What drives you mad about MNers?

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I woke up grumpy today and reading some posts is making me grumpier. Perhaps I'm turning into a curmudgeon. But sometimes I read posts and think "Good grief, woman, you don't help yourself, do you?"

The gems that seem to pop up with alarming regularity: "We live rurally and I don't drive" in a post complaining of a lack of access to, well, anything really.

Or: "We don't have any family close by to babysit so DH and I haven't been out on our own since 2004." Do what we all do then and pay for a babysitter!

Ugh. This heat is making me grouchy. Anything make you want to shake another MNer?

So many but the weird views about food leave me shocked. From the people who seem surprised active teenagers are hungry, to the ones who lock up food, the 'unlimited access to the fruit bowl' is enough for any child and the 'all fruit is evil because of the sugar, frankly, some children are currently growing up just waiting to develop an eating disorder because of this sort of crap.

Puss puss,
Being in judgement of others is not a good thing if the judgers have no experience, expertise or anything to give beyond their own often skewed standards. Who is to say what is appropriate if you have no idea what someone’s personal circumstances are?

Pretty sure my mum would have been “judged” by the MN collective 40 years ago for allowing me at aged 7 to escort by 5 year old brother to a bus stop down a country lane to get the school bus.

Don’t need to go into the reasons why this happened.
The good men do nothing quotes is about basic human rights not middle class women berating others for cleaning standards, holiday etiquette and whether or not you left a holiday caravan in a suitable condition ( ongoing thread).

• also I was commenting on the judgemental tone of the OP which was lost.

Also, the phrase "going NC." I've seen it on other sites outside of this one, its travelled far. "Thinking of going NC".
It makes me cringe now. Would prefer to read, "I'm thinking of cutting them out of my life" even though its wordier

Oh yes, "didn't want to read and run....."

You don't have to write that, the poster will be none the wiser.... why write that useless message

I hate the ones who cannot fathom that someone might literally have no one for support, not a penny, no transport, no babysitter etc. Whilst yes, I agree you must make the effort to protect yourself and have something or someone in reserves for emergencies, sometimes you get dealt a shitty hand and for whatever reason you might literally have no one.

I posted a thread many years ago now, I have absolutely no way of getting my children to school, I was very unwell, the school wasn't in walking distance and they were too young to walk to the nearest bus stop and get on and then walk to school and we were relatively new so no school mums knew us or us them, I had called all local taxis who had said no can do, I had no family or friends nearby or with transport and the school had said they couldn't help. I was moaning and looking for a kind word and instead people were saying that there must be SOMEONE who would take them? I must be able to walk them SOMEHOW and others were just there to tell me what an awful job I was doing, they couldn't fathom the fact that I HAD NO ONE.

Ten penny, don’t want to read and run but I agree with you.

Ageism, disabilism, racism / denial of racism and, most of all, rampant transphobia

I.don't think.there are as many popular posters that do that as much now but yes a few years ago it was terrible ,there was a thread once about autism ,my son is severely autistic, and because of this I have several friends with children who are also autistic ,so I know a fair bit of how autism impacts family life , of course my posts were ignored ,but as soon as little Miss popular turned up ,who by the way knew Jack shit about autism ,and posted a very mundane reply posters were all over it as though she had posted some unique and amazing insight .

@PurpleDaisies that is v timely for me - posted a picture of a burn and got the usual 'I do that all the time/looks fine' responses - ended up at minor injuries four times til they signed me off. Have a large purple scar. Will trust my own instincts next time!

Finfintytint

Bitch ploppers.
Also, when posters say "excuse me, what is your aibu please" when it's perfectly obvious what it is.
The fucking biscuit.

People who are having a medical emergency but won't go to hospital because they've got kids. FFs. Wake the kids up and take them with you if it's that urgent!

noeuf did the posters tell you to put the entire contents of your kitchen on it? It goes in phases. Lavender oil, toothpaste, turmeric, yoghurt, all sorts. Hope it’s all healed now.

I've realised that Mumsnet is a parallel universe and nothing like real life

Some people don't have car because they can't afford it and they happen to live rurally. Then maybe, just maybe, they can't afford a taxi or an Uber.

When I say I don't have a car, people assume I can't drive. I can.

So what I hate about Mumsnet is that everyone assumes everyone has money and if they don't they obviously spent it on sky tv, takeaways, trips to theme parks and designer handbags.

A lot of posters find it hard to understand that not all schools have breakfast clubs and after school clubs. And that holiday clubs are non existent in some places. I don't know of any school with a breakfast club locally, or an after school club. And holiday clubs are non existent too. But if anyone says this they are often either accused of lying or of not wanting to use an obvious solution.

Daisies nope some dismissive run it under the gap and a couple of get it looked at and a burn cream suggestion.
Medical advice on here always surprises me in the inconsistency of what's considered urgent or significant

A and E NOW.

Yes Isabellerossignol, the au pair should step in in those circumstances.

Those 'Can you see a faint line' posts where the OP does not indicate whether she wants to be pregnant or not and someone says 'I can see a line, congratulations!'

Virtue signallers.

People who think we all live minutes from “the Tube”.