What drives you mad about MNers?

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I woke up grumpy today and reading some posts is making me grumpier. Perhaps I'm turning into a curmudgeon. But sometimes I read posts and think "Good grief, woman, you don't help yourself, do you?"

The gems that seem to pop up with alarming regularity: "We live rurally and I don't drive" in a post complaining of a lack of access to, well, anything really.

Or: "We don't have any family close by to babysit so DH and I haven't been out on our own since 2004." Do what we all do then and pay for a babysitter!

Ugh. This heat is making me grouchy. Anything make you want to shake another MNer?

The judgemental ones.

Anyone asking for advice but misses out a very important aspect and then takes offence at all the advice given before mentioning the omitted important factor!

Medical problems of an urgent nature for them self or a child but they’re unsure whether to bother a&e or a gp despite the phot showing someone’s leg hanging off.

Someone detailing an absolute monster of a partner and 500 people post saying how abusive the posters partner is and offering valuable support and practical advice in how to leave etc and then then the poster mentions that their partner ‘works hard’ and is not that bad after all and they’ll just have a bit of a chat with them at the weekend or when they come back off of holiday.

Obvious left wingers. Although I do have a laugh at their frothing sometimes.

Those who don't RTFT, resulting in a 'cancel the cheque' situation.

When someone posts about not having any money for the next week and the replies are "well just use your savings"

Legal advice from people who no nothing about the law

Medical problems of an urgent nature for them self or a child but they’re unsure whether to bother a&e or a gp despite the phot showing someone’s leg hanging off.

Yes! Or the "my husband is in hospital and I don't have a car (probably because they live rurally and don't drive) and I'd really like to visit him but I can't get there" Call a friend, or a taxi or an Uber! For goodness sake, stop being so bloody passive.

The distressing bullying threads where someone says their child has been bullied all through the school year.....

Why would you keep sending your child in?

The people who advise to confront the antagonist. When you know for a fact they would do nothing of the sort. And then they blast the OP for being passive and pathetic.

Loads .

The stupid ones about eating something that’s five seconds out of date.

Questions about ‘should I leave my 8/9/whatever year old alone for two minutes while I go to shops’ .... why ask anyone else’s opinion? Just go.

Moaning about wedding invitations but insisting ‘I really have to accept’.

Petty complaints about MILs when you know if it was the OP’s own mother there would be no problem.

But the most exasperating are those complaining about their DH’s lack of help with childcare/housework etc and then ending up ‘and I’m pregnant with our 2nd/3rd/4th.’ And if you dare to suggest it might have been sensible not to have any more children with such a selfish twat it’s always ‘an unplanned baby’. Why would you even want sex with the selfish twat?

I think as a group MN can get a bit holier than thou sometimes.
It's why I found the thread about what we'd been up to that MN would disapprove of so refreshing.

I think a minority of posters use subtle or not so subtle ridicule to put down people who have made a perfectly acceptable point in a debate. Patronising comments like 'oh bless you'.

I'm suffering from Bubonic Plague and have just lost my leg in a tragic industrial incident. Am I being neglectful by allowing my child to watch more than their allotted 5 minutes of TV, and eat organic beans on toasted wholewheat homemade bread.... just this once?

I really want to shake the ones that are like:

"He doesn't do anything around the house, goes out with his mates all the time, plays Xbox all night.... But he spends half an hour with his kids on a Saturday so he's a great dad.."
He isn't a great dad

The ones where someone is complaining that they have no mates/partner/family and people give all sorts of lovely, kind, helpful advice, only to be met by reasons why the OP can't do any of these things. It's cruel, but I always think "No wonder, then." Can't stand people who won't help themselves.

The hyperbole

I’m always surprised at the amount of personal information some posters share about their kids, especially on the education threads. Some of the people make it quite easy to identify themselves and their children, yet they write all about their school grades, physical and mental health issues, friendship issues etc.
I do hope they have their kids permission to share all those personal details.

The ones that say «Please ignore the posters who disagree with me». The use of «please» annoys me intensely. I can’t really say exactly why...

There's a lot of wide eyed pretend innocence. Like 'I've never heard of someone allowing a child to drink soft drinks. It's water only in this house. Do people really do that?'

Of course people really do that. Have you never visited a supermarket? Do you think the shelves of diluting juice are just for decoration and Tesco don't actually sell any?

When the well known types waft in with a two line answer and receive all the sycophantic back slapping.

@isabellerossignol "in this house" in itself if Mumsnet Bingo! I can't read it without the League of Gentleman impression though!

So many where I wonder why, after proving totally useless as a father women have more children with their husbands/partners. Surely when he was shit the first time having a 2nd or 3rd isn't going to make him better?

Unnecessary nastiness, snide/catty comments and being generally unkind and unhelpful especially when the post is of a sensitive nature and the op is clearly vulnerable. Sometimes we all need a stern word but I can't help but feel there a lot of posters on here who enjoy kicking someone when they're down and that's really unpleasant to see.

LTB posts over the smallest thing. Again, some people need to hear it but the amount of times it gets thrown around on here is insane. As if it's that easy for some to just up and leave their long term relationships, homes, families etc over the most trivial things.

Bad medical advice, in particular what to with a fresh burn.

Lot of it is really dangerous.

Food ones that quickly degenerate into competitive orthorexia - my DC have steamed carrots and a satsuma for dinner, think of the sugar it's 3 beansprouts each here and no more, 3 beansprouts! Obesity crisis...
Or money ones where an incredibly privileged middle class person can't see why their dilemma about where to buy a holiday home or which private school to send their dc to (usually bemoaning the fact that their first choice is too costly) might upset people who have just been to a food bank or are worried about paying the gas bill.

The ones who copy and pate a paragraph or sentence from another poster then put
"^ This", drives me mad.

@Yawninfinitum yes I agree but thankfully the awful clique that used to be on here seems to have disappeared. Led by one who could have said black was white and she’d have posters queuing up to agree.