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To wonder how this lady does this

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Ellafoambanana · 05/01/2020 11:00

A few years ago now a 19 year-old added me on Facebook. I was 26 at the time. She was doing that Juice plus thing so adding random people.she seemed very nice she had a child my age, occasionally we swapped comments with each other on a picture or whatever. it started to dawn on me that she didn't work other than the Juice plus and her young teenage boyfriend was in the army. I know they don't particularly get paid a massive amount of money. She started doing care work last year and then had another baby.

She's about 23 now I presume and and she literally has absolutely everything and all her life is 100% under control. Her house is immaculate. Brand new everything and constantly spending money. I remember this summer she had all her garden done up. She got rid of all her beautiful beds with gorgeous velvet crushed headboardsbut she got a couple of years ago and she replaced them with more grey shiny headboard beds. All her carpets are grey all her bedding is grey her sofas are grey. All brand new. She had a new shark hoover a couple of months ago, fridge freezer a new cooker and a kettle. One of those fancy glass dining tables with the big fancy cushion chairs. She has one of those expensive steam mops.she bought one of those massive log burner things for the garden and one of those fire pits. Load of gravel went down a new barbecue was brought.

Over the last 4 years of having this girl on my Facebook I have watched her spend money like she's a millionaire.she had a baby about 6 months ago and in her pregnancy she easily must have spent about £5,000 on random stuff.or personalised my 1st years most expensive pram her bedroom was done up like a showroom. All the baby grows from mamas and papas. Expensive outfits that cost £30 each. She had absolutely everything you could think of for that baby.

when they have takeaways which is several times a week they have Domino's and they have everything with it. When is coming up to one of the kids birthdays she just buys ridiculous amounts of presents. I'd guess that she spend at least £600 on each child for their birthdays and christmases.she's constantly spending £100 in next and put in piles of clothes on with labels so we can see the prices. It's like she just never stops.

Then on top of all this she has a huge cleaning obsession. She is a hinch fan. She buys all the zoflora and flash in bulk.
She's always doing these videos of cleaning up. The ones that make you think how is she doing that and being a mother at the same time. There's no signs of toys in the living room and the kids bedrooms are immaculate.she hoovers through every single day and does videos of her shark hoover making lines in the carpet. She cleans her cupboards and fridge every week and does the videos of her wiping them out.her latest thing is tap the screen to see my tidy house so she does before and after shots of her cleaning up. She shows her ironing pile then shows us the baby gros all folded nearly away. She loves cleaning. She does her kitchen every night so it's immaculate and all pots away. Nothing draining. Candles lit. Then shows pictures of her relaxing on the sofa at night.

Her Christmas decorations were obviously expensive and all matching. Her paper matched her baubles.

I'm 30 and trying My best to stop my kids messing up the room I've just tidied. I can't get my life in order because of the fact little people like playing and eating and sneaking in the cupboards.

How does someone who buys so much have such a tidy organised house. How do they afford it anyway? It's none of my business. I've just noticed people are getting more and more like this. The need to be tidy and perfect. Their children to be perfect and have it all.

Also at 23 her life is so perfect and she has everything even 40 year olds are still trying to get. How is that? It's bizarre isn't it. Also she doesnt seem to have any friends or mix. She seems to be alone all the time.

Has Mrs hinch made people sad or is this a positive thing.

It gets annoying seeing people showing you what they have all the time? It's a strange world we live in now isn't it.

OP posts:
Daenerys77 · 05/01/2020 11:37

If it annoys you, you don't have to read it.

PineappleDanish · 05/01/2020 11:37

You have no proof that any of it is actually hers. Lots of MLM bots fake everything, passing off friends and family's purchases, holidays and cars as their own.

Yes she might have come into money or making a good salary in a proper job, but more likely it's all for show.

SoupDragon · 05/01/2020 11:38

This seems really mean spirited

WireBrushAndDettolMaam · 05/01/2020 11:39

Drug dealing.

MamaKarmaLlama · 05/01/2020 11:40

It’ll be fake. You can fake anything on SM. Just don’t invest.

Januaryjanuary · 05/01/2020 11:41

I get you OP. But it's her business.
She's probably in debt up to her eyeballs.
Not your concern

BiBiBirdie · 05/01/2020 11:42

Have you ever thought boyfriend was injured during his service with the army and has compensation and a pension as a result?

Lovemusic33 · 05/01/2020 11:43

Stop comparing your life to some random person who you have on Fb. Unfollow her, she’s obviously one of these people who likes to show off about how perfect her life is, she’s probably miserable and her kids are probably scared to play incase they make a mess or break something. A tidy house isn’t always a happy house.

I’m on a DIY page on Facebook and I’m shocked at the amount of show homes on there, immaculate living rooms and bedrooms that look like they are not lived in, I can imagine living in that environment isn’t fun at all.

I don’t understand why people have to post photos of what they have bought, how they have decorated their homes or what they are eating on social media. They must lead sad lives and are just looking for complements.

JaffaCakeGal · 05/01/2020 11:43

Social media isn't real life. Do you even know this girl in real life? It could all be fake. Or she could be working the web cams and earning money that way!

pelirocco123 · 05/01/2020 11:43

Some very spiteful jealous posts as per usual .
Maybe she has inherited money , maybe she won the lottery or maybe they have high earnings..plus some people ate very very good with money

2020newme · 05/01/2020 11:44

OP. Please don't take this the wrong way, but you sound like you are cyber stalking this woman!! Maybe if you unfriended her, you could spend the time that you waste looking at her posts, and then looking up where each item you can see comes from, and how much it costs, you would have more time to improve your own life in whatever way you see fit?

They probably have wealthy relatives who are happy to support them/inheritance/other financial windfall. There are loads of people out there who have more than you/are tidier than you/better organised than you. So what? Quite often on these types of threads you will get loads of people saying it must be credit and they will come unstuck, in a horrible schadenfreude kind of way.

Stop thinking about her and start thinking about your own life and what you want to do with it. Flowers

travellover · 05/01/2020 11:45

Honestly why don't you just unfriend her if it bothers you so much? Confused

helpmum2003 · 05/01/2020 11:45

Maybe she has OCD and huge credit card debt.
I think you should block and move on with your life.
Showing price labels on SM is unbelievably tacky.

OutComeTheWolves · 05/01/2020 11:46

I mean this in the kindest way, but I think you're putting far too much thought into the lifestyle of a passing acquaintance.

It might be all on credit cards, it might be all for show, she may have inherited money, she could be one of the tiny minority of people who actually made money with an mlm or she may just be really good at budgeting. Either way it's unlikely that you'll ever find out and it has no bearing at all on your life and how happy you are with your lot. I think the danger with people who post lots of pictures of their homes and belongings on insta is it becomes easy to forget that life isn't about the things that we own.

Sargass0 · 05/01/2020 11:46

Just delete her. What's more sad is how you're googling stuff like how much her partner must earn and trying to work out how she does it instead of living your own life.

What you really wanted from this thread was a pile on of posters deriding her and her lifestyle to make your own insecurities feel less significant.
I know a few people like you in RL who can't be happy unless they are running someone else down so the same can be said of you about something being wrong emotionally- otherwise this wouldn't even bother you.

I would read up on psychological projection and see if something in your life needs to change.

Orangeblossom78 · 05/01/2020 11:48

A bit OTT to be that obsessed with someone you have never met. Yes there are all sorts of blogs / cleaning / MLM type people doing fake stuff. Just ignore it or unfollow if it is annoying you

Gingerninja01 · 05/01/2020 11:49

She is hardly likely to admit either shes up to her eyeballs in debt buying all this shit to show off, or that actually her mum pays for it all.

WorraLiberty · 05/01/2020 11:51

Something must not be right with her emotionally. It's like she has something huge to proove. Yet her mum is in her life and she's extreme too. She has the eldest for sleepovers and the table of snacks is ridiculous. Cakes, crisps, haribos, donuts, yoghurts. It's like a months worth of junk food. Maybe it comes from her mum being over the top.

I'd say there's something definitely not right in your life emotionally either Hmm

You got it right in your opening post when you said It's none of my business.

But then you go on to say I sometimes feel like messaging her and saying how do you afford all these things and you should be enjoying your life and children.

Really don't. What on earth makes you think she's not enjoying her life and her children?

Start enjoying your life with yours and stop comparing it to other people's.

DowntonCrabby · 05/01/2020 11:53

I genuinely think it’s as sad that you’re so invested in this stranger as it is that she feels she has to project a “perfect” life on SM.

Honestly, unfriend her and you do you. Flowers

AmazingGreats · 05/01/2020 11:53

I'm always in awe of people who's houses look like a show home or who have beautiful hair and makeup all the time. I just think, wow, I have no idea how you have the time/motivation etc. To do that. It looks amazing, I'd love to have my home look so perfect, I'd love to look so glamorous, but I don't have the time/motivation. I used to feel a level of envy of those people, now I admire them but do not find the need to be like them or prove that it's fake in some way. I can be friends with those people and just know we are different and that I can admire something or be in awe with it without having to become jealous or envious in any way.

WorraLiberty · 05/01/2020 11:53

What you really wanted from this thread was a pile on of posters deriding her and her lifestyle to make your own insecurities feel less significant.
I know a few people like you in RL who can't be happy unless they are running someone else down so the same can be said of you about something being wrong emotionally- otherwise this wouldn't even bother you.

And this ^^ from Sargass0 100%.

Inviting an internet bitch-fest from internet strangers may make you feel better for a few hours but then you're still left with the problem that you're consumed with jealousy and you need to make changes, or risk it eating you up for the rest of your life.

You're obsessed and it's not healthy.

Mounty87 · 05/01/2020 11:54

Is she in army accommodation i.e. no rent?

katzenellenbogen · 05/01/2020 11:55

OP- most all of what she posts is lies.

Stop believing all this fake shite and get on with your life.

ElefanteIntheroom · 05/01/2020 11:56

I can only think of escorting or exotic dancing that would pay for a lifestyle like that.

Illberidingshotgun · 05/01/2020 11:56

It may all be fake (have you met her in real life??) they may have had an inheritance, or come into some money in another way. Who knows. The thing to focus on is how this FB friendship is impacting on you, and your mental/emotional health. You seem overly concerned about this woman's life - even spending time googling what her partner's salary might be Shock. Perhaps consider having a break from SM for a time. Live your life how you want to, bring your children up how you want to, and delight in the mess, the sticky fingers, and the untidy cupboards.