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Do I message him?

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Ouchmyheadhurts · 14/09/2019 18:07

I have noticed that My ‘one that got away’ is now single (via Facebook).... we were together S teens.... had a dalliance in our 20’s, brief contact a couple of years ago but he then started a new relationship. He’s now single... I’m so tempted to message him..... do I???

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Ouchmyheadhurts · 14/09/2019 20:24

Is there a way to look at hidden messages on an iPhone or iPad? I may have a gander as it’s something I’ve learnt today!

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SandyGusset · 14/09/2019 20:28

Go to your normal messages on messenger.

Base of the screen should be three icons
Click middle icon
Then click the message symbol at the top right

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Ouchmyheadhurts · 14/09/2019 20:30

Ah yes sandy yes I know that one, didn’t realise it was the same thing.

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Intheupsidedown · 14/09/2019 20:30

Mine go into message requests.

So in messenger I click on the 2 people Image then in the top corner the person Image with a plus. Then message requests are in there.

Marketplace on fb has changed so they go into a separate section of messenger so they dont get missed.

If I get a message outside of that I get a notification saying soandso wants to send you a message. I can then decide to accept or reject. If I accept it goes into my normal messenger.

Usernamealreadyexists · 14/09/2019 20:36

home.bt.com/tech-gadgets/internet/social-media/how-to-find-facebooks-hidden-inbox-11363974039589

Can you see his previous messages? If so, then he should see it. But send him a friend request anyway.

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Ouchmyheadhurts · 14/09/2019 20:37

Yes I can see them, can see his profile and the whole previous conversations.

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mamaofboyss · 14/09/2019 20:37

Ohhh good luck keep us posted!! Xx

Usernamealreadyexists · 14/09/2019 21:13

In that case, we all just wait knowing it’s not in his hidden folder....

SandyGusset · 14/09/2019 21:58

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StudentHelp · 14/09/2019 22:05

Good luck!

keepingbees · 14/09/2019 22:09

I thought Facebook had done away with secret inboxes and you now just get a conversation request Confused Anyway I would think it would just tag onto the end of your last conversation. Good luck Wink

Redtartanshoes · 14/09/2019 22:10

Good luck!

(((((Still pleased I’m not on FB for all of the reasons above however 😂))))

Purplerain16 · 14/09/2019 22:56

👀👀

Did he reply/read it yet? Xx

Mner2019 · 14/09/2019 23:18

Good luck!

PointlessUsername · 14/09/2019 23:24

Ooh good luck.

Bitchfeatures · 14/09/2019 23:40

Oooh, this sounds like the start of a love story! Grin

Mythreefavouritethings · 15/09/2019 01:05

Oh no, I had my hopes up seeing there were 5 pages. I am sitting here with everything crossed for you, Ouch. I really hope he is excited and happy when he sees your message. Either way, it was brave of you and you age it a damn good shot, better than the dreaded ‘what if?’ And if it isn’t what you hoped, it may be the situation with the ex might still be raw.

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Ouchmyheadhurts · 15/09/2019 07:42

No answer Sad still just saying delivered. To be be fair I can see the first half of a message without opening it so it doesn’t show as read so he may well be doing that!

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InTheTempest · 15/09/2019 08:42

I hope you do get a reply OP. Maybe he was out last night and is sleeping in today? I wasn't even out last night and I've only just woken up tbf.

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Ouchmyheadhurts · 15/09/2019 08:48

I don’t think he will reply.... being a negative nelly today!

It’s so horrible having ‘what ifs’ and I try to live my life not having any what ifs. Hence why I did message. I think with us it’s always been right place wrong time?

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TeddyToaster · 15/09/2019 08:55

As someone that's now together (and very much in love) with a guy who had been my friend for five years... I'm so glad you went for it! Fingers crossed! Add him!

carrottopper · 15/09/2019 08:55

Don't give up hope yet. Some people don't respond to things straight away. You have at least tried. You can move on easily knowing you tried.

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Ouchmyheadhurts · 15/09/2019 09:00

I just looked back to the bottom beginning of our last contact on fb messenger, he took 8 days to read and reply to me!!!

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InTheTempest · 15/09/2019 09:01

I'd probably feel the same tbh but rationally- there is still plenty of time for him to reply, it was only yesterday that you messaged. And living life with no regrets and going for the things you want is to be admired.

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Ouchmyheadhurts · 15/09/2019 09:04

Thank you. Yes I know. When I saw his status was single again, I felt this over whelming need to reach out. But pathetic I know. They had been together 2 years....

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