What drives you mad about MNers?

[omafiet]

I woke up grumpy today and reading some posts is making me grumpier. Perhaps I'm turning into a curmudgeon. But sometimes I read posts and think "Good grief, woman, you don't help yourself, do you?"

The gems that seem to pop up with alarming regularity: "We live rurally and I don't drive" in a post complaining of a lack of access to, well, anything really.

Or: "We don't have any family close by to babysit so DH and I haven't been out on our own since 2004." Do what we all do then and pay for a babysitter!

Ugh. This heat is making me grouchy. Anything make you want to shake another MNer?

"The targeting of individuals or the attack posts on others especially in the feminist forum."

I have to agree that the feminist forum is a bit of a nightmare. It's a shame because they have some great stuff on there but it's not worth the mobbing of anyone who deviates slightly from the party line (I'm not even talking about trans issues specifically). I'd like to post on some of the threads but it's not worth being told I'm a man, an anti-feminist agitator or a handmaiden, or (one that gets thrown around like confetti) that I'm trying to gaslight everyone. Especially when I'm generally in agreement with most posters on that forum and we're only talking minor differences. Also, the caricaturing of the dreaded "liberal feminists" is ridiculous (and I don't identify as a liberal feminist myself).

I agree with a PP who mentioned those posts where they've named people A, B, C and D and are difficult to follow.

Yes, although my three best friends' and my names do actually start with A B C and D! Let's hope we never have a MN-worthy issue

Women who say ‘I’m trying to conceive, but I’m worried if I start now they’ll be one of the youngest in their year. Should I wait until December?!’

Yeah love - because nature runs to the timetable of the British school calendar.

Or the “why aren’t I pg? I’m seeing the worlds best gynae and their stumped” but you think a bunch of mumsnetters might know?.

Then they get pissy no one knows and flounce.

Just the general lack of resilience I regularly see here
Do you really need to post such mundane bollocks?

Just the general lack of resilience I regularly see here
Do you really need to post such mundane bollocks?
I must admit MN does have a lot of very whiny posters. I'm frequently tempted to post "just get over yourself" when yet another ridiculous thread about a perfectly innocuous MIL whinges on.

It’s interesting isn’t it.
If you start a thread about mils or parking or ‘do you like these shoes?’ It gets a lot of attention very quickly.
Recently there were a few threads about the Abigail Blake case, where her partner had stamped on her, severed her spinal cord, left her permanently disabled and unable to lift her children....
And was released after six months.
Very little interest in comparison on mumsnet.
I find it interesting . Everyone jumps on the ltb domestic violence threads with all the advice to leave, to report, to go to a refuge.
But if we don’t protect refuges, ensure funding for women’s charities, demand harsher sentences for perpetrators of Violence against women.... it’s kind of pointless.

The professional offence seekers.

"Hi ladies, this is my first post, I need some advice"

"Ladies ugh"

"Hi girls, this is my first post, I need some advice"

"I'm not a 'girl' "

PanGalaticGargleBlaster

So should people start threads with "Hi women," because that just sounds really odd.

So should people start threads with "Hi women," because that just sounds really odd.

I think it is more the case that these people completely rufuse to accept the various colloquial uses of the above and similar gendered greetings that are accepted around the various regions of the UK and perhaps more importantly complete ignore whatever horrible gut wrenching situation the OP is seeking assistance on instead berates them instead.

So should people start threads with "Hi women," because that just sounds really odd.

That's exactly what PanGalatic is saying @StCharlotte - that there's nothing necessarily wrong with referring to groups of females as 'ladies' or 'girls'.

Or maybe just ‘Hi’ or ‘Hi everyone’? Saves you assuming everyone is a woman too.

PanGalaticGargleBlaster

Oh God sorry - I complete misunderstood your post!

I had a couple of twatty responses on a thread about stray (wild) cats in Greece. I was told 'why don't you worry about this instead ...' and the poster reeled off a bunch of animal related issues in the world.
Oh, get to fuck smartarse. It IS possible to start a thread about, and show concern for, only one issue at a time!

Or maybe just ‘Hi’ or ‘Hi everyone’? Saves you assuming everyone is a woman too

In fairness it's probably safe to assume 90% of people here women!

are

A lot of people also assume that most people who post here are mothers. I see more than enough non-mothers here to know that’s not true. I wouldn’t assume we have less than 10% male users on the same basis.

The great thing about a term like ‘everyone’ is that, by definition, you include 100% of people with no assumptions

Dancinggertrude
I agree- Sometimes the most serious of issues get little response yet posts on trivial isssues get lots of postings.

The great thing about a term like ‘everyone’ is that, by definition, you include 100% of people with no assumptions

Fair point

I just find it sad when someone ventures on here having just found out their partner is having an affair or is an alcoholic or whatever they gets eviscerated for their choice of salutation which seems incredibly petty.

When I was pregnant , 2.5yrs ago. I consumed a lot of parenting articles and blogs and videos , a common theme was "sleeping through" so of course I took it as a must , something that has to happen or your child's sleep routine is awful , you're not doing it right

My son and I co sleep and he wakes once at night , and goes back to sleep rather quickly. I think he's just looking for me ? I don't know

Does anyone else feel like a huge fuss is made about sleeping through?! Because I definitely felt like I wasn't doing something right because my child wasn't / isn't sleeping through.

Share your thoughts please

@Destiny07, this isn't the right thread for that kind of advice, suggest you start your own thread and it would be a good idea to do so in the relevant section of the site as the advice will be more focused.