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One week into reception term and i'm about to fall out with another school mum

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DoggerDidIt · 07/09/2019 09:40

I'm posting on here so I don't reply to her message Angry

We have a class whatsapp group set up by one of the mums. All very polite and nice since it's only been going a week.

Someone commented on the parking in the morning and I said it wouldn't affect me from now on as DD will be going to breakfast club with her sister in the mornings. Another mum then replied with 'whats breakfast club'. I replied assuming she wanted the details for her DC.

Instead she comes back with 'oh my gosh, thats difficult for your DD, I couldn't cope with having to leave DC on their own at that time of the morning poor thing'. At this point I kind of thought WTF and just replied saying 'well I need to get to work so she doesn't really have a choice haha, I'm sure she will be fine, her sister will be with her'. She then comes back with a fucking essay about how difficult she would find it having to leave her DC for that long and with strangers Hmm and won't DD miss out on going into class with all her friends and very head tilty poor DD comments.

I'm sitting on my hands to not reply well you have that fucking luxury because your husband works and you don't fucking need to leave your DC to go to work you utter knob.

I feel like i am having to defend being a single mum and needing to use fucking childcare!

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Stillfunny · 07/09/2019 09:42

Reply ,: You are an utter knob.
I am sure other mums might jump in to say something too. What an ignorant bitch.!

Pippapotomus · 07/09/2019 09:43

The rest of the parents will now be aware this parent is a dick.

Beamur · 07/09/2019 09:43

Maybe a classic MN reply is called for?
'did you mean to be so rude?'

Seriously though, the upside of this is she's marked herself out as rude and judgemental.

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Fizzypoo · 07/09/2019 09:44

I would reply and say maybe it's best we don't comment on others parenting in this chat otherwise we'll all be falling out. And then just be polite and civil. She's a horrible cow but don't get involved. You have to see her for the next 7 years!

ContessaLovesTheSunshine · 07/09/2019 09:44

Reply with 'Everyone's family works differently!' and a smiley face.

If you're lucky someone else with an older child will comment on how their kids love Breakfast club (mine actively complain if they DON'T go - it's a social event)! Mine have formed acquaintances with the Big Kids as a result and these Big Kids sometimes actually acknowledge them outside the club. This was a big deal for Ds1 when he was 4 Grin

Bookworm4 · 07/09/2019 09:45

She leaves her child with ‘strangers’ every day for 6 hrs at school, what a twat.

TeachesOfPeaches · 07/09/2019 09:45

Presumably her child hasn't been to nursery or any other childcare setting ? How strange she would feel the need to comment publicly like that.

Choice4567 · 07/09/2019 09:45

How is it leaving her with strangers?! Tell her you can’t believe she drops her child off at school with strangers. Oh wait, they’re teachers!!!!

Not helpful. Just angry for you. There are always idiots in the school WhatsApp groups. I spend a lot of my week trying hard not to rise to their idiocy

crosser62 · 07/09/2019 09:45

Leave the group . Seriously, this is just the start of the tidal wave of shite from this and many others.

I drop off and pick up... with my earphones in so don’t speak to any of them. Have no outside contact and live in blissful ignorance, it’s great.

Drop off, piss off, pick up, piss off = happiness and calm.

Sunshinelollipops1 · 07/09/2019 09:46

@DoggerDidIt

Mumshappy · 07/09/2019 09:46

Just ignore her - every other parent on there now knows shes a bit of a cock. I'm a single parent and we have to do what we have to do to survive. Don't justify yourself to her.

RitmoRatmo · 07/09/2019 09:46

She’s being a total CF and a twat.

Luckily for you, she’s exposed these qualities on a public forum so early on, which means 99% of the other parents on that WhatsApp thread will now have her card marked and she’s shot herself in the foot henceforth wrt socials/play dates etc.

I envisage you’ll probably get other parents approach you privately to offer their support and solidarity. So for now, remain silent & dignified, and be the bigger person. Her CF-ery is obvious for all to see.

There’s a mum on my DD’s class WhatsApp who’s made similar comments. I replied to a few, but then came off the thread entirely as I don’t want such people on my radar. The downside of this is that I miss out on the other stuff on the thread. So my advice would be to remain on the thread, keep a dignified silence in response to the CF, and let her have enough rope to hang herself publicly in front of the other mums.

Gruzinkerbell1 · 07/09/2019 09:47

What Beamur said.

The other parents will be judging the fuck out of her. She’s marked now.

trilbydoll · 07/09/2019 09:47

Does she spend the 6 hours they're at school sobbing into her coffee? Everyone else in the group chat is taking a big step back from the mad lady, don't worry about it.

Blastandbollocks · 07/09/2019 09:47

Mine goes to both breakfast club and after school club and also actively complains if I pick him up too early (before snack time!). He has a vast array of friends from all the year groups and I honestly think it's improved his confidence.

YahBasic · 07/09/2019 09:47

I’d just reply with “that’s nice” and then mute the group.

Beamur · 07/09/2019 09:48

I'm pretty glad I missed the group WhatsApp malarkey. DD at High School now so no expectations of Mum friends Grin

Mumshappy · 07/09/2019 09:48

Oh and don't leave the group. In time you will find her comments funny. She wont be able to help herself on every issue going.

Sunshinelollipops1 · 07/09/2019 09:48

Sorry posted to early. You have my sympathy. My eldest is in a class with mainly working parents. My youngest lots of rich SAHMs. Lots of “oh it must be tough your children having such long days...I just couldn’t do it”. Yeah, well my mortgage company doesn’t accept fairy dust and I don’t have wealthy parents.

Agree with the “every family is different”. Smile.

My kids love breakfast club. They get to play with Lego. Have a second breakfast. Hang out with friends.

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DoggerDidIt · 07/09/2019 09:48

Knob mum is actually a semi known blogger in our local area and seems to have the whole perfect life shit down to a tee

Turns out she's just a dick

Of course she can't use breakfast club, how would she take photos of her kids eating their cornflakes Hmm

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ethelredonagoodday · 07/09/2019 09:50

She sounds like an absolute bellend.

Mumshappy · 07/09/2019 09:51

Cornflakes wouldn't cut it for breakfast for those kids.

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DoggerDidIt · 07/09/2019 09:52

I replied with a laughing face emoji and 'well DD is quite confident, i'm sure she will love spending time with her sister and the older kids! passive aggressive smiley face

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LizzieSiddal · 07/09/2019 09:52

Don't take her comments personally, she is actually saying “I’d have huge problems leaving my child”, so I’d assume she has some kind of anxiety/stuff that has gone on in her life, which make her feel like this.

Don’t get me wrong, she should not be shoving her anxiety into you, but just take it all with a pinch of salt. She’ll be being rude to some other mum next week- just watch!

Myotherhusbandisgaryoldman · 07/09/2019 09:52

What a prick. People like this never cease to amaze me with their total oblivion to other people's lives

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