Steeve, yes, I too was diagnosed with C-PTSD 2 years ago, PTSD, about 4 years ago. I've always thought it was something you got from being in a war, like my husband who also has it (PTSD not C-PTSD) But, lets face it, you and I (and others here) essentially grew up in a war zone. It was constant and systematic.
I also think they are just scratching the surface when it comes to the disastrous impact that emotional abuse has on children. They've made great strides in the U.S though. My therapist has also told me that EA is far more damaging psychologically then physical abuse. I had both, but at least most of the time, you can heal from that. The scars from EA are detrimental and paralyzing.
tgoesonandon I am also low contact with my idiot cow of a mother. I just don't have the courage right now to cut her off completely. The guilt is tremendous. I applaud anyone who has gone NC, but I understand those who can't, and I don't pass judgment on them. Maybe, someday. But, not today.
My mother also sexualized me at a very young age. I told her a couple of years ago that there is a GIF of me having sex with someone. Tbh, I don't even remember it happening or who the guy was. I think I was manic at the time it happened and I think it was after I had been raped that summer. I had no idea that I was being filmed. It is what it is. At least I looked good though! HA! Hell, I mean what choice to you have? You either cry about it or laugh about it, and I choose the latter.
Anyway, she actually wanted to see the video! Like she was excited to see it. She also wanted to see my husband's cock, as I may have stupidly alluded to the fact that that he was endowed in a conversation awhile back, because she asked me a silly question. She also recommended that I have to go have fun and sex when I was about 10. I gave my first blowjob when I was 12. Had anal at 14. Vaginal at 15. She also didn't believe me when I told her when I was about 8, that my brother had molested me. She told me it was a dream. She then invited him to my bedroom and asked him if he'd done anything. He of course denied it. She now blames me and said she would have done something to stop it, if only I had told her again. The fact that I only told her once was clearly not enough.
In regards to the not liking hearing people thing, I can kinda relate to that, as I hate hearing women speak Spanish, as my mother was both Mexican and Spanish (was born and grew up in Mexico) and the only time she spoke Spanish was when she insulted me.
I can understand the kid thing. Not wanting your parents around them, as it would negatively impact them. This is why my sister limits the interaction between my mother and her son. Me, on the other hand, I just don't have that reason. I have no children (although my nephew is the spitting image of me, except with blue eyes) so, I don't really have a good enough reason to go NC. Not to mention, my brother has ceased all contact with her, my sister is even more low contact than I am. And, to make matters worse she literally lives about 5 minutes away. Within walking distance. I cannot help but to feel responsible for her. I think this is because growing up, both of our parents made us feel the need to care for them emotionally. I knew about my parents (or lack of sex life) when I was a pre-teen. Emotionally, she can range between a petulant 2 year old to a 15 year old girl.
GunpowderGelatine, my mother is also considered an absolute delight to everyone who has met her. HA! Yeah, right. Sorry, about your experiences with you witch of a mother though. You're not alone x
I don't have the answers. Sure seems like a lot of us are in the same boat, though eh?
Here's some pretty for you guys, and some If you don't drink like I do, we can share some together, although, I do prefer coffee over tea though.