Anyone else want a No Judgement rant thread?

[31weeksgone]

This fucking sucks.

The whole thing bloody sucks. We’re in a house, with no garden, with a very “active” 4 year old.

Every single day before lockdown we would be out at the farm/beach/park when not at nursery and work.

DP is a key worker (as was I before I had to stay home to look after her, and started a degree) so whilst I get everyone sacrificing themselves and I’m really grateful, sometimes you need a place to just bloody vent So please don’t jump on me for this.

Stuck at home. With no garden or any outdoor space in this lovely weather, watching everyone out the window enjoying their gardens, with a “D”P I properly hate and was in the process of leaving. I don’t want to feel grateful 24/7 that we’re safe at home, I’m not grateful I’m stuck in, and I want to wallow for 20 minutes without having to be gracious 😡😡

Want to shake anyone who preaches not to go for a walk and to stay home. You’re allowed out for a walk!! It seems none of my neighbours know this the looks I’m getting, I also have to take food to my parents an hour away so no doubt I look dodgy driving away once a week for a few hours.

I was so looking forward to my last summer with my daughter before she started school. Now it’s this.

Anyone else want to rant/wallow/have a pity party please join my thread. No judgement here

To add to Pickles suggestions,

even just running along the path in front of where you live must be better than nothing, hopscotch, skipping, anything. I do understand the reluctance though with everyone watching and judging.

I'm so sick of being inside a tiny flat with a toddler and a dog. I'm sick of family who live with other adults telling me how they're making it fun with board games and cooking. I'm sick of walking three miles to Lidl for what I can carry back with a toddler and a slipped disc, and I'm sick of people who think the rules don't apply to them and who are going to make it worse.

Unmanned,

Yes, it would be essential considering the amount of clinical waste the labs dispose of daily, let alone the rest of the hospital.

I agree, though, it's a tricky situation. More so with a manager like that. Wouldn't surprise me if he's the one worried about his job and can see the benefits of you all working from home because of it - scared to rock the boat as it were.

Who are these people who can see positives in all situations, I just want to scream!!

Not all situations and I've done my share of ranting/moaning/etc, but without people coming into my office I'm doing 3 times the work in 2/3rds of the time.

@Unmanned - your MD sounds vile!

I propose MN and all around
(@31weeksgone - the MN versions are safe )

OP

I've just had another thought, what about trying to get your little one to do yoga?

Surprising tiring, low impact, little space needed - I know it may sound poncy, but could be worth a try. There's loads of videos on youtube you could both try and follow.

Well I’m quietly glad others agree about him being a twat about the fucking ducks.
On the whole we eat very well and don’t usually buy meat from the supermarket, but whatever, I was in there getting some stuff, saw them, got them as I knew they could be bloody frozen and eaten at a later date.
And now he’s mulling over ordering some fat online to fucking confit them - I’m VERY tempted to tell him to shove them up his arse @31weeksgone - it’s just so trivial and stupid!
For Christ sake, lower your standards man 🤦🏼‍♀️

So he's gone from annoying to infuriating. Over duck. Wanker. He could cook one of the ducks and use the fat from that one to confit the other. That way you don't have to cook them at all...you could be using wine to marinade yourself.

Ooh I’d love a rant.

I’m still working and dealing with two really difficult situations (part of my normal work but made so much harder by the virtual nature of meetings) and I’m up against two difficult sets of bastards.

Home - horrible row with my ex over our dts age 15. He’d taken it upon himself to pull them out of school the week before they shut, and took them to his, and was refusing to discuss them moving back and forth, because of mine and dp’s keywork jobs being too high risk (social work and mental health OT - we are extremely cautious and have PPE) Despite telling me they were staying home, he continued to do deliveries for his business. He also had me on loudspeaker in front of the dts and called me a bitch! He’s really tried to frighten and influence them, and one of them is particularly affected and cross with me. It feels so unfair and we ended up having an awful row about it, where it was really clear his dad had said lots of things he shouldn’t have.

My lovely friend has had endless pain for years and found out yesterday she has a chronic infection on the base of her spine. She’s had so many health problems, so it’s hopeful but scary and has rocked us.

My mother - I can’t even go into the lengthy and boring tragedy but she’s a merchant of her own doom living in a dreadful situation she created with my alcoholic violent younger brother, and my eldest dc 24, who appears to be in the throes of a lengthy depression- and who has Peyrones Disease.

Weirdly I have a very good life and supportive dh and dfriend but it’s all a bit wobbly and uncertain.

Thanks

That should say ‘weirdly I usually have’

He’s always been this was about freezing meat, I don’t know why I’m surprised really. Well I’m not actually surprised, more just baffled at why he would give a shit about this at the moment.
In fairness, he does almost all the food shopping and cooking (well, I usually do an online order once a week and then he shops at the weekends for the food we will eat then, this has obviously gone out the window at the moment and we are just using supermarkets for what we can’t get at the butchers) which is handy because I hate cooking. And he does it very well.
But Jesus, give it a rest, it’s not worth the pontificating about ‘how to deal with these troublesome ducks’.

This is just what I need right now. Thank you!
I’m at home with two teens and a DH who is WFH. And a dog that barks at literally ANYTHING. And EVERYTHING. And follows me around like a shadow.
On the one hand it’s good to get out and take the dog for a walk in the park across the road. The weather is lovely and I sometimes see someone I know and get to shout a greeting at them!
But at home I feel so lonely. And taken for granted. Teens live in their rooms. On their phones. Punctuated by visits to the Xbox. And minimal school work. Their rooms are disgusting and a mess. They’re ignorant to it. They get up at noon and do sweet FA all day.
Husband works all day then goes on Xbox to decompress after work.
I cook dinner - after running the gauntlet at the supermarket once a week - and have to think of what to cook every fucking day.
With zero offers of help.
I dish up. They eat. Then they all fuck off again after dinner.
I feel as though I just live with the dog. But am landlady to the other 3.
I know it’s made worse by the lockdown. And the virus situation is making me emotional. But it’s all come to a head today and I let rip at everyone about how I feel. And now I feel shit because Of that.
Apologies for bad language.

@vampirethriller Maybe you could order a granny trolley from Amazon to help with the shopping situation. They're not very attractive but, hey, it's desperate times.

My friend got one from Argos who has to walk for shopping too. She said it's a game changer. Keeps food a bit cool too apparently.

thechosen he needs to get a grip wrt the ducks. Jeez is freezing so terrible?! At least he can cook tho. I’d love it if my DH would cook. And plan. And shop. He watched enough tv shows about cooking!!!!

trashcan I have a friends whose Ex manipulates the kids and slags her off quite openly in front of her DCs. It’s crap isn’t it?

No garden here either - one dc has only started sleeping without huge wake ups in this, week 5 (we’ve been off longer as dc got sick earlier than official lock down).

I’m not working because my dc can’t handle childcare and a bit fed up of the ‘you’re so lucky to not be working’ undertone from mum friends. I worked from home with the kids for ages before I gave up and quit so I do know how crap it is.

I don’t think anyone is having a good time right now despite what fb says.

My rants are the staff in shops being so miserable. I do get it and I'm polite but it's really not my fault your having to work. Having a bag practically slung at me wasn't funny! I need cleaning utensils.

The queuing is a nightmare : maybe I'm too old and used to just breezing in when I want! I'm impatient when it's not a pandemic emergency! I know it's shit for everyone but it's really making me miserable.
I feel for you mumsnetters trying to wfh and have little ones though : your all hero's and heroines. I know my woes are nothing.

I really need this

DH is meant to be deploying but it changes when he's actually going every five fucking minutes. I'm an absolute mess and torn between thinking I'll miss him and just wanting him to piss off. It's the usual stress, stuff everywhere being packed, and we're all getting on each other's nerves with no way to get out and blow off steam, as the only sodding walk is next to nursery, which means dragging DS away screaming and kicking and I have bruises all up my shins which isn't his fault and he doesn't understand why he isn't going every day. I love DS, but at the moment he's a tantruming twat of a toddler who screams and shouts at me a lot of the time. I'm jealous that DH gets to escape this, and that I get to deal with him 24/7 as well as attempting to work from home solo for the next god knows how many months. DS won't engage with anything in try to do with him, from colouring, to digging up worms and running round in the garden, yoga, his music class (online)... he's clearly picking up on all the stress and it's doing him no good.

And honestly I'm just sad. I'm lonely, feeling quite low, and now with DH going it's going to be even more crap.

I'm back at work tomorrow, I'll be doing one day a week, and I'm relieved for the breathing space. Even if I'm going in to complete carnage

The aggression gets me down too - I went to ago yesterday and had to run away from two women in their 50s screaming at each other over social distancing.

Went to food shop that should say!

It's a really wanky situation isn't it
I have a 4 year old who was getting on so so well at preschool socialising etc and now is stuck home all the time. I've turned into the world's shittest Mum as I'm 31 weeks pregnant, the size of a hippo and in constant pain. Same as you, supposed to be an amazing summer before starting school but that's all turned to shit now too

I had to get some eye drops for my sore puffy eyes. They were not good.

The woman organising the queue at the pharmacy was incredibly rude ' what do you need them for? ' ' you can't buy anything else' etc etc. I showed her my eye and she sort of shrugged. Everyone looked mutinous.
I do understand , but to be so aggressive was just not justified.
It really hurt : I wasn't out for fun!
I can't go on my holiday ( along with millions of others) I'm also unhappy but I'm not rude.
I'm fed up with the virus and the attitudes and just life atm. Menopause and coronavirus. Not a good combo!

I have DT 8 with ASD. DH out house 12 hr days as key worker. DH tells me not to get so stressed with DT screaming at me as it's not helping... I bloody know that... Just FOTTFSOF with the enjoy this time with them bollocks...

Great thread! I find relentless positivity very disingenuous at the moment.

I'm avoiding people who don't open up about having any frustrations and worries as I just can't connect with them. Where is your humanity people?

I have a flat car battery which is making me anxious in case there is some kind of emergency and I need it. Also I miss my cat who died 2 weeks ago and I am v jealous of everyone who has a pet right now.

Who is positive? Nobody I know.
Most people are fed up , worried about money or relatives or just bored of the same old thing. Even friends that are furloughed are already wishing they could work. I was ok , but this past week has been hard going and I've lost motivation to get the basics done let alone try anything new. The spring cleaning has come to a halt!
Maybe I need to get a grip!

Foo fighters - your situation is echoed across the land. It's bloody shite, my ex used to do the same re, work and computer. I bloody hated him for it towards the end.

Don't worry about the bad language - most of us don't give a fuck (see?) and there's nothing like a good swear, it helps to illustrate the point you are making.

@vampire - I second the granny trolley, helped me out no end before I learnt to drive. You can get them in some funky styles now and it's a hell of a lot easier on your back.