Man who's been with 35 women.. red flag?

[Loka123]

Man who's been with 35 women by the age of 33. Red flag? He has also been in a 5 year relationship with one person apparently in the near history...

Is this person a bit of a red flag for a serious relationship? (just based on this info?) Any examples of such man who have been "tamed" as it were?

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I think what matters most is the attitude behind the sex.

I had a few one nighters when young and they didn't make me happy. For me, sex is about feelings as much as physical stuff.

But I also appreciate that everyone is different. So as long as he treated both the women and himself with respect that, and his sexual health, would be all that mattered to me.

But respect for your partner and sexual health can be an issue after one partner or 100. I don't think numbers are necessarily an indication.

Now, I am very picky who I sleep with and have no problem being monogamous. But it needs to be more than the purely physical for me.

DH and I had both had around that number of sex partners by the time we got together.

Neither of us is a sex pest, ever dishonest deceptive or unfaithful, have ever had or passed in an STD, exploited anyone, etc etc.

I did labour the point somewhat, folks. I'm just sounding off so don't take much notice. By the way, I'm 48. Legal, i.e. age 16, plus 32 😊.

3 a year with the 5 year relationship. Fine. Unless all of those were 1 night stands I wouldn't be fussed.

My partner has been with what he thinks is more than 10x that.

Hes not a young man and went through a phase when he was a young man and went wild.

If you think about clubbing and that many end up home with someone. Thats 4 a month, say and if someone is single for a few years or does this over a lifetime when single then it becomes triple figures.

I couldnt care less what my partner has done. I even joke about it. It was a long time ago and I care only about how he treats me.

As for numbers, if you required surgery, would you rather have an experienced surgeon or one that had limited prior experience?

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