What drives you mad about MNers?

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I woke up grumpy today and reading some posts is making me grumpier. Perhaps I'm turning into a curmudgeon. But sometimes I read posts and think "Good grief, woman, you don't help yourself, do you?"

The gems that seem to pop up with alarming regularity: "We live rurally and I don't drive" in a post complaining of a lack of access to, well, anything really.

Or: "We don't have any family close by to babysit so DH and I haven't been out on our own since 2004." Do what we all do then and pay for a babysitter!

Ugh. This heat is making me grouchy. Anything make you want to shake another MNer?

And the food ones. My favourite, from a few years back was...

“You give your toddler grapes!?!?! They’re LITERALLY bombs of sugar!!!!!”

The complete lack of understanding regarding the financial problems some people face, e.g., poster is struggling with this month's rent, response: "why don't you have savings?", isn't it obvious?

The Brexit/political threads "give me 5 reasons why"......it's always 5 reasons.

“My dd has just got her SATs results, 120, 119 & 120. What does this mean. Oh, and ds has just got seven 9s and two 8s in his GCSEs. Is this going to be good enough for sixth form.”

Strange that people never need help interpreting less stellar results.

Though of course, this being Mumsnet, somebody will point out that these are very poor results, because their dc had straight 120s, and dozens of 9s.

Of indeed in London Frith ,people will drone on about the zones of London as though we all know where they are talking about .

Ha ha Matilda ,yes of course they realise their child,s results are brilliant they just want the rest of us to realise it too.

The really nasty comments from some, I’ve noticed one poster recently on several threads who’s almost always nasty, I just think why, you must have so much anger in your life to come online spouting all these horrible useless things.

I’ve also noticed some men asking for relationship advice get an absolute roasting but you know if a woman posted it they’d get tons of helpful advice and comments.

Posters who take part of an OP and run absolutely wild with it “sorry OP, your DH sounds gay to me, can you get a private investigator and STD clinic now” because they haven’t answered a text on a night out etc.

What about when people have written, "can you perhaps show them this thread..?“ after everyone has agreed that indeed yes, your partner IS useless/negligent/abusive, let him read our opinions to help him understand

OP : DH never cooks me dinner or runs me a bath
MN : LTB

OP : DP didn’t come home 3 hours late
MN : He has probably went to see his OW

And not to mention the constant troll hunting.

When someone mentions fairly common medical symptoms (usually a virus) and someone chips in that it could be some extremely rare, obscure illness they once had - followed by "A & E Now"

I’ve also noticed some men asking for relationship advice get an absolute roasting

Yes I notice this. There have been a few where the bloke has been either physically or verbally abused by his gf/wife and posters are more or less telling him he should ask himself what he did to make her do it

And there’s always that one hero who says ‘yes my reply would be the same if OP was female’ which is bollocks

Posters that don’t like it when you don’t agree with them and then trot out that they have special needs or are 72 as in the case of this one....

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/gardening/3647039-Garden-lights-laws?pg=2&order=

Woe betide anyone who mentions they might let their kid have the occasional Happy Meal or access to a few sweets every now and again. We are basically just ticking Social Services time bombs.

argumentative
snipey
ridiculous inane posts
posters who search previous posting history

The black-and-white/off-with-their-heads/go-NC-immediately about parents who have been less than perfect and are sometimes very flawed.

I come within the category of someone who would have every 'right' to cut off their parents. It's not as easy or as straightforward as that though. Some parents really should be cut off but imo they are in the distinct minority. No way of measuring it of course.

The advice, forcefully and endlessly presented by a forceful and unequivocal poster (with attendent aggressively loyal posse), to cut off contact forthwith is dangerous imo. You'd think it was the instant key to happiness to listen to this lot - when there's much more to it and it needs very sensitive, careful and professional handling over time imo.

(Mind you some therapists promote the Off With Their Heads mantra, often projecting their own issues onto vulnerable clients. It's like a cult.)

Posters that describe themselves as being posh when quite clearly they are anything but. 🙄

Posters who talk about the op in the third person as if they aren't there, on their own thread.

Agree I don't like posters who dig up someone's posting history and comment on it. Such bad taste.

People who post "I am thinking of naming my unborn child Nevaeh, opinions please".

Deeply emotionally fragile, not new to MN. Yet posts on AIBU

Posters who talk about the op in the third person as if they aren't there, on their own thread.

Well, in fairness sometimes they are posting on a thread that has been going on for a week, and the poster has only posted the opening post and then disappeared!

Actually, that is something that I don't really understand. When someone goes to the trouble of posting something and then never posts again. Not so much when it is a big drawn out story (because that just screams 'fake' to me) but when they have asked about something specific like 'I'm thinking of moving to Yorkshire, is it easy to commute from X to Y' and then posters try to help by asking about budget, age of children etc and they never come back, even though people are being helpful and trying to reply.

The posters who call bullshit because you do something in your life that is different to how they do it.

The twisters . How they can be told a small detail and blow that into something much worse .

I don't post much anymore, after posting a while ago about a fairly mundane DH moan which turned into a " I bet he beats you" etc. Nope, no he doesn't. He was just being a dick.

Those who post quite contentious threads, appear to be “new” to MN and then disappear.

The cheerleaders and Pom Pom shakers, who just want some juicy gossip and keep checking back in on a thread to see where the OP is and if there’s any news.

Those with piss poor comprehension. Im not sure if theyre a bit dim or hijack/misinterpret on purpose to make some point.

The reply "why are you asking strangers on the internet?". Sometimes the asker already knows what the "official" answer is, but it's reassuring to get an informal answer in this way, and an answer usually comes in minutes; whereas going through the proper channels, such as 111, takes time; and the answer is likely to be the scripted "official" answer, and not always helpful. There are times when going the proper channels is not the best course of action.

The MN view that if children see anything remotely Christian, such as a Noah's Ark toy gifted by a MIL, they are indoctrinated for life. On these threads, a bingo card awaits:

• Imaginary friend
• Sky fairy
• Otherwise intelligent people
• Indoctrination

And ironically the phrases "Jesus wept" and "Christ on a bike" come up frequently.

The ones who ask "should I follow through" when they've threatened an unrealistic and draconian punishment to their DC, such as cancelling their birthday party; especially if they say "well I've said it, so I can't back down now, even though I said it in a moment of anger".

NoSauce "the cheerleaders and the pom pom shakers" Youve articulated them perfectly there. The faux concerners. I know a few of these in real life too

Grief Hijackers.

Some awful tragedy occurs and people post about the horrific murder or tragic deaths of someone completely unrelated to them....

“I’m in tears as I went to the same school thirty years ago...”

“I have a daughter the same age....”

“We lived in the town next to that for six months in 1985...”

“My uncle works with the mothers window cleaners grandad...”

I ruddy well can’t stand grief hijackers who feel the need to make it all about them by mentioning some tenuousness connection to the victim. Pathetic nonsense.