Who gets the biggest room?

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We are looking to move house soon. There will be 3 bedrooms. 2 are bigger and are the same size as each other. The third is a tiny box room. Could fit a single bed in and a chest of drawers (which is what's in there currently). That room is above the stairs so a bit of the room is taken up by that but you can put stuff on top of it iyswim.

There is me, dp, my ds10 and dp's dd18. Who do you think gets the smallest room?

Are you all there all of the time?

Yes do you all always live there or is DSD only there part time?

My ds will be at his dad's for half the time. Dsd will live with us full time.

If anyone is there part time they get the smaller room.

If you’re all there all the time then I’d probably toss a coin for the kids to assign rooms.

Then your DS gets the small room.

If DSD moves out then he gets an upgrade.

Do you have anywhere else (eg space for a play room/tv room)? If there’s space for a playroom I’d put the younger child in the smallest room as they can play elsewhere. Is your partners DD with you full time?

I think your son has to have the smaller room, but when your step daughter moves away then he'll get the bigger room. Is she going away to university?

Yep your DS gets the small room. It's like in 5 or so years they can swap rooms as DSD May have moved out.

Have you looked to see if you can take some room out of the bedroom next to it to make it bigger?

Absolutely invest in decent space saving storage etc.

I would give your step daughter the bigger room as she is with you full time for now but if she goes off to university, I would switch the rooms then.

Yep, DS gets the smaller room and DD gets the bigger room because she’s there all the time and needs both space and privacy.

Do both DC live with you full time? If not then I's say the one that was there less would have the smaller room

Would also need to know if the DD18 is contributing to rent/bills etc as they are an adult

How long is his DD going to be living at home? If she's planning to move out in the near future, that would be the only circumstance in which your DS should get the big room. If he's only there half the time he'll have to have the box room but I think you should have found a different house as you are asking for trouble and no solution will seem fair to the dcs.

Dsd is having a gap year then going to university but living at home. There's no other playroom or anything.

I was thinking ds needs a bigger room as he still plays in his room, gets Lego out and has friends over for sleepovers. Dsd would just lay on her bed and watch tv.

oops - missed the update - Id put DD18 in the big room and DS in the small room then

Dsd will not be contributing to rent, she doesn't work.

DS gets the smallest room. See if a loft bed will fit, so he can have a desk or play space underneath.

If DSD is going to be going to Uni but living at home then she will need somewhere eg. a desk to work in peace which would work with the small room I'm thinking - unless you could get a high sleeper with desk underneath combo

How long is DSD expecting to live with you? Indefinitely? Of to uni in 6m?
Unless it's very short term, I'd say FT child has priority.

DS1 has a small room with enough floor space for a bed and small wardrobe. We've built a cabin bed which has opened up storage underneath. From having shared a double room, he loves the small cosy space to himself.

Yes, DS gets the small room but with a cabin bed.

You've already made up your mind your DS should have the big room. You are creating a problem here. What is your current set-up with rooms?

Problem is, OP, it looks like blatant favouritism to give your son the bigger room when he's only there half the time. If I were your DH I'd be pretty ticked off.

I haven't made up my mind. He's in his room now with about 4 friends, theres no way they'd all fit in the box room in the new house.
Dsd doesn't live with us at the minute, she lives at her mums.

Dsd should get the bigger room. She lives there full time and will need a space to study.

If she's going to university soon but still living at home then she will need somewhere quiet to study.

She needs the bigger room.