Who gets the biggest room?

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We are looking to move house soon. There will be 3 bedrooms. 2 are bigger and are the same size as each other. The third is a tiny box room. Could fit a single bed in and a chest of drawers (which is what's in there currently). That room is above the stairs so a bit of the room is taken up by that but you can put stuff on top of it iyswim.

There is me, dp, my ds10 and dp's dd18. Who do you think gets the smallest room?

Sounds like you’ve decided your son gets precedence already. You’re just looking for us to validate your decision.

He’s only with you 1/2 the week. How shit will your stepdaughter feel in the small room with the lovely big room sitting empty half the time?

Dsd will not be contributing to rent, she doesn't work.

Irrelevant.

The answer is obvious, but you've clearly made up your mind in favour of your ds, even though he's only there 50% of the time. A lot of children have small rooms and still manage to play and have sleepovers, clever storage and top and tailing/ sleepover in the living room etc. Dsd will be there 100% of the time, I'm sure in uni she'll have books/ need a desk etc- you seem biased.

Somebody asked me if dsd was contributing so I answered that why I mentioned her not paying rent

I am not biased! So would you move the Xbox into the living room? There's no way he could have his xbox and 4 friends over in a box room.

DSD gets the bigger room. She lives with you full time and will need desk etc to study.
Very unfair of you to consider otherwise.

DS is only with you part time. He gets the smaller room and possibly a small but fully insulated, heated, summerhouse / den in the garden by means of a cool hang out.
If he is only with you half the week, so max 4 days, how many days out of those 4 days will he have friends round? Not often enough to warrant the big room to sit empty half the week, surely.

DS gets the small room and can upgrade when DSD moves out.
If this does not work for you, look for another house with equally sized rooms?

Could you look at other houses? This one doesn’t seem to meet your requirements.

However, if you are stuck with his room I do think the full time resident gets the bigger room.

Be creative, your son will need space to play, do homework, store toys and have friends round. A high cabin bed with a desk area underneath?

Could he store toys in his sisters room?

X box and tv in living room at age 10, irrespective of bedroom size.

I would have said dsd should get larger room until she leaves for university, then has smaller room when she returns for holidays. But if she is living at home, she is going to need a proper study space.

You can always turn the main living room
Into a play space.

Why are you moving to a house like this, OP? It's obviously unsuitable for your needs.

Hate to ask it, too, but are you and your partner paying equal shares of the house?

X box and tv in living room at age 10, irrespective of bedroom size.

This.

my brother had the box room and he crammed about eight of his friends in there to play the playstation until he was 18. they make it work. it would be very unfair to give your son the big bedroom when he won’t even be using it half the time.

Are you able to convert the loft to make a bigger bedroom? Or add a conservatory to give more living space?

Have to agree that this isn't the best layout for your household

Only fair for DSD to have the large room, your DS to have the small room and the Xbox etc to be in the living room (which is where it belongs at his age, anyway)

She's not leaving for uni. She wants to go local so she can stay at home.

Just to clarify. Dp lives in my house that I own. Ds has a room big enough for his requirements currently. I am selling my house to move in with dp so his dd can live with us. It feels like a kick in the teeth to then move ds into a tiny box room when where we are currently he is very happy. I'm only selling my house to accommodate dsd for her to then have the biggest room and pay no rent.

Maybe I shouldn't move at all.

I am not biased! So would you move the Xbox into the living room?

Yes, definitely. As PP said, regardless of bedroom size!

I'm confused. DSD isn't living there right now, then a gap year, then uni. But she's living there full time? Did I mess something?

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Maybe I shouldn't move at all.

I'd say that sounds like the best option of those presented thus far.

She's doing a gap year from home and going to a local uni.

If I didn't move at all, dsd would not be able to live with us at all.

Oh, but even if you're not moving, I still think you ought to move the Xbox downstairs.

Can't you buy a different house?