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Girl given detentions after trousers SCHOOL issued her didnt fit.

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HelenaDove · 13/09/2019 18:10

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A single mum has hit out at a school in Devon for repeatedly giving her daughter detention because the trousers they issued her “didn’t fit her right”.

Lisa Daw said her 16-year-old daughter Beth was told off for wearing the “wrong trousers” when she turned up for the first day of term at Queen Elizabeth School in Crediton.

According to Ms Daw, however, Beth had been wearing the correct type of trousers because teachers had forced her to buy them from the school’s own clothing supplier the year before.

The school reportedly claimed the trousers were “too tight”, and on Tuesday took Beth out of class to march her back to the shop the trousers came from

A shop worker was said to have told the teaching assistant who escorted Beth to the store: “She’s wearing the right ones, it’s just her just her shape,” the Plymouth Herald reported.

Beth was then allowed to return to class but when she arrived back at school a teacher allegedly told her: “They are the right material, but they don’t fit you right.”

Despite meeting with the headteacher, however, Ms Daw was told that Beth would continue to receive detentions until her trousers were changed.

Ms Daw says that because she lives on benefits she has no extra money to pay for the trousers to be replaced.

She also said the incident had made Beth self-conscious about her body.

“She’s being made to feel fat and she’s not,” Ms Daw told i on Wednesday. “In this day and age teenagers are all body conscious.

“My daughter has been saying she’s fat. She’s a size 10/12, so she’s not fat.

“I want my daughter to be proud of her shape, I can’t do anything about her thighs.

Ms Daw has urged the school to change their uniform policy and claimed hundreds of children had fallen foul of the rules since returning from the summer holidays.

“There are lots of parents who have to go and buy mens trousers for their kids because they can’t get them in the size,” she added.

Read more:

School uniform costs are on the rise and pupils’ parents are forced to turn to second-hand clothes

Ms Daw said she believes the school is now punishing Beth “for her parents’ misfortune” since she can’t afford to replace the trousers.

“I’ve always tried to abide by the uniform policy,” she continued. “It doesn’t matter what hurdles you jump, it just seems there’s always going to be something wrong.”

“She’s not embarrassed about her shape. She’s got wider thighs. She has had a lot of positive feedback from people she doesn’t even know.

“But we haven’t had an apology from school.”

i has contacted Queen Elizabeth School for comment.

OP posts:
SarahTancredi · 13/09/2019 18:13

I despair I really do.

Even when in school issued clothing it's all still fucking wrong .

Wtf do they want.

Binglebong · 13/09/2019 18:15
Angry
DNAwrangler · 13/09/2019 18:17

Presumably they want her to buy the next size up

BikeRunSki · 13/09/2019 18:17

“Regulation” trouser styles are never going to fit prepubescent 11 year olds and fully developed 16 year olds!

Mumofboth · 13/09/2019 18:17

Disgusting! That poor girl! How are people able to get away with this?!?

HiHoToffee · 13/09/2019 18:18

Angry poor girl

HeadintheiClouds · 13/09/2019 18:19

If the ones “issued” by the school didn’t fit they should have requested a bigger size, like any normal person would do?
The school can’t possibly have insisted she take those specific pair.

DNAwrangler · 13/09/2019 18:21

The school didn't issue them. The girl/mum chose them from the school supplier.

heronontoast · 13/09/2019 18:22

That poor girl. Appalling bullying by the school.

Soola · 13/09/2019 18:23

She states she bought them the year before but now can’t afford a pair this year!

Utter nonsense.

SarahTancredi · 13/09/2019 18:23

School supplier ones though would like be 20 plus quid. Easily the one item you would forgo if u could still get into the older ones and had forked out for the rest.

DNAwrangler · 13/09/2019 18:23

So either they bought them last year when they actually fitted, or bought them too small this year.

Either way, the actual complaint is that the school has asked them to buy trousers that fit.

Not quite the same story...

heronontoast · 13/09/2019 18:24

Why nonsense?

SarahTancredi · 13/09/2019 18:25

dna

Or the bigger size didnt fit?
I have that repeatedly with both my dds. One size on the small side but next size up far too big.

WhT do you do then?

DNAwrangler · 13/09/2019 18:25

Maybe the school would have been more accommodating if they'd been approached with a reasonable plan.

If the girl is that embarrassed what is her mum thinking, plastering her and her body shape in the news?!

Bollocks.

Hederex · 13/09/2019 18:26

I'm gutted by the lack of sad face pic.

Binglebong · 13/09/2019 18:26

It is poverty shaming. If someone with more money could get out of a detention by throwing cash at it (buying a new pair) and someone can't because they don't have the money there is something very very wrong.

The trousers could easily have been too big when bought - you grow fast at that age!

heronontoast · 13/09/2019 18:26

The trousers won't fit her body shape.
She has to wear that particular style of trousers as they are regulation, but they don't fit her body shape as she has wide thighs - did posters not spot that?

PegasusReturns · 13/09/2019 18:26

Without seeing the girl in the trousers it's difficult to judge. If she's a size 10/12 and squeezing herself into an 8 then the trousers may not be appropriate.

DNAwrangler · 13/09/2019 18:27

Then you approach the school and explain. Come up with a solution together that doesn't involve putting the poor girl on the internet.

30to50FeralHogs · 13/09/2019 18:27

But the trousers presumably DO fit around the waist and hips, but are just tight on the thighs.

My DD has a similar problem - she's 12 but very mature for her age and is wearing age 15-16 school shirts. She couldn't get any school trousers to fit, so we had to go to M&S women's dept and buy her size 10 women's trousers to get the right shape. If she'd been stuck with the school uniform suppliers where we got the tie/blazer etc she'd have had a camel toe and sausage thighs.

SarahTancredi · 13/09/2019 18:28

Reasonable plan?

What like body stockings? Stuffing her full of food til she fits the next size up?

Taking a chain saw to her legs?

What exactly would be the plan here Hmm

HeadintheiClouds · 13/09/2019 18:29

Mum looks delighted at her five minutes of fame Hmm

DNAwrangler · 13/09/2019 18:29

And Wtf is this about positive feedback from people she doesn't even know??

That's called harassment in my neck of the woods.

InfiniteSheldon · 13/09/2019 18:29

I have never been able to wear trousers i have big tbughs average hips and a small waist. That's why i wear skirts or dresses poor gurl tge school should be ashamed