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How do you deal with horrible, random messages from men?

167 replies

minou123 · 01/02/2020 00:37

I had some diy work done in my house before Christmas and I hired a self-employed guy to do it.

I had his telephone number to arrange time/date of the work. He spent 1 day in my house completing the work. I kept out of his way and spent the day completing paperwork in my bedroom.

He has just (tonight) what's app me saying
"Minou, I think I heard you masterbatIng when I was at your house. You turned me on. You up for some"

What the fuck? I barely spoke to him and I certainly didnt do what he saying I did.
I have not replied to him.

Has anyone else had similar? What did you do? I'm a little concerned because he knows where I live.
I'm I being precious and should laugh this off? Or should I be concerned?

OP posts:
Original poster
minou123 · 01/02/2020 18:27

Thank you Smotheroffive, I asked mnhq to removed the screenshot and they have.

MrsCollinssettled
I think it's best if neither me or the neighbour contact the company who recommended him. Now it is with the police, it's probably best not to.

I'll try not not divulge any identifying information, but if anyone thinks I have, please could you let me know.

OP posts:
Legoandloldolls · 01/02/2020 18:35

"I'm worried you are mentally unstable. Dissist immediately from ever contacting me again before I tell the police and leave you a review with a screen shot of your outragoues filth on your business page"

Legoandloldolls · 01/02/2020 18:35

" you delusional batshit pervert"

smotheroffive · 01/02/2020 18:35

Your OP states the words he used in the text, this is identifying to anyone looking for evidence that your case is being publicly discussed.

Have my post deleted too, as I have made reference to it.

Wereallsquare · 01/02/2020 18:41

@minou123

To delete from Page 1:
WorraLiberty Sat 01-Feb-20 00:44:27 quotes your OP
minou123 Sat 01-Feb-20 01:04:17 you quote a message from creep

Smotheroffive · 01/02/2020 18:44

I have also reported another post of your which quotes specifics in further texts.

Wereallsquare · 01/02/2020 18:45

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minou123 Sat 01-Feb-20 02:21:50 quotes a message from creep

Original poster
minou123 · 01/02/2020 19:00

You are all brilliant thank you. Sometimes it's hard to see what it identifying when itsvyiur own life.

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Original poster
minou123 · 01/02/2020 19:10

I have asked for the posts to be deleted.
Sorry if your comment has been deleted, ot doesnt mean it was against talk guidelines, only that you have quoted one of my deleted posts.

It does mean there are quite a lot of holes in the thread, so it might not make much sense now. But hopefully everyone understands why I've had to do this.

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PerkyPomPoms · 01/02/2020 20:34

Wishing you all the best with this pervert

Wereallsquare · 01/02/2020 22:10

@minou123 Well done getting the posts deleted. Do you want to ask MNHQ to edit out the quote from whatsapp in your original post at the start of the thread?

Smotheroffive · 01/02/2020 22:34

Those on the thread from the start wil know what you are talking about.

I am so impressed that you have taken such strong steps to pursue his acts against you. He deserves some consequences for his sexual harassment.

Also UYScuti Smotheroffive you have misconstrued my post

I disagree as I fail to see the relevance of men being raped, on a thread where OP is distresssed about male sexual aggression?! Confused

Well if thats miscontruing ....you certainly haven't explained for anyone to know your intent in posting that, or your taking matters into your own hands style of rocking up with a load of men!

Original poster
minou123 · 03/02/2020 16:34

Not sure of anyone would like an update.
But I am taking this forward formally.

The police have been fantastic and are taking this seriously. They explained that they whilst this is a "minor" crime (so to speak), it can escalate to serious crime.

Thank you to every one who has been supportive and given excellent advice. Mumsnet at its finest.

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Moomin8 · 03/02/2020 16:41

I was going to say tell the police - I'm glad you have done.

lilgreen · 03/02/2020 16:43

Well done op.

woooooo · 03/02/2020 16:51

Good. I'm glad you are taking this further. That takes guts. I hope they throw the book at him, the creep. I hope you are getting some support and that you come back and update us with the final outcome, how ever far in the future that may be 👍🏼

Wereallsquare · 03/02/2020 17:20

Brava, Minou!

CoraPirbright · 03/02/2020 18:25

Well done OP. We are all behind you!

lamalama · 03/02/2020 18:34

Well done 👍🏻

RandomMess · 03/02/2020 18:48

Well done Thanks

Oldstyle · 03/02/2020 18:53

Well done OP. So cheering that this particular sexist abusive creep might end up with a visit from the police, or (hopefully) a visit to the courts. Flowers

BedraggledBlitz · 03/02/2020 19:04

Well done. Hopefully he won't repeat this awful behaviour in future.

Horsemad · 03/02/2020 20:29

Excellent news OP!

captainpantbeard · 05/02/2020 00:51

Good work, OP 💪

lilgreen · 05/02/2020 17:54

Every one of us needs to take this behaviour to task. A guy flashed me and started to gesture masturbation at me when I was walking my dog in the afternoon at school finishing time a few years ago. I reported him to the police but they had no resources to look for him even though I continued to see him every week at the same time. In the end I followed him at a distance and got his address. Police got him and he went to court. Guilty verdict. Job done.