Worst things your parents said to you

[LuckyAmy1986]

As a teen, my dad called me 'loose' and a 'cunt' - not both at the same time. I am in my thirties now and still haven't forgotten/got over it! Is this normal? Wanted to know if other people had similar experiences.

[justthecat]

I’ve become the mother she never was,that’s the only bit of peace in my mind I’ve had

[ZigZagZombie]

This thread has proved very hard reading but I've read each and every single post.

Much of it is familiar, however if you stopped me in the street later and asked me the same question I'd be dumb - I've done a tremendous job of burying this shit deep.

I'm diagnosed BPD (borderline personality disorder) - I'm actually currently contesting this for various reasons, but it was once described to me as the "PTSD of childhood".

I've struggled enormously with my weight and self-esteem - I think it's come from being told black is white and white is black when I've known differently it's just utterly fucked with my head.

I am currently dealing with Schrodinger's mother - both dead and alive. I'm NC and she's been on her death bed for what seems like years - with a myriad of ailments which would've killed anyone else not determined to continue to live on in spite. What I mean is - at this stage I don't know if she's dead or alive and despite the flying monkeys I've resisted.

This thread should be linked to every time someone is asking whether they should go NC and some dufus says "awwww but it's your mum".

[DisrespectfulAdultFemale]

Oh, so many from my mother.

Possibly my favourite was when I was teenager and had mild acne - she told me my spots were my evil coming out.

[wanderings]

Very mild in comparison to many things on this thread, but here's one I remember, which maybe said more about me than her. Although I mostly had a great relationship with my mum, and still do, the one thing we never agreed on was my refusal to work hard in school subjects I thought were pointless (she was a teacher). She once said the following, after a parents' evening:

"You are handicapped."

I remember being utterly shocked and appalled to hear this: my 13-year-old self believed that "handicapped" only happened to other people. (Yes, like many children and teenagers, I believed I was invincible.) I'm not sure whether it had the effect she intended: part of me wanted to prove her wrong, but part of me also thought "maybe I really can't learn". I never did, but there were times I felt tempted to reply to certain commands with "I can't do that, I'm handicapped".

[BrizzleMint]

Where to start? Apparently I'm a disappointment, not the lovely child they wanted (that's Dbro, poor him) and generally an embarrassment. Ds told me it's like I am from a different family to them because my morals and values are so different - best compliment ever

[dimsum321]

My dad told me, after I had got married, that I had to take anyone I could get as I was so ugly, but my sister was so beautiful she could do so much better than me.