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To wonder how this lady does this

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Ellafoambanana · 05/01/2020 11:00

A few years ago now a 19 year-old added me on Facebook. I was 26 at the time. She was doing that Juice plus thing so adding random people.she seemed very nice she had a child my age, occasionally we swapped comments with each other on a picture or whatever. it started to dawn on me that she didn't work other than the Juice plus and her young teenage boyfriend was in the army. I know they don't particularly get paid a massive amount of money. She started doing care work last year and then had another baby.

She's about 23 now I presume and and she literally has absolutely everything and all her life is 100% under control. Her house is immaculate. Brand new everything and constantly spending money. I remember this summer she had all her garden done up. She got rid of all her beautiful beds with gorgeous velvet crushed headboardsbut she got a couple of years ago and she replaced them with more grey shiny headboard beds. All her carpets are grey all her bedding is grey her sofas are grey. All brand new. She had a new shark hoover a couple of months ago, fridge freezer a new cooker and a kettle. One of those fancy glass dining tables with the big fancy cushion chairs. She has one of those expensive steam mops.she bought one of those massive log burner things for the garden and one of those fire pits. Load of gravel went down a new barbecue was brought.

Over the last 4 years of having this girl on my Facebook I have watched her spend money like she's a millionaire.she had a baby about 6 months ago and in her pregnancy she easily must have spent about £5,000 on random stuff.or personalised my 1st years most expensive pram her bedroom was done up like a showroom. All the baby grows from mamas and papas. Expensive outfits that cost £30 each. She had absolutely everything you could think of for that baby.

when they have takeaways which is several times a week they have Domino's and they have everything with it. When is coming up to one of the kids birthdays she just buys ridiculous amounts of presents. I'd guess that she spend at least £600 on each child for their birthdays and christmases.she's constantly spending £100 in next and put in piles of clothes on with labels so we can see the prices. It's like she just never stops.

Then on top of all this she has a huge cleaning obsession. She is a hinch fan. She buys all the zoflora and flash in bulk.
She's always doing these videos of cleaning up. The ones that make you think how is she doing that and being a mother at the same time. There's no signs of toys in the living room and the kids bedrooms are immaculate.she hoovers through every single day and does videos of her shark hoover making lines in the carpet. She cleans her cupboards and fridge every week and does the videos of her wiping them out.her latest thing is tap the screen to see my tidy house so she does before and after shots of her cleaning up. She shows her ironing pile then shows us the baby gros all folded nearly away. She loves cleaning. She does her kitchen every night so it's immaculate and all pots away. Nothing draining. Candles lit. Then shows pictures of her relaxing on the sofa at night.

Her Christmas decorations were obviously expensive and all matching. Her paper matched her baubles.

I'm 30 and trying My best to stop my kids messing up the room I've just tidied. I can't get my life in order because of the fact little people like playing and eating and sneaking in the cupboards.

How does someone who buys so much have such a tidy organised house. How do they afford it anyway? It's none of my business. I've just noticed people are getting more and more like this. The need to be tidy and perfect. Their children to be perfect and have it all.

Also at 23 her life is so perfect and she has everything even 40 year olds are still trying to get. How is that? It's bizarre isn't it. Also she doesnt seem to have any friends or mix. She seems to be alone all the time.

Has Mrs hinch made people sad or is this a positive thing.

It gets annoying seeing people showing you what they have all the time? It's a strange world we live in now isn't it.

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bettybattenburg · 05/01/2020 11:57

Why is she even on your Facebook? She obviously irritates you and here you are posting a very judgemental thread about it her which is identifiable so you obviously don't like her either.

UnnecessarilyUpset · 05/01/2020 11:58

Something must not be right with her emotionally.

Firstly I don't like the way you worded this but to pick out your own words, I'd say you're actually describing yourself here. Do you feel unhappy or unfulfilled?

I think you should unfollow her. Comparison is the the thief of joy.

zasknbg · 05/01/2020 12:00

Just forget it.

Never compare your life to one you see online.

Get on with your own life, seriously. Nothing is to be gained from wondering about this woman.

ch3y · 05/01/2020 12:01

@ellafoambanana

People like you need to mind your own business. I smell jealousy! Why are you so concerned with how someone else lives? All very weird to me. Id hate to think what you would say about your own friends or family.

zasknbg · 05/01/2020 12:03

My house is consumed by kids' shite if it makes you feel better OP!

IamTheAntiChrist · 05/01/2020 12:06

TBH you sound like you are weirdly obsessed with her. Stop stalking her and do something more useful with your time.

BlackCatSleeping · 05/01/2020 12:08

SIL’s husband’s parents are very wealthy, so they paid for their house and fancy car. They pay for holidays abroad and give loads of money for their kids. It all means that even though he doesn’t have a high-paying job, they can live very well without a mortgage to worry about.

I think in your friend’s case, it’s probably a lot on credit, plus smoke and mirrors.

Daisy7654 · 05/01/2020 12:08

Have you been round in real life? I bet it's very different.
Probably in less nice area and quite cheap property but done up in matalan grey throughout so looks 'flash' in photos.

I think its a shame that that's what 23 yos are up to nowadays. At 23 I was young and living life to the full. Clubbing raving partied holidays. I lived in a house share and picked the cleanest baggy jumper off the floor to wear. You're a long time old, youth is for living!

Waxonwaxoff0 · 05/01/2020 12:11

I do know someone that has made a LOT of money from Juice Plus. She caught onto it when it first started out and doesn't do it any more but she makes loads of commission off her "team" and has invested in property.

I'm talking a £100k Range Rover, buying her young daughter Chanel handbags kind of money.

You don't sound very nice OP. Concentrate on your own life and stop being so concerned with what other people are doing.

oohnicevase · 05/01/2020 12:13

See , I'd rather not work or have Primark clothes than be a carer but each to their own . I doubt any of it is real to be honest !

christmastreewithhairyfairy · 05/01/2020 12:16

Each to their own and all that but her life sounds very dull to me. Buying stuff, cleaning and posting it all on SM. Not my cup of tea! I definitely wouldn't call it perfect.

Sagradafamiliar · 05/01/2020 12:16

A friend of mine when we were a bit younger was married to an army guy. They had young kids and wanted for nothing, I assumed he was bringing home a lot of money. No idea!
Stop looking so closely at her life, people live their lives the way they want to: you've already explained why her house is immaculate, she cleans it like it's a hobby.
Spending time looking after the things you possess is free. A few expensive things is explained by furniture plans, credit cards, spare cash, gifts, savings and deals.
Look to your own life if you're unhappy with it.

MoonlightBonnet · 05/01/2020 12:16

£18k is less than a private earns in the army. After being in for at least five years her partner could be a lance corporal on £27k. He could also be in a role which pays more than standard. You know nothing about her finances and should Unfriend her because neither of you are getting anything positive from you following her.

christmastreewithhairyfairy · 05/01/2020 12:16

Xpost oohnicevase Smile

SleepingStandingUp · 05/01/2020 12:17

How do you know so much about what she has had new etx? You sound utterly obsessed.

For your own happiness, u follow her and step away.

It's a tually kinda creepy to know so much about someone else's life, googling their partners salary etc

Keepmewarm · 05/01/2020 12:18

I don’t know who I feel more sorry for, her or you.

Cooper88 · 05/01/2020 12:18

I saw this on Facebook and seems to sum it up perfectly.

To wonder how this lady does this
unkindnessofravens · 05/01/2020 12:19

Agree with everything WorraLiberty has said. You seem waaay over-invested in this woman's life. Maybe time to step away from Facebook and focus on your own life, instead of questioning how she lives hers

Lipperfromchipper · 05/01/2020 12:21

There’s a family on my street with a HUGE, gorgeous house, everything looks perfect from the outside. Truth is the house is only huge because they had a dc who was left severely brain damaged due to medical negligence. They got millions from a medical claim and extended the house to include a hoist system and hydro therapy pool, an Annexe to house the 24/7 nurses their child needed etc etc. That child subsequently passed away years later. My point being things are NEVER what the seem OP. Be kind to yourself and to others. I’m sure that family would much rather have their dc back.

GabsAlot · 05/01/2020 12:22

There was a thread on here recently about fake sm posts and things people will lie about-I doubt most of it is real and if it is might be inhertiance or handouts

Step away and stop being obsessed with this woman even if u asked her how do you think she will tell the truth

Bluerussian · 05/01/2020 12:23

A few years ago now a 19 year-old added me on Facebook. I was 26 at the time. She was doing that Juice plus thing so adding random people.she seemed very nice she had a child my age

Can't work out how a 19 year old can have a 26 year old child ;-).

If she is getting on your nerves you don't have to follow her.

Ellafoambanana · 05/01/2020 12:25

It's not stalking. She puts it all over social media. It's in my newfeed and stuff. Yes I have thought to myself how the hell does she do it. Maybe I'm a tad jelous that someone that young has everything and more and manages life and routine perfectly. Yes I am struggling having young kids and keeping my home spotless and stuff. I don't think it's stalking when she wants to show us all everything she does. I figured army people were rich. So me and my partner googled the salary. Not to be a total stalker. I have unfriended her this morning. It was getting on my nerves seeing her cleaning and showing off. I am not happy in all areas of my life. But thanks for telling me im weird and need help. Was just curious why so many people want to show you this stuff now.

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SunshineCake · 05/01/2020 12:25

Do you go without because she appears to have this stuff?

ShawshanksRedemption · 05/01/2020 12:27

OP do you actually know this person in real life? It doesn't sound like you do, so I can't understand why you'd accept a friend request from a random person. Why do you think you did that, and why continue to be FB friends if it's making you feel so uncomfortable? Why are you so invested? I just don't get it.

wowfudge · 05/01/2020 12:29

It's all fake or paid for through huge debts or a mixture of the two.