Anyone else want a No Judgement rant thread?

[31weeksgone]

This fucking sucks.

The whole thing bloody sucks. We’re in a house, with no garden, with a very “active” 4 year old.

Every single day before lockdown we would be out at the farm/beach/park when not at nursery and work.

DP is a key worker (as was I before I had to stay home to look after her, and started a degree) so whilst I get everyone sacrificing themselves and I’m really grateful, sometimes you need a place to just bloody vent So please don’t jump on me for this.

Stuck at home. With no garden or any outdoor space in this lovely weather, watching everyone out the window enjoying their gardens, with a “D”P I properly hate and was in the process of leaving. I don’t want to feel grateful 24/7 that we’re safe at home, I’m not grateful I’m stuck in, and I want to wallow for 20 minutes without having to be gracious 😡😡

Want to shake anyone who preaches not to go for a walk and to stay home. You’re allowed out for a walk!! It seems none of my neighbours know this the looks I’m getting, I also have to take food to my parents an hour away so no doubt I look dodgy driving away once a week for a few hours.

I was so looking forward to my last summer with my daughter before she started school. Now it’s this.

Anyone else want to rant/wallow/have a pity party please join my thread. No judgement here

Common sense has never been that common - more like overestimated and undervalued!

@mbosnz - depressing but accurate!

Super true, people are very intelligent these days, but no ounce of common sense.

If my “D”P wasn’t fucking falling asleep all day so I’m completely in charge of my dd, I’d be on the gin too. But I need my legs to work

I’ve been quite naughty. I filled our paddling pool up, of course can’t see grandchildren at moment so told my neighbour in the flats behind me to let her kids loose in it for the afternoon whilst I waved out the windows lol. I’ll empty it eventually. Was lovely to see them laughing, even if wasn’t strictly by the rules.

@Rachie1973 now you are a lovely lovely human being. Thank you, I’m sure you made that families day. We have loads of gardens around here just sat unused and it makes me so sad. Our downstairs flat (we have house and they have basement flat) is a single woman in 30’s who’s not been out in garden once. (Won’t let us use it)

Awww ty 31weeks

I am so so angry at my fucking stupid stupid stupid ex I could leave the bastard right this second and break lockdown but instead I’m stuck here. It’s getting too difficult now

I need to vent tonight.
I am so tired of the sudden and alarming lack of appointments. How difficult it currently is to get even one face to face appointment for anyone? I have read the cancelled appointment thread on here too. Until a month ago, it was way easier. This week I got a email to say that the respiratory department had cancelled a appointment for one of my children. On the positive side, we can get medication for my son delivered to my flat from a local pharmacy.
And I’m not really interested in the frankly depressing stay at home hourly bulletins either. That feels really good to say. My children have been great but my son is at risk of pressure sores and constipation. So I take both kids out on a quick walk each day as I and my family need to exercise like anyone else too. The baby needs fresh air as well ideally each day. We live in a tiny flat.

@Dyscal sorry you’re finding it hard too, I wonder about the lack of appointments too. Surely everyone is allowed “normal” illness too to be taken care of?

This is massively outing but my other half has lost our password to the schools local authority site, so we can’t see which school our daughter got into and celebrate like everyone else tomorrow. He made the account and applied without consulting me so I’ve no idea of the password. I hate him.

Can you ask him @31weeksgone?

I did ask, he can’t remember what he set the password as and he locked himself out. Bloody man!

There must be a help email address? Ask them to send you a reset link @31weeksgone.

I’m sure the draconian exercise advice has had a bad impact on the parents that have been following it literally. I was beyond cross when the govt leaflet arrived with no mention of a one hour limit.

Not to mention the adults struggling due to needing to get more exercise. Let’s hope we get good news soon.

I hate going shopping. The queueing, the morgue like atmosphere and as soon as I'm in I panic and forget what I'm there for.

Just fed up of all of the judging and society reversing in its attitudes, everyone is so judgey now. 3 more weeks being announced tonight.

I’m dreading (at least) 3 more weeks of this! my sister has been on the phone upset because she is struggling with her daughter. She’s a single parent and normally I would take her DD for a little while to give her some space.
DH was £400 short in pay because his boss is on paternity and didn’t ok his over time. He does as much OT as possible each month and we need that money. We are lucky to both be key workers so have a wage coming in but still have money problems.
Like PP said up thread I am finding DD very tedious.

Yes @GoodbyeToCare shopping atm is so fraught, impossible to see the shelves clearly whilst avoiding people so end up grabbing whatever and coming out without something vital.

Things had been ticking along here, but now I need a moan!

Why oh why did my ndn feel the need to start hammering and drilling at 5.30 am? I am absolutely convinced that good manners and consideration have flown the coop. This same neighbour, having woken me up, then had the cojones to call me and ask if I would pick up their prescriptions since they are experiencing symptoms and they can't arrange for it to be delivered. Who does that? Who behaves like an antisocial arse, then asks for a favour?
Then to cap it all off, they decided to cheer themselves up with a back garden bbq for lunch!

People are wankers, this is just drawing them out

Performance parenting is getting worse (particularly BIL...)

Even without FB it's a nightmare - tales of perfect children who not only are desperate to do their school work and can't wait for PE with Joe in the morning, but aren't finding either challenging enough and are teaching themselves Japanese/ being Grandma's fitness coach over Skype/ building a 3D printer out of Duplo while never once needing any assistance from their parents, or resorting to a screen of any kind. Inevitably followed up with "And how is YOUR DD getting on? Presumably she does schoolwork while you work? I mean, they;re plenty old enough to motivate themselves.."
(Er.. playing a crap computer game mostly, chatting with her mates over Skype, and may have extreme muscle wastage from total refusal to exercise or indeed move. When she did three minutes of schoolwork without actual threats from me it was a sodding miracle.)
"Well, I think she misses her friends..."

Feeling guilty about my colleagues on the front line too while I work from home. The sanctimonious brigade aren't helping my anxiety about them; never mind the nagging feeling that DD's brains are going to dribble out of her ears soon or we'll kill each other over schoolwork, whichever comes first.

Despite this being, in some ways, introvert paradise, I really, really miss being properly on my own.

The sanctimonious brigade is busy providing next year's fertilizer...

@permanently, it's bloody holidays. If there's a time and a place for them to mope and be emo about shit, it's right here, and right bloody now. Excuse the superfluous bloodys. I've actually threatened to taser one of mine out of their crypt. They're dealing with some shit. Just like we are. In their own way.

@permanentlyexhaustedpigeon I have reignited a Tetris addiction whilst locked down, my brains haven’t dribbled out of my ears yet. I’ve explained to the dc that this is to teach them the downsides of tech addiction, I’m modelling it. I doubt this is going to make the other mummies jealous though.

I feel this has been insightful about who the biggest knobs are. @FishingPaws your neighbour should be on Shameless!

Kids have got a really really rough deal in this too, mines certainly watching way more iPad then I would usually let.