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Do I message him?

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Ouchmyheadhurts · 14/09/2019 18:07

I have noticed that My ‘one that got away’ is now single (via Facebook).... we were together S teens.... had a dalliance in our 20’s, brief contact a couple of years ago but he then started a new relationship. He’s now single... I’m so tempted to message him..... do I???

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HappyBumbleBee · 14/09/2019 18:08

If you're single too why not?

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Ouchmyheadhurts · 14/09/2019 18:08

I’m very single.... I don’t think he’s been single long though?

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Jingers5 · 14/09/2019 18:09

Yes, go for it, good luck 😄

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Blueuggboots · 14/09/2019 18:09

Are you going to wonder if you don't?

tessiegirl · 14/09/2019 18:09

Yes I would! Go for it! Grin

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Ouchmyheadhurts · 14/09/2019 18:10

Yes I will definitely wonder.....

I don’t think I really ever got over him Blush

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violetdelights · 14/09/2019 18:10

You've got nothing to lose. Go for it!

LloydColeandtheCoconuts · 14/09/2019 18:10

Yes Wink

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Ouchmyheadhurts · 14/09/2019 18:10

No I have nothing to lose..... other than a block of course.

What do I say?? Just hey how are you?

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Ohyesiam · 14/09/2019 18:11

Make his day, message himWink

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Ouchmyheadhurts · 14/09/2019 18:12

I don’t think I’ll make his day.... but he would make mine. 2 years with no contact.... he’s been on and off constantly with the ex girlfriend ...

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bigchris · 14/09/2019 18:12

So you've broken up a few times ?

What were the reasons ?
Will those reasons have gone away ?

BenWillbondsPants · 14/09/2019 18:12

You've got nothing to lose. Go for it! (Providing you keep us posted of course ...)

ChicCroissant · 14/09/2019 18:14

I wouldn't tbh, there must be a reason why it (a relationship) didn't work the other two times you tried it but I may be a solitary voice here by the look of it!

Do you have him as a friend on FB or did you search for him? If you did search, what made you look him up?

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Ouchmyheadhurts · 14/09/2019 18:15

Once we were 17, I was Young, scared and stupidly let him go.... the second time we were both in a bad place with various things going on and were just drawn together, he went his own way..... then I messaged him 2 years ago when I went back on FB....we had contact, we’re going to meet up but he started a new relationship....

Doesn’t bode well......but but but.....

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Ouchmyheadhurts · 14/09/2019 18:17

We aren’t friends on FB, his page is open but contact on messenger. I looked him up because Iv never forgotten him......god that sounds pathetic doesn’t it

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MooPointCowsOpinion · 14/09/2019 18:18

Go for it! Nothing to lose here!

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Ouchmyheadhurts · 14/09/2019 18:19

No nothing to lose, I don’t bump into him as different towns. What do I say? Just hey...??

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PrincessHoneysuckle · 14/09/2019 18:22

Message him then update hereGrin

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Ouchmyheadhurts · 14/09/2019 18:23

I will but what do I say??

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Ouchmyheadhurts · 14/09/2019 18:24

My heart is pounding and Iv opened the wine....

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Tiredmum100 · 14/09/2019 18:24

I'd just keep it light, like "Hi x, long time since we last spoke. How's things?" See what he comes back with?

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Ouchmyheadhurts · 14/09/2019 18:24

Ok.... here goes ../

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PrincessHoneysuckle · 14/09/2019 18:25

Yes! Go on Op

incognitomum · 14/09/2019 18:25

Just say hi how are you?

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