What drives you mad about MNers?

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I woke up grumpy today and reading some posts is making me grumpier. Perhaps I'm turning into a curmudgeon. But sometimes I read posts and think "Good grief, woman, you don't help yourself, do you?"

The gems that seem to pop up with alarming regularity: "We live rurally and I don't drive" in a post complaining of a lack of access to, well, anything really.

Or: "We don't have any family close by to babysit so DH and I haven't been out on our own since 2004." Do what we all do then and pay for a babysitter!

Ugh. This heat is making me grouchy. Anything make you want to shake another MNer?

wanderings you forgot the Flying Spaghetti Monster, that crops up along with sky fairy and imaginary friend

There are a lot of posters who are keen to tell everyone that they are DEFINITELY NOT middle class. Even if they are a GP living in a detached house in Buckinghamshire. There will be some long back story about how they were born in a ditch and had to pull themselves up by the bootstraps.

I almost never see "book a spa day" given out as actual advice but I see a lot of posters complaining about all the MNers who apparently think this is the answer to every problem.

I hate incorrect employment advice. My favourite is when someone has to take an emergency day off as their DC are ill and there is often someone who chips in with "use your parental leave, that's what it's for, you're legally entitled and your employer can't refuse". No, that's not how it works at all.

Also I agree about the "I have no friends" posters who aren't willing to consider any activity or club or event which might help them meet people. Funny how those posters quite often seem to be NC with their whole family too.

'I have anxiety' as an excuse for everything.

When people say that they are nc with their family I always think "who is the problem here, you or your family ". I'm know there are genuine cases of nc but it seems very common place on mn.

Three laws of mumnset:

1, Any medical problem can be solved by losing weight.
2, Any behavioural problem can be solved by diagnosing SEN.

1. Any other problem can be solved by LTB/NC/TRITE ACRONYM.

Miss Information is Mrs Mummy's BF here.

Those who get ‘accidentally’ pregnant, but then it emerges they were using the pull-out method.

People who are rude, or just plain nasty. It puts me off starting my own threads.

People who don't read properly.

All the people who claim to be ridiculously ultra-clean, and (pretend?) to change the bed every other day and wash all their clothes after one wearing, etc.

All the people who claim to be ridiculously ultra-clean, and (pretend?) to change the bed every other day and wash all their clothes after one wearing, etc

Tbf you don’t they are pretending, I’m not as fastidious as that but not far off.

I’m not pretending honest

Sometimes it makes me depressed, some of the mundane things that people worry about, or the crap that people put up with from other people. It just shows how pointless life can be. But I still can't stop reading, it's addictive.

I do dislike particular turns of phrase that I wouldn't see anywhere else.

use of the word 'naice'
'it's a wedding, not a summons'
IYSWIM (I don't know why it drives me nuts)
'bare' instead of 'bear'; (ALL THE TIME)
'going NC'
and anything about food habits of any kind, the control over food just kills me.

1. jumping to conclusions & projecting
   "DP ignores me & I feel a bit lonely"
   LTB he obviously has another woman like my DH did

2. The self doubt.
   Esp. about petty stuff. Just make a decision woman. Get on with it.
   You can risk making mistakes & recover when you do.
   Even better, you don't have to justify your decisions to us.

3. Teaching their DC to be doormats.
   "There's a boy at school upsetting DD"
   Did she shout at the boy to STOP IT NOW! ?
   "Oh no! She can't do that! She doesn't want to get in trouble."
   

4. the ones who say... "I don't really understand MN I'm not used to posting here" then use lots of MN-specific jargon & phrases.

Food police, labelling police, cleaning obsessed, rigid intolerant thinking...

The ones that have the reading comprehension of a deceased flea.

Fucking "." as a post, especially on serious threads.

Other people's lives aren't your soap opera, either click to watch the fucking thread or at least have the decency to type a few words in support!

Also, the head tilt/steely glare/tinkly laugh, or the MN knockout line "did you mean to be so rude".
I like to imagine how this would go down with some bolshy, mouthy git in the real world.

There are some incredibly rude and obnoxious people on here and it's definitely got worse.

Agree about the ones who find dozens of reasons why the sensible and practical advice being offered just won't work for them, also the massive troll threads with all the begging for updates.

@Ronsters I’ve never understood the ‘Did you mean to be so rude?’

If they answer “Yes!” What is the op going to do then?

It really is a stupid thing to say.

Posts where it doesn't take a genius to read between the lines that an OP is feeling low and would could do with supportive advice and you get short curt responses along the lines of "you sound like hard work/nasty/jealous" etc. The kick you when you're down people, just why!?

Also people who pile in falling over themselves to show how non judgy they are when an OP is describing a situation that would definitely warrant just a teeny raised eyebrow. Nope, they're a snob, which on MN is one of the worst things ever. Once an OP is called a snob the subject matter becomes obsolete and the rest of the thread is devoted to a pile on of posts in the manner of the shame nun from GoT.

The people who respond to very obvious negative pregnancy test results photos with "OMG I can see it hun! congrats xxxx"

Then when it's clear its definitely still negative 2 days later "must have been a chemical...so sorry :("

The language prescriptivists annoy me, particularly the ones where it becomes apparent that it's all about snobbishness/perceived class and anything 'regional' (i.e. not SE English) is derided as wrong. They often involve some kind of thinly veiled anti-Irish and/or anti-American sentiment, too. Extra annoyance points for threads in which that tedious joke about not using 'reach out' unless you are in the Four Tops turns up.

The way that if anyone, adult or child, is behaving badly or acting like an arsehole they must be SEN, ‘on the spectrum’ or have dementia

Yes “ a line is a line “ bollocks when it’s clearly too faint for the supposed gestation, getting the OPs hope up and anyone suggesting a chemical pregnancy gets frowned upon.

Oh yes, and withdrawal described as a 'method' of contraception

Posters who think every situation is totally black and white, and there is no possible middle ground or range of reasonable opinions.

People who like to make OPs feel bad because they're dealing with a fairly low level CF, but it's a CF nonetheless.

Oh, just give the child a lift, it's not their fault the Mum is a CF / I'd give them a lift because I'm above such pettiness

Oh yes, the absolute lack of reading comprehension skills is boggling.

'DH and I have been invited to....'

Followed by loads of people then piling on to ask whether the DH was invited.

Also on Baby Names where an OP says they've decided on a middle name, which is to honour their grandmother who died last month, but what do you think of [first name]?

And then a load of absolute tools coming on to say [first name] is great, but my God, I absolutely hate [middle name], it's beyond awful, choose something else.

Posters who come onto a thread and say Wow just wow need punched in the face !