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To wonder how this lady does this

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Ellafoambanana · 05/01/2020 11:00

A few years ago now a 19 year-old added me on Facebook. I was 26 at the time. She was doing that Juice plus thing so adding random people.she seemed very nice she had a child my age, occasionally we swapped comments with each other on a picture or whatever. it started to dawn on me that she didn't work other than the Juice plus and her young teenage boyfriend was in the army. I know they don't particularly get paid a massive amount of money. She started doing care work last year and then had another baby.

She's about 23 now I presume and and she literally has absolutely everything and all her life is 100% under control. Her house is immaculate. Brand new everything and constantly spending money. I remember this summer she had all her garden done up. She got rid of all her beautiful beds with gorgeous velvet crushed headboardsbut she got a couple of years ago and she replaced them with more grey shiny headboard beds. All her carpets are grey all her bedding is grey her sofas are grey. All brand new. She had a new shark hoover a couple of months ago, fridge freezer a new cooker and a kettle. One of those fancy glass dining tables with the big fancy cushion chairs. She has one of those expensive steam mops.she bought one of those massive log burner things for the garden and one of those fire pits. Load of gravel went down a new barbecue was brought.

Over the last 4 years of having this girl on my Facebook I have watched her spend money like she's a millionaire.she had a baby about 6 months ago and in her pregnancy she easily must have spent about £5,000 on random stuff.or personalised my 1st years most expensive pram her bedroom was done up like a showroom. All the baby grows from mamas and papas. Expensive outfits that cost £30 each. She had absolutely everything you could think of for that baby.

when they have takeaways which is several times a week they have Domino's and they have everything with it. When is coming up to one of the kids birthdays she just buys ridiculous amounts of presents. I'd guess that she spend at least £600 on each child for their birthdays and christmases.she's constantly spending £100 in next and put in piles of clothes on with labels so we can see the prices. It's like she just never stops.

Then on top of all this she has a huge cleaning obsession. She is a hinch fan. She buys all the zoflora and flash in bulk.
She's always doing these videos of cleaning up. The ones that make you think how is she doing that and being a mother at the same time. There's no signs of toys in the living room and the kids bedrooms are immaculate.she hoovers through every single day and does videos of her shark hoover making lines in the carpet. She cleans her cupboards and fridge every week and does the videos of her wiping them out.her latest thing is tap the screen to see my tidy house so she does before and after shots of her cleaning up. She shows her ironing pile then shows us the baby gros all folded nearly away. She loves cleaning. She does her kitchen every night so it's immaculate and all pots away. Nothing draining. Candles lit. Then shows pictures of her relaxing on the sofa at night.

Her Christmas decorations were obviously expensive and all matching. Her paper matched her baubles.

I'm 30 and trying My best to stop my kids messing up the room I've just tidied. I can't get my life in order because of the fact little people like playing and eating and sneaking in the cupboards.

How does someone who buys so much have such a tidy organised house. How do they afford it anyway? It's none of my business. I've just noticed people are getting more and more like this. The need to be tidy and perfect. Their children to be perfect and have it all.

Also at 23 her life is so perfect and she has everything even 40 year olds are still trying to get. How is that? It's bizarre isn't it. Also she doesnt seem to have any friends or mix. She seems to be alone all the time.

Has Mrs hinch made people sad or is this a positive thing.

It gets annoying seeing people showing you what they have all the time? It's a strange world we live in now isn't it.

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brassbrass · 05/01/2020 13:39

Let's just assume that you and I will disagree on what good taste is 🤣

SoupDragon · 05/01/2020 13:42

Let's just assume that you and I will disagree on what good taste is

No, let's not.

You're happy to be exceptionally rude about someone who hasn't asked to have their "taste" mocked, it's only fair that you put yours up for judgement.

SoupDragon · 05/01/2020 13:43

She wants me to see her life.

Did she post her partner's salary?

QuillBill · 05/01/2020 13:43

I wouldn’t envy someone else’s life because they have a really clean house.

The easiest ways to keep your house ‘spotless’ are

A) doing things as you go. If you’ve got something in your hand, put it where it goes rather than on the kitchen bench etc.

B) train your dc to eat at the table only.

C) do a ten minute tidy with everyone on the house doing it at the same time,

Ellafoambanana · 05/01/2020 13:43

@bluntness100

I don't dislike her decor. I was more saying she's got everything new in matching colours. I could never replace my whole house in one go because I was bored of the perfectly nice stuff I had already. The post was more about the constant spending when she is so young and has been a mum for 5 years. She had her first at 18 and she has absolutely everything already and never budgets for anything. Her kids get heaps of new things each week. Her home is constantly being kitted out.

I find the constant boasting distasteful that's all. Putting it in our faces everyday saying look at my new hoover, sofa, outfits, ugg boots, lamps, beds, barbecues. Then saying oooo I love a fresh clean house or my house blitzed from top to bottom.

It fascinated me. Because if I try and clean upstairs the kids follow me or make a mess elsewear. It's incredibly hard in my view to have a perfectly tidy, clean home and also be constantly spending money and bringing more clutter into the home. Good for her though if it's not debt I guess.

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SoupDragon · 05/01/2020 13:44

Anyway, this is a horrible thread on so many fronts.

Ellafoambanana · 05/01/2020 13:45

@Bluntness100 sorry didn't mean to tag you in my last post whoops x

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DobbinOnTheLA · 05/01/2020 13:45

She added you when she was doing juice-plus. Clearly the social media influencer lifestyle appeals to her; whether shes getting any sponsorship/products to endorse or she's self-funding it only she knows. She's far from alone and I don't see why it bothers you so much.

brassbrass · 05/01/2020 13:46

I dunno I find some of those videos really entertaining. No one I can think of on my FB feed that would do this but there are some YouTubers that crack me up. Just vacuous and desperate.

It's a new industry a bit like people trying to make a living out of reality TV. Out of the few that make it there must be literally squillions who don't.

SanAntonio · 05/01/2020 13:47

So much is fake.

We stay in a very nice hotel in the USA from time to time. Lots of people come and take shots for instagram. Group next to us in the bar bought 1 cocktail between them- all then took multiple shots of it (and left it undrunk). I couldn't help but look on instagram the next day- pictures about their great life and staying at the hotel- they were not staying at the hotel- they spent $15 on 1 drink between 3 people- all fakery.

managedmis · 05/01/2020 13:47

Her paper matched her baubles.

^^

Quite an aspiration in life!

Bluntness100 · 05/01/2020 13:47

No probs. The thing is social media is boasting, few people go on Instagram or face book saying look at my shitty life. However the thing about social media is uou have a choice on whether to look or not. That really is on you, sorry. If you can't handle it emotionally then don't look.

brassbrass · 05/01/2020 13:49

someone who hasn't asked to have their "taste" mocked

Ah but they have by posting it everywhere publicly. Don't be so naive.

You sound really upset btw.

Ellafoambanana · 05/01/2020 13:49

@brassbrass I agree with you there. They hope it will get them noticed. To think others want to see everything you buy is bizarre. Then when people have an opinion (like me) I'm a stalker, overly invested and jelous. I don't like the way life is going. I feel sorry for our kids with all the showy lifestyles now

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Drabarni · 05/01/2020 13:50

Maybe she does surveys, I get all our household stuff through my points and clothes/ other stuff through mystery shopping.
You can also make a fortune very quickly with these MLM companies, it just isn't sustainable.
A friend does the perfume stuff and to her credit she's never bothered me about it at all, never mentions it.
She's just bought a static home through selling the stuff, as will be homeless when her dd leaves home, can't work and can't afford rent.
She knows it's not sustainable though, but she's taking it whilst it's there and I don't blame her.

DobbinOnTheLA · 05/01/2020 13:51

There was a insta couple who had a just giving type page to pay for a 3/3 month holiday and it transpired one of their parents worked 2 jobs to find their current lifestyle, which was "modelling" but really just taking photos of each other.

zasknbg · 05/01/2020 13:52

Well for a start don’t buy your next sofa for 1k. You can get great sofas in Ikea for a fraction of that.

Ellafoambanana · 05/01/2020 13:53

It's such a strange world now. I actually thought the other day. Mrs hinch has more followers than the peaky blinders cast. Even actors are being overtaken by the cleaning army lol

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DobbinOnTheLA · 05/01/2020 13:56

www.buzzfeednews.com/article/laurenstrapagiel/influencer-couple-cat-eli-beautiful-day-africa-trip

I only know one person who does MLM and she can't afford to heat her house. I think you have to be up the chain to make anything.

Gonetoget · 05/01/2020 14:04

I think its normal to wonder how people lead such lovely lives and how they afford x, y and z, but its really not healthy to compare yourself to an unrealistic ideal and then go on torture yourself for falling short.
You also have to remember that most of the stuff people post on social media isn't a true reflection of their lives. Facebook is not the place to be if your feeling your insecure and life isn't working out as planned.

WildChristmas · 05/01/2020 14:07

I just don’t know why you would want to put someone down who looks like they are coping with kids and life?

What is it to you?

Isn’t it nicer to be more open minded and less judgemental?

Drabarni · 05/01/2020 14:11

Dobbin

Not necessarily, but being up the chain works.
My friend sells at house parties on council estates, her customers can't afford the real stuff.
She knows that once she has exhausted all this market it will be much slower.
I know you are expected to do these type of jobs and Avon to receive benefit, they are considered as jobs.

Drabarni · 05/01/2020 14:15

I feel sorry for our kids with all the showy lifestyles now

What a strange comment to make when you are attacking a woman for her consumerism.
Teach your children the value of money and not needing "stuff" Raise them to be leaders not followers.
Do something rather than feeling sorry for them. Or they'll end up as sad as you, worrying what Mrs Jones has got, being jealous without a life of their own.
Don't be sorry for them, change your attitude.

Widowodiw · 05/01/2020 14:15

Well firstly I’d just concentrate on yourself and not that of others. She shows you on insta what she wants to show you. Why does it bother you? Make the most of what you have - her having grey everything doesn’t make her any better than you.

katewhinesalot · 05/01/2020 14:16

I'd be curious and wondering How? Nothing wrong with trying to work out how she does it or even being a bit envious. Thats just human nature. I'm glad "I'm not "holier than thou" like some posters on this thread.

Got to be lottery win, inheritance or maybe debt. Either that or she is high on the pyramid scheme so she's still getting the money from that from her recruits, despite not doing it herself anymore.

I'd also focus on the no friend thing. I'd rather have friends and an actual life than live in an immaculate home with emotionally neglected but beautifully turned out kids.

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