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To wonder how this lady does this

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Ellafoambanana · 05/01/2020 11:00

A few years ago now a 19 year-old added me on Facebook. I was 26 at the time. She was doing that Juice plus thing so adding random people.she seemed very nice she had a child my age, occasionally we swapped comments with each other on a picture or whatever. it started to dawn on me that she didn't work other than the Juice plus and her young teenage boyfriend was in the army. I know they don't particularly get paid a massive amount of money. She started doing care work last year and then had another baby.

She's about 23 now I presume and and she literally has absolutely everything and all her life is 100% under control. Her house is immaculate. Brand new everything and constantly spending money. I remember this summer she had all her garden done up. She got rid of all her beautiful beds with gorgeous velvet crushed headboardsbut she got a couple of years ago and she replaced them with more grey shiny headboard beds. All her carpets are grey all her bedding is grey her sofas are grey. All brand new. She had a new shark hoover a couple of months ago, fridge freezer a new cooker and a kettle. One of those fancy glass dining tables with the big fancy cushion chairs. She has one of those expensive steam mops.she bought one of those massive log burner things for the garden and one of those fire pits. Load of gravel went down a new barbecue was brought.

Over the last 4 years of having this girl on my Facebook I have watched her spend money like she's a millionaire.she had a baby about 6 months ago and in her pregnancy she easily must have spent about £5,000 on random stuff.or personalised my 1st years most expensive pram her bedroom was done up like a showroom. All the baby grows from mamas and papas. Expensive outfits that cost £30 each. She had absolutely everything you could think of for that baby.

when they have takeaways which is several times a week they have Domino's and they have everything with it. When is coming up to one of the kids birthdays she just buys ridiculous amounts of presents. I'd guess that she spend at least £600 on each child for their birthdays and christmases.she's constantly spending £100 in next and put in piles of clothes on with labels so we can see the prices. It's like she just never stops.

Then on top of all this she has a huge cleaning obsession. She is a hinch fan. She buys all the zoflora and flash in bulk.
She's always doing these videos of cleaning up. The ones that make you think how is she doing that and being a mother at the same time. There's no signs of toys in the living room and the kids bedrooms are immaculate.she hoovers through every single day and does videos of her shark hoover making lines in the carpet. She cleans her cupboards and fridge every week and does the videos of her wiping them out.her latest thing is tap the screen to see my tidy house so she does before and after shots of her cleaning up. She shows her ironing pile then shows us the baby gros all folded nearly away. She loves cleaning. She does her kitchen every night so it's immaculate and all pots away. Nothing draining. Candles lit. Then shows pictures of her relaxing on the sofa at night.

Her Christmas decorations were obviously expensive and all matching. Her paper matched her baubles.

I'm 30 and trying My best to stop my kids messing up the room I've just tidied. I can't get my life in order because of the fact little people like playing and eating and sneaking in the cupboards.

How does someone who buys so much have such a tidy organised house. How do they afford it anyway? It's none of my business. I've just noticed people are getting more and more like this. The need to be tidy and perfect. Their children to be perfect and have it all.

Also at 23 her life is so perfect and she has everything even 40 year olds are still trying to get. How is that? It's bizarre isn't it. Also she doesnt seem to have any friends or mix. She seems to be alone all the time.

Has Mrs hinch made people sad or is this a positive thing.

It gets annoying seeing people showing you what they have all the time? It's a strange world we live in now isn't it.

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Horsemad · 05/01/2020 11:02

Probably all on credit cards.

Ellafoambanana · 05/01/2020 11:05

Yeah I wondered that. But surely she will end up in serious trouble if it is. I actually googled what army pay is and her chappy won't be on much more than 18,000. My partner's on double that and we have to sensible.

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bsc · 05/01/2020 11:05

It's all nonsense. The clothes have the labels on because they'll be returned, for example. It's all fantasy, to make people join her MLM cult.
Just forget SM - it's a waste of your life.

QuillBill · 05/01/2020 11:06

Well she isn’t! Don’t you know anyone in real life who posts skewed stuff on their social media. I once went to playgroup with a woman who would post ‘fabulous morning out with my girlfriends’ when we had just been to playgroup which is more like hell than fabulous. And my neighbour did a Mother’s Day photo shoot in her back garden which was accompanied by screams and fights and much crying but the photos were amazing. I can assure you that neither mother or daughter enjoyed their Mother’s Day picnic.

People in pyramid schemes/MLM have to give the illusion that their lives are perfect in order to lure people in to want to sell what they are selling. And to save face so they don’t look daft.

bsc · 05/01/2020 11:07

And read the threads on MN about children raised in show homes- they had horrible childhoods.

Scrumptiousbears · 05/01/2020 11:07

Probably pictures of someone else's house going by another post on here.

Anyone can fake stuff on FB.

QuillBill · 05/01/2020 11:07

www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p076n2hg

QforCucumber · 05/01/2020 11:09

If shes in rented she MAY be claiming as single, even if not they'll be entitled to housing benefit and others. A lot is done for insta and then returned too (clothes etc) people also reuse their old photos or re pose items for many different photos. It's why a lot of kids never feel good enough because of people like that making out their amazing lives but are all fake.

Ellafoambanana · 05/01/2020 11:09

I always think the kids are far too tidy. Mr daughter is so messy. I'm training her to pick stuff up more now and she is starting too. But our home is sort of half done up but materialistic things will wait now until my toddler is older. My kids occasionally draw on walls. They get sticky fingers on things and they are curious. I spend all my time watching them. I never get chance to blitz my cupboards more than twice a year in the kitchen.

It's like she has hours in the day the rest of us don't have.

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Ellafoambanana · 05/01/2020 11:10

They bought a house this year. They were renting. Unless some rich relative has given money I can't see how she manages. I think her fella has a BMW too!

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Goawayquickly · 05/01/2020 11:11

They could have an inheritance, help from parents, lottery win or it could all be on borrowed money. If she’s part of an MLM there may be a bit of ‘smoke and mirrors’ going on (clothes returned to the shop, gifts being from others or even images from google/other peoples houses)

It could be that they’re genuinely sorted kind of people. I’m bemused by your references to grey in your post, is this a sign of something? ‘All grey’

Does she have a large Instagram following and gets gifted things?

lanbro · 05/01/2020 11:11

Personally I think it's very sad that people are so invested in cleaning. I like a tidy house but also for it to look like a family home, not a show home.

It's either on credit, she had a windfall or they literally do nothing else. I could spend more than I do on my house and dc but it's more important for me to have several holidays, weekends away, activities etc. I'm not bothered about designer vacuums or changing my beds and sofa every couple of years. Different priorities isn't it?

Or maybe she's a drug dealer?!

Ellafoambanana · 05/01/2020 11:12

I think she's definitely real. She no longer does juice plus either. She's a carer now! I used to do that and it certainly doesn't give you much free time or money for that matter lol

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Ellafoambanana · 05/01/2020 11:16

She has only got 1000 people. She attempted to do one of those home pages but it didn't take off. She kept posting her grey bathroom and clean kitchen. Nobody surely gives a shit lol. I don't have the energy to clean much more than I already do. I do my essential things and school runs and stuff. It seems a sad life to lead. She probably doesn't realise how braggy she looks.

I sometimes feel like messaging her and saying how do you afford all these things and you should be enjoying your life and children.

Something must not be right with her emotionally. It's like she has something huge to proove. Yet her mum is in her life and she's extreme too. She has the eldest for sleepovers and the table of snacks is ridiculous. Cakes, crisps, haribos, donuts, yoghurts. It's like a months worth of junk food. Maybe it comes from her mum being over the top.

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Tatty101 · 05/01/2020 11:17

People only ever put the best bits of their lives (or what shows them to be really great) on SM. I wouldn't believe everything you see/read!

Monstermummymum · 05/01/2020 11:18

You can never get a true picture of someone's life from a photo. I blog about messy play and sensory activities. I live in a small, often messy flat but you wouldn't see that in my photos because we do activities in the large room and I crop out the background (piles of washing, aprons, art stuff and toys). It is so easy to crop, edit and change things. Plus, you don't know her background- she might have rich family, she could have inherited or as someone else said used credit cards. She could work nights cleaning! I wouldn't make yourself feel shit about it- if her house is that clean then she is probably lonely.

ColouredPolkaDots · 05/01/2020 11:20

Admittedly, I have a very tidy home. It's the only way I feel sane. But... it's all mostly cleaned once my DS is in bed, aside from bed changes/hoovering. I certainly don't relax until past 10pm besides an odd evening. And I spend money on clothes/food a lot but can't afford carpet yet. And for my growing DS I feel clothing him is more important. It's all Primark stuff. People think my life is good because my cupboards are full and home is tidy but really I'm struggling with money a lot and am an exhausted single parent with a druggie for an ex. I'm just trying to give DS the best I can. I certainly don't post illusions.

I also know someone very similar to this and am wondering how the he'll she's affording things. Her parents didn't contribute and there's no inheritance and her DP is also in the army. It makes no sense aside from getting in loads of debt.

Peanutbutteryogurt · 05/01/2020 11:21

Sounds tacky as hell tbh, none of that is anything I aspire too.

Peanutbutteryogurt · 05/01/2020 11:21

*to!

fedup21 · 05/01/2020 11:23

She’s a carer and her husband earns £18k?

They either have had an inheritance/lottery win or it’s on credit/fake.

BiBiBirdie · 05/01/2020 11:26

Am I alone in feeling you come off OP as unfulfilled and slightly jealous?
If you are so sick of it, why not unfriend her?
Whether she's on a con, playing the system or secretly well off, it's none of your business.
It always amazes me why people follow others they seem to hate with a passion! I didn't like what some of my friends on Facebook wrote during the election, I quietly chucked them.
It's called being an adult. It's so playground to "collect" people despite not liking them.

Onewardsup · 05/01/2020 11:27

There is an absolutely lovely mum in our school who looks immaculate at drop off, full hair, makeup stilettos to forest school the lot. Her house is beautiful and perfect, the kids always spotless.

But those kids were in tears when one fell down and got mud on her impractical dress at a party, and I’ve had to speak firmly to my 7yo when the little boy started his school swimming lessons in a float and armbands, terrified crying of going in the water and his hair messing up. A lot of the kids were laughing.

To me that perfection is damaging her children.

PegasusReturns · 05/01/2020 11:29

Why so unkind?

Cleaning and grey decor is not my thing but it’s obviously hers and she’s likely doing no harm. If she’s bought her own house then she’s obviously doing something right.

Maybe she had an inheritance or a lottery win. Good for her making her own success of life.

Thefaceofboe · 05/01/2020 11:32

I feel sorry for this girl not knowing she’s on a MNs thread. I have a basic job and my partner has a good job but makes a lot more money than people may think, which is why we have bought a lovely house, new cars etc. I’d hate for people to question where we get our money from Confused

pigdogridesagain · 05/01/2020 11:34

I have a friend who has moved from a normal life, council house, working hard etc. She now lives abroad with her new hubby and her lifestyle is like something you can only dream of! However when I was chatting to her a while ago and remarked on how I'd love her life she replied " not everything is what it seems on social media, they don't call it fakebook for nothing" 🤷‍♀️