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To wonder how this lady does this

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Ellafoambanana · 05/01/2020 11:00

A few years ago now a 19 year-old added me on Facebook. I was 26 at the time. She was doing that Juice plus thing so adding random people.she seemed very nice she had a child my age, occasionally we swapped comments with each other on a picture or whatever. it started to dawn on me that she didn't work other than the Juice plus and her young teenage boyfriend was in the army. I know they don't particularly get paid a massive amount of money. She started doing care work last year and then had another baby.

She's about 23 now I presume and and she literally has absolutely everything and all her life is 100% under control. Her house is immaculate. Brand new everything and constantly spending money. I remember this summer she had all her garden done up. She got rid of all her beautiful beds with gorgeous velvet crushed headboardsbut she got a couple of years ago and she replaced them with more grey shiny headboard beds. All her carpets are grey all her bedding is grey her sofas are grey. All brand new. She had a new shark hoover a couple of months ago, fridge freezer a new cooker and a kettle. One of those fancy glass dining tables with the big fancy cushion chairs. She has one of those expensive steam mops.she bought one of those massive log burner things for the garden and one of those fire pits. Load of gravel went down a new barbecue was brought.

Over the last 4 years of having this girl on my Facebook I have watched her spend money like she's a millionaire.she had a baby about 6 months ago and in her pregnancy she easily must have spent about £5,000 on random stuff.or personalised my 1st years most expensive pram her bedroom was done up like a showroom. All the baby grows from mamas and papas. Expensive outfits that cost £30 each. She had absolutely everything you could think of for that baby.

when they have takeaways which is several times a week they have Domino's and they have everything with it. When is coming up to one of the kids birthdays she just buys ridiculous amounts of presents. I'd guess that she spend at least £600 on each child for their birthdays and christmases.she's constantly spending £100 in next and put in piles of clothes on with labels so we can see the prices. It's like she just never stops.

Then on top of all this she has a huge cleaning obsession. She is a hinch fan. She buys all the zoflora and flash in bulk.
She's always doing these videos of cleaning up. The ones that make you think how is she doing that and being a mother at the same time. There's no signs of toys in the living room and the kids bedrooms are immaculate.she hoovers through every single day and does videos of her shark hoover making lines in the carpet. She cleans her cupboards and fridge every week and does the videos of her wiping them out.her latest thing is tap the screen to see my tidy house so she does before and after shots of her cleaning up. She shows her ironing pile then shows us the baby gros all folded nearly away. She loves cleaning. She does her kitchen every night so it's immaculate and all pots away. Nothing draining. Candles lit. Then shows pictures of her relaxing on the sofa at night.

Her Christmas decorations were obviously expensive and all matching. Her paper matched her baubles.

I'm 30 and trying My best to stop my kids messing up the room I've just tidied. I can't get my life in order because of the fact little people like playing and eating and sneaking in the cupboards.

How does someone who buys so much have such a tidy organised house. How do they afford it anyway? It's none of my business. I've just noticed people are getting more and more like this. The need to be tidy and perfect. Their children to be perfect and have it all.

Also at 23 her life is so perfect and she has everything even 40 year olds are still trying to get. How is that? It's bizarre isn't it. Also she doesnt seem to have any friends or mix. She seems to be alone all the time.

Has Mrs hinch made people sad or is this a positive thing.

It gets annoying seeing people showing you what they have all the time? It's a strange world we live in now isn't it.

OP posts:
brassbrass · 05/01/2020 13:11

If she's making videos she could be sent a lot of stuff as an influencer. Does she have many followers?

The other thing I've noticed is many if these youtuber types keep labels on clothes for example as I think after they've made the video they return the items. So it's all for show.

You can't assume what you're seeing is real these days.

Bluerussian · 05/01/2020 13:13

Just block her, it's not worth you being invested in this woman's life. Don't take comments on here too personally and try to concentrate on what is good in your life.

I was always messy and disorganised compared to others but we muddled through and it never bothered me that others were better at managing and domestics. Not good to make comparisons.

Chin up Wine.

brassbrass · 05/01/2020 13:14

And I've seen the all grey decor you're describing. I'm afraid it all looks pretty unimaginative and cheap and tacky. Grey crushed velvet headboard is high on my yuk list. Screams I have no idea what is tasteful.

HermioneWeasley · 05/01/2020 13:14

Never compare someone else’s edited highlights with your behind the scenes

MoonlightMistletoe · 05/01/2020 13:16

OP, you arnt a weirdo!

It's very easy to notice people when they want to be noticed you arnt being a stalker she's showing her "perfect" life off.

I can assure you that people who do things like that don't have the perfect life people perceive. By making other people think they have their shit together makes that person feel like they have. We never know what goes on behind closed doors.

No one is truly perfect, most of us are winging it and you enjoy what you have ♥️

SoupDragon · 05/01/2020 13:16

Screams I have no idea what is tasteful.

Feel free to describe your oh so tasteful home so that people can judge it.

MoonlightMistletoe · 05/01/2020 13:17

@HermioneWeasley I love what you just said there !

BlackCatSleeping · 05/01/2020 13:19

It’s the carer job that makes me suspect it’s faking it. The families I know who are well-off, the Mum is a SAHM or volunteers. Unless being a carer is a calling for her, it’s a tough job to do unless you have to.

messolini9 · 05/01/2020 13:20

I’d hate for people to question where we get our money from

I imagine that people don't, as presumably you don't parade your private life in a series of unremitting staged attention-seeking pics.

PenelopeFlintstone · 05/01/2020 13:21

This
Also, I think people are overthinking it. I’m sure it’s just idle curiosity on the OP’s part.

And this
OP, you arnt a weirdo! It's very easy to notice people when they want to be noticed you arnt being a stalker she's showing her "perfect" life off.

nowaypose · 05/01/2020 13:22

A mortgage is fairly easy to obtain provided your credit score is decent and you work full time which her DH does. The BMW is probably a lease hire. The new clothes and furniture either on credit or perhaps she’s doing the weird thing where people show off products then return them once they’ve taken a photo. All is never what it seems online, take it with a pinch of salt.

NewName73 · 05/01/2020 13:23

Have you ever actually met this woman in real life OP?

I really don't understand why you would care if you don't know her personally.

WorraLiberty · 05/01/2020 13:24

It was getting on my nerves seeing her cleaning and showing off. I am not happy in all areas of my life. But thanks for telling me im weird and need help. Was just curious why so many people want to show you this stuff now.

To be fair, I think you needed to be told that.

You've deleted her now so that's a start. Can you take small steps to help yourself make changes in your life to the things that are making you so obviously unhappy?

Perhaps make a list for the new year and see how many you can tick off by the end.

Bluntness100 · 05/01/2020 13:24

On one hand op you look at her social media and make judgements. Not pleasant ones. You do come across as envious. You're even googling their salaries. Which is extreme. And yet on the other hand, you don't want people to look at this thread, which is your social media and make judgements about you.

I'm not sure if you see the irony there.

I use Instagram a lot. I like it. None of it bothers me it simply amuses. I can't imagine googling people's earnings or trying to slag off Mrs hunch as to blame.

It's all so over invested, and unhealthy.

NewName73 · 05/01/2020 13:26

What is Juice plus?

I would not let a crushed velvet headboard within a mile of my house...

ssd · 05/01/2020 13:27

Bloody hell you're a bit over invested in her life op, who the bloody hell cares.

SoupDragon · 05/01/2020 13:29

you arnt being a stalker she's showing her "perfect" life off.

She googled army salaries and has clearly googled the cost of other things like the baby stuff!

brassbrass · 05/01/2020 13:31

Have you got a crushed velvet headboard soup sorry if I touched a nerve 🤣

SoupDragon · 05/01/2020 13:31

No I haven't.

SoupDragon · 05/01/2020 13:33

Please do give us a run down of your home decor so we can judge just how impeccable your so called taste is.

ssd · 05/01/2020 13:37

In the old days, women who wanted to show off stood outside the local shops or school gates and bragged to anyone unfortunate enough to get in their path. So you could easily avoid this person if you seen her in the street. Nowadays Facebook is a mecca for her and her shite. It gives her a platform to brag to anyone daft enough to listen. But it's easy to avoid her, just stay off her social media. It'll make you feel better.

Bluntness100 · 05/01/2020 13:37

I really don't understand this disdain people have for how others decorate their homes. Who literally gives a fuck. So what if she likes grey or grey velvet headboards. I'm sure she wouldn't like what others have in their home. I do t have any grey, I feel no need to slag anyone off who does.

Which takes the ops thread in a totally different direction. She's focused on what this woman has and achieves, to the extent its amplifying her own unhappiness with her lot, like holding a mirror up. But that's totally different to slagging off someone's decorating taste.which is just plain odd.

I don't like too much colour in a house. So I choose not to have it I don't go on line shouting how distasteful it is, or how my taste is so much better, because it's not. It's just different.

Heatherjayne1972 · 05/01/2020 13:38

It’s called fake book for a reason

Ellafoambanana · 05/01/2020 13:38

@soupofdragon

No not looking at prices at all. I know how much these things cost as I have children myself. I know full well I can't afford the brand's she gets because I have eyes and have done baby shopping myself.

I also shop at next for sleepsuits and clothes too. But I don't buy four packs at £17 and then six outfits then pop over the mamas and papas for another four or five outfits. I literally don't have £400 a month to pay out for kids clothes each month. She probably spends that and more. Her kids get UGG boots every few months. Nope cant justify that either. My kids get two or three pairs of shoes a year and a pair of wellies.

I have a sofa that I've had three years. It was £999 and it will have to last a few more years despite the fact the kids have spilt drinks of it, it has a rip and it's already looking abit tired. But I don't have a thousand pound for another.

She wants me to see her life. She wants everyone to know she has brought more things. She knows the prices are on show. She knows it's all visible! She added me too. She I'm not a stalker. But yes i look at her pictures and my brain thinks that's slot of new things making its way into her home. If she kept it to herself I'd not be able to judge! I'm certainly not googling her items to find out what she paid Jesus!

OP posts:
DobbinOnTheLA · 05/01/2020 13:38

can only think of escorting or exotic dancing that would pay for a lifestyle like that.

DH is after a career change so I'll be letting him know. He has a lovely hour-glass figure too

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