Anyone else want a No Judgement rant thread?

[31weeksgone]

This fucking sucks.

The whole thing bloody sucks. We’re in a house, with no garden, with a very “active” 4 year old.

Every single day before lockdown we would be out at the farm/beach/park when not at nursery and work.

DP is a key worker (as was I before I had to stay home to look after her, and started a degree) so whilst I get everyone sacrificing themselves and I’m really grateful, sometimes you need a place to just bloody vent So please don’t jump on me for this.

Stuck at home. With no garden or any outdoor space in this lovely weather, watching everyone out the window enjoying their gardens, with a “D”P I properly hate and was in the process of leaving. I don’t want to feel grateful 24/7 that we’re safe at home, I’m not grateful I’m stuck in, and I want to wallow for 20 minutes without having to be gracious 😡😡

Want to shake anyone who preaches not to go for a walk and to stay home. You’re allowed out for a walk!! It seems none of my neighbours know this the looks I’m getting, I also have to take food to my parents an hour away so no doubt I look dodgy driving away once a week for a few hours.

I was so looking forward to my last summer with my daughter before she started school. Now it’s this.

Anyone else want to rant/wallow/have a pity party please join my thread. No judgement here

Can I join in?. I know I am lucky not to have young DC at home and live in a nice house.
But
My wrist that I broke in December still hurts a lot but can't get physio on it
My DF is on the vulnerable list but according to Sainsbury's he isn't so can't get a home delivery.
My BIL father died in a care home of crovid this morning. It's unlikely his mum will be allowed to go to the funeral
Had enough of today and this virus can do one.

I'm glad I've found chat. I've just been on a coronavirus thread and been pummelled !
( it Seems aggressive behaviour is not reserved for the poor retail staff I've come across lately! Lol )Let's all hope there is an exit strategy formula somewhere for this virus ; I trust the scientists to find it. People need clarity about when we hope to go back to some kind of normal behaviour!

mbosnz - your situation isn't trivial though. Potentially losing 5 grand, your parents are on the other side of the globe and you're stuck, unable to get to loved ones when they are ill.

And that's without the whole other issues you've had thrown at you.

That's not trivial in my book.

@mbosnz it doesn’t matter, I made this account when I was 31 weeks pregnant. She’s now 4. Should probably name change at some point

LOL.

Thanks @gigabitten. Really do so appreciate that, because I'm having to paste the smile on, be kind, be tolerant, and yesterday with severe PMS rather let the side down, don't you know?!

Great thread!

Currently working from home. DH furloughed and we have a very demanding almost 3 year old. Every moment in his company is shit. He moans constantly. His tantrums are awful. His speech is slightly delayed so half the time we have no idea what he's upset about 🤷🏼‍♀️ I'm gutted the nursery is shut. I went back to work 6 months ago as I couldn't hack being a SAHM any longer. I hate the fact that grandparents can't take him for a day or overnight. I love him to bits but a lot of the time I don't really like spending time with him as it's a constant battle. The days seem so long with no softplay or parks to go to, particularly at the weekend when I don't have the excuse of trying to work.

The thought of this going on for weeks longer makes me want to scream.

Feel you finger, can’t believe I hated soft play so much, I’d willingly run into one now!

Autocorrect, Ginger!!

😂😂😂

Sorry, here’s my pity party. It’s long

I’ve been unhappy in my job for a while but I’ve not managed to get a new job, I’ve had many interviews and nothing. So my confidence and self esteem were pretty low before this kicked off. I work in the utility industry and have a key worker letter (I’ll go in if the shit really hits the fan), I’m working from home and on full pay (at least for the time being to be reviewed next week). My manager and team are distant when I am in the office, so now it’s exaggerated. I don’t even like my work but I miss being in the office. I also have a project that is solely mine (but my manager quite happily takes the credit for), my manager, head of department and director all had a meeting without me and decided to postpone the project this year. I absolutely understand why it’s been postponed and would have suggested the same but I had to find out in a team meeting because none of them invited me to the meeting on my fucking project or thought a courtesy email was in order.

Our holiday has been cancelled, obviously. It was my 30th a couple of months back and DH’s birthday just before lockdown. This was our presents to each other and from everyone else. I’m sulking because I don’t feel like I’ve got anything for my 30th. This was our first holiday for four years and was our last hurrah before trying for kids. We might have that type of holiday again (all-inclusive, adults only, spa resort in the Caribbean) but not for at least 20 years. DH has had to take a pay cut because his firm have kept nothing back for a rainy day. So we can’t reschedule our holiday (plus the risk of Zika in the Caribbean with TTC doesn’t work). So we’ve got a huge chunk of money with a travel agent and we aren’t going on holiday. The stress of waiting them to cancel it and get that bit of security back is constant. I’m constantly checking their website, so much so that it now appears on my frequent websites on my phone home screen. Under the title of ‘luxury holidays’, talk about adding insult to injury.

TTC - I was meant to have a new job before TTC, that’s not happened. As we aren’t going away now, we could probably start TTC now but if this is going to be hanging around for the next 18 months, with all the financial uncertainty - it just isn’t sensible (for us anyway). It feels like all our plans are gone. We’ve nothing to look forward to and it’s just this.

I’m eating my way through everything in the house and I don’t think I’ll be able to get out the fucking door when lockdown is lifted. I flick between feeling agoraphobic because I don’t want to end up on the community Facebook page (despite following the rules) or get Covid-19 and claustrophobic for not leaving the house for 5 days.

Can I ask a question?

This seems like a safe thread to ask.

I know that we all have to keep 2m away from each other, and I understand why, but heres the issue....

If you have to walk past someone, you'll be level with them for less than 1 second, and under 2/3 seconds before you are at 2m distance again. The chances of either passing something to the other person or catching something from the other person during that point is at a minimum. Unless they cough or sneeze into your face at that exact moment. So why get so het up about people having to pass you, either outside or in a supermarket aisle at a distance of around 0.5 - 1M?

I'm aware I may be missing a vital bit of information, so please let me know, if this is the case.

@CakeAndGin - have a huge unmmsnetty ((((((((hug))))))) because that sounds totally crap!

I feel like as a family we have lost the last 7 months of our lives. At the end of August last year our house purchase fell through, so DH and I had to move in with his parents when I was 32 weeks pregnant, so we just couldn’t really enjoy the last few months of my pregnancy. Couldn’t nest or prepare for DS the way we wanted to because we were in someone else’s house. We were still here for the first 6 weeks that we had DS so I was constantly having to hand him over to PILs, couldn’t just sit around with my boobs out when I wanted to feed him... we moved into our new home just before Christmas and had just started to settle into a normal life when all this bullshit kicked off. So gone are my lovely weekly walks followed by coffee and cake with the NCT mums. No more sensory groups for DS, no swimming classes. DH’s marathon that he was running with his friends was cancelled. My first ever half marathon, which I worked so hard for to run 5 months post partum was cancelled (I ran it alone in the rain and hail along a deserted countryside bike track). Fucking Glastonbury is cancelled!

We can’t see any of our friends or family, my DM is self isolating due to her age and health conditions so much I as I can do daily FaceTime and online shopping, I’m just watching her depression swallow her whole from afar. DH’s lovely grandad is very sick, it looks like we’re going to lose him and we’re too far away to be able to help in any way or to see his family.

It’s all just absolute shit. I feel like I’m living in a bad dream.

@Gigabitten - the official Downing Street letter says to maintain 2 meters wherever possible; so if a few seconds of patience means you can maintain 2 meters do so, if you've got caught in a bottleneck then get to 2 meters asap. There's no need to get stressed because you've skirted past someone at 1 meter when unavoidable by any reasonable calculation.

There's no need to get stressed because you've skirted past someone at 1 meter when unavoidable by any reasonable calculation.

Thank you, that's what I've been thinking. Going by some of the threads on here, you'd think you could pick up the virus like a magnet if you so much as looked in their direction.

I work in a supermarket pharmacy and if I have one more customer disrespect my social distancing I am going to scream at them to get behind the fucking line before I rip their fucking head off. I'm working in the only store in the region that hasn't expanded on the minimum requirements for social distancing and every time I see the manager smirking I want to ram my PPE that has only arrived today into his throat. I'm not normally violent and hardly ever swear but the last month has been the toughest I've known as a pharmacist and every person who comes into my personal space is literally risking their own life as I am a far larger risk to them than they are to me but they just won't bloody listen

I want my life back just like everybody else, I am cracking up, I can’t work and I’m smiling even more fags than normal but what else is there to do? I want to fucking scream and go nuts but who at, I’m just not sure.

This cannot last until June, and if it’s even longer then I really don’t know what I’ll do, no young kids but I will literally die of fucking boredom.

Smoking not smiling

@CakeAndGin that’s a really shitty situation, you’re well entitled to feel crappy about that. Especially TTC. What a shit show

@AngeloMysterioso you deserve a medal, for coping with living with your in laws! Especially in post partum weeks. If you can handle that this will be fine but super annoying with a small baby, and the maternity leave you should be having now you’re settled.

@muddledmidget I literally don’t understand what they don’t understand

@Inappropriatefemale I just wish they'd tell us how long. Realistically we all know we’re looking at 12 weeks but just come out and say it then we can set the mental hurdle

I'd really like a rant too..

Only get to see DS1 3x times a year as he lives 150 miles away, Easter being one of the times, and i miss him.

I've been single for a year, and found out at the start of lockdown, my abusive ex has a new victim/ partner. I'm so angry, and would usually work and be distracted, but it just goes around and around in my head all day. He got away with it for 12 years, and just moved on, meanwhile i'm so lonely.. I've no friends, he made sure of that. So most days i just get a grunt from DS2 and thats my conversation for the day.

DS seems to be breaking everything, taps, plates, the toilet!
My washing machine broke 4 weeks ago, so i'm washing everything by hand every day it seems, oh and i'm self employed and currently have no income whatsoever.. so can't afford to get anything fixed.

Wish someone could just give me a hug.

@FishingPaws luckily my husband grew up with her and understands. A lot of contact is to keep the ‘peace’ and if she asks me I say I’m busy, arrange with your son - then make myself scarce.
I’m hoping this contact continues to decrease as she’s just getting worse. (Apparently she is having our son twice a week from June wether I like it or not!)

@Frustratedmuch Holy moly, don’t even get me started on our wedding! We should have eloped, or not told anyone we were married... or bumped her off and used the money for a grand wedding hahaha

@muddledmidget I feel you. More for the fact the two pharmacy runs I’ve made (all I’ve done in four weeks!) is where I’ve had people completely disregard my space. I moved out the way of one older man and he told me I was being stupid and to ‘get a grip’ 🤦🏼‍♀️

(Apparently she is having our son twice a week from June wether I like it or not!)

The phrase 'over my dead body' comes to mind!