Daughter has spoiled Christmas evening and I don't know where to go from here

[anothernamejeeves]

She's 15 and is just beyond spoilt and nasty. I run around after her like mad and try and make Christmas a happy time for her and my other two.
She was sat in the living room playing a video really loud. I told her I wanted to sit and watch tv in peace and asked her to either put headphones in or go upstairs. She gave me a complete gobful saying I always spoil Christmas and called me a slag
I really don't know where to go from here I'm utterly appalled

Take her bloody video off her an send her to bed !! She's no need to speak to you like that so no you've not spoilt Christmas and this so called "slag" bends over backwards to make you bloody happy so be greatful!!

Ignore her and don't do ANYTHING for her and take her phone an laptop or whatever she has. An don't Make breakfast for her (she is old enough and ino we all do it) or make her bed etc she will soon see how bad you are ! Xx

In my heart I feel for you.
With my brain I think that running after a teenager trying to make a happy Christmas for her is just wrong.

I don't have a daughter or a teen (yet).
But I do know that if you doing your best & running round results in insults & tantrums, then it's not working & you need to stop & change things.

I'm sorry she did that, it would break my heart.

Cut the WiFi

New password can be RESPECT

If you cut the WiFi, will it interfere with her video?

What a spiteful spoilt little gjrl.
I would have snapped her phone then and there for calling you a slag. Disgusting.

'Running after her' bit is standing out for me.
It's disservice to teenagers.

You take away all electronics & chargers. If she has a tv in her room either remove it or cut the plug off. They are privileges, not rights. Tell her when she can be civil she can start earning them back. Good luck.

Cancel her mobile subscription.

I like the new WiFi Password idea!

Yep yank the wires

She was sat in the living room playing a video really loud. I told her I wanted to sit and watch tv in peace and asked her to either put headphones in or go upstairs.

Hmm. Not exactly an inclusive, friendly, festive approach from you, telling her to stop watching something or leave the room - so that you can watch TV on your own.

But she didn't ask her to stop watching it! She asked her to put headphones in if she wanted to continue watching it, because the volume was so loud.

Cut the WiFi

New password can be RESPECT

brilliant... do this OP..

Yep, take electronics off her and change WiFi password. She needs to learn

Hide all the charging cables for her devices

No but she could have turned the volume down or sat in the kitchen if she couldn't bear for us to watch a programme for an hour

She also needs educating about the misogyny of "slag". How DARE she treat you like a piece of shit. Be tough op. Your e the police in the house - penalities, repercussions, fucking teach her she's not to speak to anyone like that, let alone you. Come down HARD - no phone. No devices.

Where my dh was born they go down the ostrasize route. Harsh, but I've seen it work.

These threads.

A child doesn't just suddenly behave like this out of the blue.

but she could have turned the volume down or sat in the kitchen if she couldn't bear for us to watch a programme for an hour

Did you invite her to watch a programme with you, though? From your OP, it sounds as if her options were to put in headphones or go to her room.

Would love to know how many of these replies are from people who actually have teens. In my head I sometimes think I'll be an amazing mother of teens - and then I remembered what an amazing mother of babies I thought I'd be, until I actually had one...

Consequences, OP and fucking follow them up. As a pp mentioned, this doesn’t just suddenly happen. Stop allowing her to behave this way. She’d be in her room sans devices at my house. Little Madame.

I run around after her like mad

Sounds like you need to stop doing this.

It would spoil my Christmas if I was minding my own business, peacefully watching a video in the living room and was suddenly told to turn it off and leave the room. After all, I was there first.

Oh wait, that was you OP.

Invite her ? No me and DH wanted to watch a programme without having her music blaring. She could have a) turned it down b) wore headphones or c) gone in a different room rather than spoil it for everyone