Anyone else want a No Judgement rant thread?

[31weeksgone]

This fucking sucks.

The whole thing bloody sucks. We’re in a house, with no garden, with a very “active” 4 year old.

Every single day before lockdown we would be out at the farm/beach/park when not at nursery and work.

DP is a key worker (as was I before I had to stay home to look after her, and started a degree) so whilst I get everyone sacrificing themselves and I’m really grateful, sometimes you need a place to just bloody vent So please don’t jump on me for this.

Stuck at home. With no garden or any outdoor space in this lovely weather, watching everyone out the window enjoying their gardens, with a “D”P I properly hate and was in the process of leaving. I don’t want to feel grateful 24/7 that we’re safe at home, I’m not grateful I’m stuck in, and I want to wallow for 20 minutes without having to be gracious 😡😡

Want to shake anyone who preaches not to go for a walk and to stay home. You’re allowed out for a walk!! It seems none of my neighbours know this the looks I’m getting, I also have to take food to my parents an hour away so no doubt I look dodgy driving away once a week for a few hours.

I was so looking forward to my last summer with my daughter before she started school. Now it’s this.

Anyone else want to rant/wallow/have a pity party please join my thread. No judgement here

@31weeksgone I think I need you in my life

We run a small business, and have had to furlough our staff. There is no sign of any site being active to claim this yet, so we will likely have to pay this ourselves at the end of April but with no money coming into the business account. We can pay bills for 2 maybe 3 months, then we go under. I feel physically sick constantly.

DH was diagnosed with a heart condition and had a small surgery cancelled in March but can't see a cardiologist... or even have a phone conversation with one. He's getting intermittent chest pains and rapid heartbeat but refuses to go to A & E as the risk is too high. We've phoned our GP three times but they literally aren't interested.

We're now based at home, and all our fucking neighbours are doing is lighting bonfires. It's like a chain... one goes out, so someone sparks theirs up. Our house stinks and I feel like going and standing on the front lawn and screaming at the top of my lungs...................

Happy days but thanks for the opportunity to rant, OP.

@MamaBearThius sounds like my pregnancy, I had no glow, other than being sweaty in the summer!

I'm in for a rant!

Less 5 weeks until my c-section date, which I'll be doing alone because we don't want to risk 2yo DS going into preschool (DH is a keyworker so they confirmed they would take him) given the heightened risk, family are either pissheads, a 100 years old or 300 miles away and friends we could possibly ask are being particularly iffy with their lockdown activities...

My Dad broke his thigh and had to have surgery, got a diagnosis of dementia and Alzheimer's whilst in hospital, now in a care home and is constantly kicking off and lashing out plus refusing to get out of bed to try rehab himself.

Much fuckery happening with who is funding said carehome so my phone has been blowing up all day, he's only been there since Thursday ffs and it's a nightmare already.

DS is a typical feral toddler and being as destructive as possible and I can't walk more than half a mile without agonising hip pain kicking in.

Oh and I think my 15 year old cat is going batty too as she's wailing all night, is attacking the other cat and dogs and keeps pissing on everything.

It's all shit, I want alcohol, all the alcohol.

@ChrisPrattsFace - would your DH support you if you said that you're not comfortable with her being in the house (at least when you're there)? You may just need to put the hard-ass pants on and make your stand!

To quote a friend

"It's all such a pile of wank"

Mbosnz - that really is crap, really bloody crap.

Mrsfoggy
I'm sorry! That really is awful.
Sending an un Mumsnetty hug!
Dealing with a relative with dementia and Alzheimer's is hard : I can sympathise completely. There is a dementia thread which is very good for advice. They were good with me. Good luck.

Gigabitten, thank you so much. That's appreciated.

Mrsfoggy, that is a seriously shitty situation. I'm so sorry. I'd be packing myself if I were pregnant right now, and I feel so much for all the women that are.

@ChrisPrattsFace yep I seem to be constantly sweaty, which is reeeeally helping the spots that come with pregnancy. The rant gates have now been opened there's no stopping me

I’m joining in here, I cry everyday and today has finally pushed me to breaking point.
DH working from home, so spends entire day locked in study on important calls so we all have to be quite.
Home schooling 3 children.
I’m a key worker been redeployed which is horrible and having to work alternate nights so I can cover childcare and school them. It’s not working I’m exhausted.
School were horrible to me and will not take my children as DH is working from home. They also told me because of my job ( front line NHS) my children posed a risk to staff.
Today I woke up from a night shift to find I have a high risk letter. I have absolutely no idea where I stand now. I worked a night shift last night as in deep as it gets with COVID and now I’m high risk. So been on phone to occupational health most of afternoon and still don’t know what I will do.
Kids are being a nightmare as not excersized enough.
School told everyone they will not set work for Easter holidays WTF routine and the fact the school had set the work was my only chance of coping.
I now resent the school a lot!

And breath.

It's shit and I want to ram toilet roll down the next competitive quarrantiner fun police person on here.

DD1 is missing her friends like mad and is taking it out on us with her attitude. It's her birthday tomorrow and it'll be pretty shit for her (we've promised her a second birthday like the Queen when we get out and she's OK with that), DD2 was due to see the eye clinic as the vision's going in her previously good eye - but that got cancelled and now she's getting awful headaches and losses of vision that I think are migraines but I'm bloody terrified over and can't get any resolution on over the phone - they've tried bless 'em, and the GP agrees it might be a migraine but it's really affecting her life now and I've got to run the gauntlet of eye A+E to see if they'll triage her in as needing to be seen. Her excema is flared right up as well and her speech is going backwards from the lack of intervention and social input from school.

I'm trying to do my uni work and fucking up miserably (and I was getting firsts all year) and DH is on fucking work calls ALL bloody day so I'm doing it solo. I'm not sleeping from the stress and having panic attacks out of the wazoo as well.

It's fucking shit - and the toxic twats on here can go fuck themselves with an overly decadent cucumber right now.

@mbosnz that does sound really difficult, I can’t imagine being in a different country from my parents right now. for you. Surely you could keep the flight money they can’t just take it? Maybe they’d give it over in credit for new ones?

@MamaBearThius you wouldn’t right now all rants haha! But I’m the biggest biggest advocate of pregnant women and always try to reassure them because it’s frankly a shit time in life to be carrying round a hefty basketball up your top puking and having your hips separate whilst everyone thinks they can stroke you. (Before anyone says I’m ungrateful, I’m not, it’s just pregnancy was horrid!)

@The80sweregreat thank you! I really needed to get it off my chest!

I'm just feeling so stressed and lonely, the dementia thing isn't even that bad as I knew it was coming because although he's always been a dick it's become even more apparent in the last year, it just completely sucks balls it's all crashing down in the middle of the fucking apocalypse and pregnancy.

Poor old DH is trying to be supportive but in all honesty I just want to run away from life for a few days, sleep, eat shit and forget about everything and everyone

@TheFutureMrsHardy that sounds really crappy, I don’t really understand either, the government is pledging all of this money which is great but everyone I know with a small business hasn’t seen a penny, or won’t be getting any for months... what about the interim? People don’t just have cash laying around. It’s sucks and I’m really sorry for your position. And people shouldn’t be having bonfires at certain times of day, isn’t it after 7? I’m sure I read that somewhere.

@MrsFoggy it’s a really crappy time to be pregnant right now especially with all of that going on, I really feel for you

@ChrisPrattsFace oh my god, I hate my MIL too!
Got engaged and she sat there talking to me and my DH how amazing his first precious wedding was, how the pictures were beautiful!!
I'd bought him an expensive watch, she even had the audacity to ask if he ex wife had bought him it! To my face!!!! Argh!!
I've not seen her since my wedding (not a bad thing) she didn't actually speak to me at my wedding (again, not a bad thing!)

I'm sorry your going through this Mrs foggy being pregnant as well as this latest health emergency is also hard.
I've got it easy compared to so many others. Dealing with authorities must be doubly hard at the moment as well.
Having elderly parents isn't easy at the best of times, I'm dreading getting older myself.
I hope things sort themselves out for you. Day at a time.
X

@Ladyinamask how unfair is it and stressful you all have to be quiet so he can work. This whole situation is impossible for so so many people. Hope occu health can provide some sort of clarity you being high risk. Surely you won’t be going back to work now if high risk?

@1weeksgone here's hoping. Unfortunately, the route we carefully chose, based on the risk at the time, is now going through potentially the worst going to be hit country, and was also due to be shut down in October! Hopefully we'll get a credit.

But I'm feeling a bit bloody embarrassed, our woes seem trivial in comparison to so many on here.

@Ladyinamask big hugs to you. That sucks on so many levels it's not funny.

@Kuponut I’m not getting any uni work done either. Our uni said 20 hours self study time. Hilarious! Ok for the 18 year olds isolating at home with parents. How do they think us with children can!! It’s very very unfair

How'd I miss off the 3?!

Oh.

@mbosnz it doesn’t matter, I made this account when I was 31 weeks pregnant. She’s now 4. Should probably name change at some point

But I'm feeling a bit bloody embarrassed, our woes seem trivial in comparison to so many on here.

This is just part of being human, we each have different trigger points and what seems trivial to one person is 'straw that broke the camel's back' to another. No-one has a right to judge anyone for reaching their limit, we don't know everyone else's background so have no way of knowing their underlying stress levels. A person with a fear of being confined yet in the shield group could well be living a version of their personal hell...

Working in a supermarket with customers taking no notice of social distancing and thinking it's ok to come upnto staff in our faces and asking where the dam milk is.

Sick of work closing my department and putting me on the shop floor which has now made my anxiety bad and had to increase my anxiety meds and gp giving me a fit note so work will have to amend my duties.

Scared of getting the virus and giving it to my disabled dd or if I get the virus and who will care for my dd

Sick of being skint

I feel better now thanks