so home schooling is fucked.
I feel like a terrible parent, my productivity is shite and I just want to drink every night.
Oh and I'm getting fat.

You're going through a tough time too Unmanned.

It's nice to hear that you are worried for you co-workers, it's not often you see that and we can all relate to the lack of proper contact with family. You're right, video and phone calls just don't cut it, not even close.

@Gigabitten I really do worry for them one has young children and the other has a father with a heart condition. Unfortunately my company were very late to take this whole thing seriously, and it appears that all our MD is bothered about is hitting budget every month

So nice to have a non judged rant.

I want to be furloughed but my company won't offer it (civil service) . I'm working 10 hour days, whilst looking after a 4 and 1 year old. DP is wfh full time too cos apparently his is the only company in the world where sales have improved so he's busy. I know we're so much luckier than most but it's too much. I'm doing a crap job at my job and I'm doing a crap job of parenting. So fed up of juggling.

I also hate the fact I can't see my parents or my nan who is ill in hospital. Yet I see my twatty neighbours and' friends' who clearly don't know what lockdown means and are doing what the hell they like whilst I follow the rules.

I know I'm lucky to have income and be safe but God I am so over it all.

Braved the supermarket today, came home with a couple of whole ducks because there were about a hundred on special offer and we always buy 2 to feed our family.
Dh is now being a twatty food snob saying we can’t freeze them because they’re no good when frozen and they need eating up quickly because I think the last date on them is tomorrow.
Ffs just freeze the fucking ducks man and stop being such a bloody food snob

Okay, that feels marginally better....

Sorry to everyone going through worse than our duck problems.

Are they even supposed to be operating Unmanned? I mean, is it a business that should be open?

Everyone here is having a shitty time frankly.

No ones got it worse or easier, just all bloody crap!

Who are these people who can see positives in all situations, I just want to scream!! Dinner time here, my other half eats like a pig and it makes me want to kick him under the table. Wanker.

I don’t even bloody drink but wish I did, my legs go numb it is good to have a rant, some days you just need to be on a Debbie downer for yourself. It’s not my thinking as some positive polly’s would say, it’s genuinely shit.

Shove the duck up his arse

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I'd be annoyed at that too, this is NOT the time to be bloody fussy about what you eat.

I want to rant at all the people filling Facebook with accusations about everyone else's behaviour.

Yes there are a few arseholes out there, but most people are just trying against the odds to get by. I'm bloody lucky, I'm not stuck in a small space with an almost ex and a toddler. I'm not judging anyone I see in case they are!

And OP, your toddler needs outdoor space and running about. It there somewhere you and she can go for exercise? Take a ball or better still, a bean bag, throw catch and chase.

That sounds tough :(

I can usually see a good side to everything and everyone - just not recently.

@Gigabitten part of our factory makes clinical waste ties for the NHS so yes MD says we are essential. However the government has not said to close any manufacturing companies. The NHS side is possibly 35% of the entire company budget but what riles me is my team can work from home!