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One week into reception term and i'm about to fall out with another school mum

407 replies

DoggerDidIt · 07/09/2019 09:40

I'm posting on here so I don't reply to her message Angry

We have a class whatsapp group set up by one of the mums. All very polite and nice since it's only been going a week.

Someone commented on the parking in the morning and I said it wouldn't affect me from now on as DD will be going to breakfast club with her sister in the mornings. Another mum then replied with 'whats breakfast club'. I replied assuming she wanted the details for her DC.

Instead she comes back with 'oh my gosh, thats difficult for your DD, I couldn't cope with having to leave DC on their own at that time of the morning poor thing'. At this point I kind of thought WTF and just replied saying 'well I need to get to work so she doesn't really have a choice haha, I'm sure she will be fine, her sister will be with her'. She then comes back with a fucking essay about how difficult she would find it having to leave her DC for that long and with strangers Hmm and won't DD miss out on going into class with all her friends and very head tilty poor DD comments.

I'm sitting on my hands to not reply well you have that fucking luxury because your husband works and you don't fucking need to leave your DC to go to work you utter knob.

I feel like i am having to defend being a single mum and needing to use fucking childcare!

OP posts:
IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 07/09/2019 10:06

I’d have replied saying that showing my daughter a work ethic was far more beneficial to her life and future aspirations So an hour at breakfast club was worth it.

sheshootssheimplores · 07/09/2019 10:07

She’s shown herself up. I think you can block individuals can’t you? Perhaps instead of muting the group just get rid of her.

Soubriquet · 07/09/2019 10:08

My dd told me she wishes she could go to breakfast club and after school club HmmHmm

So, I don’t think you’re doing a bad job Grin

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Marnie76 · 07/09/2019 10:08

I would reply with ‘well I’m sure she’d be far more upset if the house was repossessed and we had no food to eat, which is what would happen if I didn’t get to work on time’

Aridane · 07/09/2019 10:08

Just ignore her - every other parent on there now knows shes a bit of a cock. I'm a single parent and we have to do what we have to do to survive. Don't justify yourself to her

Ageee!

katewhinesalot · 07/09/2019 10:08

Even if the other parents don't comment I wouldn't dare after that then they will have got her measure. I bet it is the topic of conversation for a while and believe me it won't be you that they are commenting on.

I suspect that nobody will date comment on personal things from now on as they won't want to be judged either and I bet the group will diminish into to organising and sharing details of school activities only in future.

StealthPolarBear · 07/09/2019 10:09

Don't leave the group! I find them incredibly useful, reminders for dress up day, help with homework, reassurance about stuff. Most people are lovely, don't let one ruin it.

Notonthestairs · 07/09/2019 10:11

She's marked herself as judgemental with poor understanding of the world outside her bubble. Honestly, eyes will have been rolling.

The groups can be useful for last minute reminders - don't leave!

Grobagsforever · 07/09/2019 10:12

I've typed a reply for you:

Dear Twat-Mum

I am writing to offer my support with your inappropriate life choices. It must be so difficult for your DC not to have the example of a working mum. There is a vast body of peer reviewed evidence that children with working mothers achieve more academically, having higher aspirations and earn more. They also benefit from enhanced social skills and adaptability from spending time in childcare settings. If you need any help writing a CV so you too can give your DC enhanced opportunities in life feel free to reach out.

C0untDucku1a · 07/09/2019 10:12

‘Have you considered homeschooling? head tilt. Walk away

Original poster
DoggerDidIt · 07/09/2019 10:12

Nobody else has commented!

I got a message from another mum saying 'ffs what is her problem?"

OP posts:
BloggersBlog · 07/09/2019 10:13

Ah after your last post OP it's pretty clear she has her sight sets on you. Dont engage at all - she sounds like she is angling for Queen Bee spot and sees you as a rival.

Let the games not commence

bobstersmum · 07/09/2019 10:13

What the hell is all this class WhatsApp group thing? Bonkers if you ask me.

BloggersBlog · 07/09/2019 10:14

Errr.. you post previous to that one Grin

AJPTaylor · 07/09/2019 10:14

God reminds me of a colleague of mine.
Stupid bitch did a whole fb post about how her little Prince looked after a poor little girl whose mummy didn't come to one of the dozens of open classroom things. It was friends daughter!
Said friend did a response which pointed out that work with 2 meant she could not make it to everything but thanks for publicly judging.
She responded staying that it was Forever Living that enabled her to be a better mother........

AliciaQuays · 07/09/2019 10:14

Just ignore. The most powerful reply. Don’t use that’s twatty Mumsnet reply

fedup21 · 07/09/2019 10:15

oh my gosh, thats difficult for your DD, I couldn't cope with having to leave DC on their own at that time of the morning poor thing

In what way are you leaving them on their own?!

Stupid cow. Don’t reply-you don’t need to, she’s showing herself up just fine.

Kuponut · 07/09/2019 10:16

I managed to avoid all the class facebook and whatsapp groups - it's bliss!

As for the evils of breakfast club - mine have been desperate to get the chance to go for all the time they've been at the school - they're absolutely gleeful now I'm going back to study so they can do before and after school - it's the same staff that work during the school day so not the grand unknown and they have a bloody whale of a time!

sonjadog · 07/09/2019 10:17

She has now marked herself out as an idiot in front of all the class parents. More fool her.

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 07/09/2019 10:18

You could start banging on about how wonderful your job is and how you couldn’t stand being a brain-dead sahm making up some crappy ‘oooh I’m a blogger’ non job to stop themselves going stir crazy?

memaymamo · 07/09/2019 10:19

Either ignore or take the supreme high ground with the comment suggested above - everyone will respect & admire you and she'll look like an idiot.

SleepingStandingUp · 07/09/2019 10:19

I’d have replied saying that showing my daughter a work ethic was far more beneficial to her life and future aspirations yeah, great way to piss off all the Sam's in the group.

OP you responded perfectly by shutting her down but getting into the WOHM vs SAHM bum fight. Hopefully she'll learn no one is playing her games or listening and will shut up

Mummyoflittledragon · 07/09/2019 10:22

So one mum messaged you, the others remained silent. That isn’t because they agree with her, it’s because they don’t know what to say to batshit crazy. You handled it well. Dignified silence is always good.

Dontcarewhatimdoing · 07/09/2019 10:22

This is clearly her issue not yours. Its quite sad for her if leaving her child at breakfast club would really be that hard for her. Don't engage with it and hopefully she will give up soon.

ChickenyChick · 07/09/2019 10:23

Annoying for you, but also boring fir the other parents to get all this inane chat.

If there is a question about parking, instead if telling all 30 people how parking does not affect you, just don’t say anything. Why would you share that even? Not relevant to anyone.

It’s the kind of whatsapp group “pollution” that makes Whatsapp groups a nightmare!

But yeah, that other mum is a nutter !