Man who's been with 35 women.. red flag?

[Loka123]

Man who's been with 35 women by the age of 33. Red flag? He has also been in a 5 year relationship with one person apparently in the near history...

Is this person a bit of a red flag for a serious relationship? (just based on this info?) Any examples of such man who have been "tamed" as it were?

In this day and age 35 women is really low! ... even with a 5 year relationship. It's in the past anyway! No it is not a red flag.

I might see be wary if he hadn't had a single long term relationship..but if you mean he's slept with 35 women, then no,personally I don't think that's a huge number, at 33...

Not necessarily.
Is it recently or a while ago? Was he faithful in his relationships?

Not necessarily. He started at, say, 17. So he’s been sexually active for 16 years. That only equates to just over two partners per year (excluding the 5 year relationship, which shows willingness to commit/settle down etc). Just sounds like he had a few years of putting it about a big when younger, which isn’t the end of the world. Perfectly reasonable to date someone for a couple of months when you’re young and decide it’s not worth pursuing long term; it doesn’t even imply he’s had loads of one night stands. I’d say nothing to worry about.

I don't think that's a huge number considering his age.

35 women is not a lot.

I think that's fine. I expect my DP has slept with a similar number of women tbh.

On average 2.3 a year if he lost his virginity at 18!

I’d slept with more men than that by the age of 30 and I’ve now been happily married for 15 years. I don’t understand why it would be a red flag? Is this some kind of reverse to do with attitudes to make and female sexual experiences?

That number would be too high for me. However others think it's low so depends on your own stance.

Probably not far off my number and I’m mid 20s. I’m now very happily married and have been in a monogamous relationship for several years.

It’s quite normal to have a ‘young, free, and single’ phase in your late teens/early 20s IME.

Not at all. IME 35 women is quite a low figure. My number is higher than that and I certainly ain't no no red flag.

Way to high for me!

No but make sure both get checked for STDS before unprotected intercourse

He has slept with 35 people? That is not a number to lose sleep over. Not sure why it would be a red flag!

If he's bragging about it THAT is a red flag. If he's not, then how do you know?

Surely most people stop counting by the time they get to 35

35 really isn’t a lot

I'm more alarmed that he kept count 🤣

I don't think that is that many tbh...

He would still be the same person he is now, regardless. Anyone can lie about their number of previous liaisons. I have never understood the relevance of knowing either way.

A man who's been with 35 women: not a problem.

A man who tells you he's been with 35 women: potentially a problem.

I agree with PP who said it’s a red flag if he’s bragging. But 35 really isn’t a massive amount in my opinion. I’ve lost count but am not a red flag.

Thanks everyone so far - I know gender shouldn't matter, but would great if anyone knows of any men who have slept with 35 or more women and gone on to have a monogamous, long-term marriage/relationship.

To the ones asking, he definitely didn't brag about it, it was me who awkwardly asked him out of curiosity - he was quite reluctant to answer and I said we could leave it and pretend I hadn't asked but he then he answered. I was glad he's at least honest despite him seeming ashamed his number was seemingly high.

My husband has probably slept with 3 times as many women as that-he had a varied youth .
Happily and monogamously (it there is such a word) married for 11 years.