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What drives you mad about MNers?

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omafiet · 27/07/2019 16:07

I woke up grumpy today and reading some posts is making me grumpier. Perhaps I'm turning into a curmudgeon. But sometimes I read posts and think "Good grief, woman, you don't help yourself, do you?"

The gems that seem to pop up with alarming regularity: "We live rurally and I don't drive" in a post complaining of a lack of access to, well, anything really.

Or: "We don't have any family close by to babysit so DH and I haven't been out on our own since 2004." Do what we all do then and pay for a babysitter!

Ugh. This heat is making me grouchy. Anything make you want to shake another MNer?

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helpmeiamatoad · 27/07/2019 16:51

The transphobia.

And the typical response to a post like this: ‘if you see any transphobia report it and it’ll be deleted.’

As if that magically means it was never posted in the first place...

Roussette · 27/07/2019 16:52

The ones where a neighbour or a friend is behaving like an absolute cock and someone comes along and says 'you must be kind, they could be struggling with their mental health'

NO. They are an arse. End of.

The MNers who are just so dramatic. My MIL gave my 2 year old a chocolate button. We are now going to go NC.

Agree with a pp... it's the people who are offered sound advice but just will not help themselves that get my goat.

BuildBuildings · 27/07/2019 16:52

The ones who say dh is a great dad but is basically a horrible partner. To me you're not being a good dad if you're making the mother of your children feel like shit.

MonkeyToesOfDoom · 27/07/2019 16:52

Yawninfinitum

When the well known types waft in with a two line answer and receive all the sycophantic back slapping.

Yep, followed by posts by posts like:

I agree with Yawninfinitum

MarieBaroneIsMyMom · 27/07/2019 16:53

The lack of accountability.

“I’ve been with my husband for 6 years and he’s always been a vile prick who I’ve hated and regretted marrying the second we wed. I’d leave, but stay for the children. We have a 4 year old, 2 year old, 1 year old, and I’m currently pregnant”.

jackernanna · 27/07/2019 16:54

The thread about wearing the same outfit to 2 different weddings which are two years apart has really wound me up today. All the people who are shocked and horrified that anyone would ever contemplate such a thing, and the posters who seem to think that anyone that doesn't fork out for a brand new outfit (plus all the accessories) for every new event is somehow disrespectful and doesn't value their friendship. If that really is all you have to fret about then you really do need to get out more. Or to agree with the poster above: "Why would anyone contemplate wearing an outfit more than once - are people really that crass?"

BuildBuildings · 27/07/2019 16:54

@MarieBaroneIsMyMom yep! All the time on here!

Bookworm4 · 27/07/2019 16:55

@DrCoconut
I fully agree on this.
The ones who moan about financially struggling then reveal they have £15k in bank but won’t spend it because it’s savings.

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omafiet · 27/07/2019 16:55

The ones where someone is complaining that they have no mates/partner/family and people give all sorts of lovely, kind, helpful advice, only to be met by reasons why the OP can't do any of these things. It's cruel, but I always think "No wonder, then." blush Can't stand people who won't help themselves.

Yes, me too! I was once roasted when I responded to a post saying that in my opinion once you have kids, you really do have a responsibility to build some kind of support network, even just developing a relationship with a neighbor who could watch your kids in an emergency. I was amazed at the number of people falling over themselves to tell me exactly why they couldn't possibly be expected to have a conversation with another human being...🙄

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sqeakywheel · 27/07/2019 16:55

That ones who have nice/normal families constantly eye roll in disbelief that other people have abusive parents and are no contact.

Ragwort · 27/07/2019 16:57

Agree with the ones who complain about not having friends but then can’t possibly join a club, do volunteering, go to the WI, help at school ... whatever ..... some people only seem to want meet clones of themselves.

jackernanna · 27/07/2019 16:57

Well that moved on swiftly while I was typing....obviously I meant the poster several comments above Grin

Bookworm4 · 27/07/2019 16:58

The ones that have really annoyed lately are the mums who absolutely will not let their kids out to play.
One said kids who play in the street are ‘feral’, could have throttled that!

Rubytinsleslippers · 27/07/2019 17:00

Also..the mysterious hobby...it is an anonymous forum..there are decking thousands of cyclists, it will not identify your fuckwit husband.

TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 27/07/2019 17:01

Posters who tell us that their DH is being emotionally/financially abusive/gaslighting, then proceed to defend him because 'he is really a good man/good with the kids'

isabellerossignol · 27/07/2019 17:02

I get irritated by people who insist that if you are a good friend you should be willing to be treated like crap. 'I'm always cancelling on my friends at the last minute, and if I do turn up I'm usually three hours late. Thankfully my friends care about me, so they're fine with it. I'd hate to be friends with someone so self centred and uptight that they get upset about sitting waiting for a couple of hours. They should just bring a book to read and be glad that I got there in the end'.

MonkeyToesOfDoom · 27/07/2019 17:05

Also, those posters that want to keep some meaningless detail secret by telling you to 'think' of something similar.

"My OHs hobby takes him away at weekends (Think Fishing)"
"My job means dealing with people, Think Social work"

Tell you what I think.. think person of limited thinking capacity.

Settlersofcatan · 27/07/2019 17:05

The carbs police. "I can't believe you let your kids snack on fruit! So carby!" No one gets fat eating fruit ffs

"I can't work because there are no term time 10-2pm jobs". Err,, use childcare. The vast majority of parents work, it's not a unique to you issue.

Medicaltextbook · 27/07/2019 17:06

Comments about spelling or grammar in the OP when the meaning is perfectly clear.

Mrsjayy · 27/07/2019 17:07

The food posters baffled me especially where fruit is concerned your child will be obese because they had an apple and rasins in one sitting ALL THAT SUGAR !! I think they survive on dust and morning dew

MarieBaroneIsMyMom · 27/07/2019 17:10

Tell you what I think.. think person of limited thinking capacity

😂😂😂

Soola · 27/07/2019 17:15

‘My son is 38 and wants to walk to the shops in his own.....’

‘My daughter is 27, would it be ok for her to come home and let herself in and be on her own as I don’t get in from work for another half hour each evening...’

There is going to be a whole generation of children who will grow up without learning to be independent according to the amount of posts on here about children not being able to go anywhere on there own or be left at home alone.

handslikecowstits · 27/07/2019 17:18

The ones where a poster's husband/partner is being an arsehole and someone asks if they're on the spectrum. Drives me potty. Chances are he's just an arsehole and this question often does an incredible disservice to those who are on the spectrum yet manage to treat people with consideration and respect.

squeekywheel · 27/07/2019 17:19

The people who refuse to stick up for their kids.

Either with an abusive partner, cunty family or whatever.

They just moan endlessly about how hard it is.

Isatis · 27/07/2019 17:19

People telling posters to trust their instincts. There have been all too many instances of that proving utterly disastrous.

People telling off posters for wanting to go to A&E because they have decided, over the internet, that their symptoms aren't serious enough - even though they blatantly are and their advice could potentially be fatal.

The extraordinary aggression that seems to come out whenever anyone dares to suggest that they don't like breathing in other people's cigarette smoke.

People who don't bother to RTFT and to whom it doesn't seem to occur that, if a thread has hundreds of posts and is more than a day old, the chances are that things will have moved on a bit and/or that whatever brilliant response they wanted to make to the OP may have been made several times already.

People who proclaim on legal issues with great confidence when they blatantly know nothing about it and their legal advice is positively dangerous.