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My wife is dying

620 replies

SanJunipero · 13/01/2019 01:26

My beautiful, wonderful wife is only 33 and I'm sitting next to her bed in the hospice tonight watching her die. She's had cancer for a long time and I knew this was coming, but it's so very hard to watch.

OP posts:
silkpyjamasallday · 13/01/2019 07:26

The way you write about your wife shows how much love you had for each other, and your little boy. This is one of the most difficult things you will ever have to do, and you are handling it with such grace. Sending love to all of you Flowers

cherrytree63 · 13/01/2019 07:28

I'm so very sorry for what you're going through.
I too have been through it with my husband.
May you find peace in the future xx

Macs18 · 13/01/2019 07:33

I am so sorry OP. This is heartbreaking to read, while at the same time so beautiful to read how much you love your wife.

LookImAHooman · 13/01/2019 07:36

I’m so sorry. Flowers

Emsonline · 13/01/2019 07:38

I'm so very sorry. Wishing you all the love and strength you need at this heartbreaking time. We will all be here for a chat whenever you need one Flowers

incogKNEEto · 13/01/2019 07:44

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I believe you are doing the best thing you can, telling your wife how beautiful and loved she is while also giving her permission to go if it's time.

You will be in my thoughts today and I hope your wife has a peaceful passing x

Tiredeyes21 · 13/01/2019 07:44

Sending lots of love to you OP, your DW and DS ❤️

Purplecatshopaholic · 13/01/2019 07:44

I very much hope her passing is pain free - I am so sorry you are going through this OP

DowntonCrabby · 13/01/2019 07:46

Thinking of you today, she will know how loved she is. Flowers

Yulebealrite · 13/01/2019 07:48

Keep on talking to her. Hearing is the last sense to go.
Wishing you strength.
Flowers

Livpool · 13/01/2019 07:51

I am so sorry. She knows how much you love her, and I hope you can find some comfort in that xx

zen1 · 13/01/2019 07:52

I’m very sorry OP. Life can be very cruel.

Mummyoflittledragon · 13/01/2019 07:53

This is such a difficult time for you both and I’m so sorry. Sending you both love Flowers.

mistermagpie · 13/01/2019 07:56

She sounds brilliant OP, what a lovely wife you have and mother to your son. I hope she finds peace soon. Strength to you, it's an incredibly brave and difficult thing you are doing, you sound so in love xx

Confusedalarms · 13/01/2019 08:03

I wish you strength and peace in the difficult days ahead.

Elderflower14 · 13/01/2019 08:18

Sending love and strength. My DP passed away in the local hospice almost a year ago. Sadly I wasn't with him when he passed. I used to sit and hold his hand and talk to him. The hospice staff were amazing. Compassionate and caring.... 💙 💙

Shafernakerd · 13/01/2019 08:20

So sorry Flowers.

brizzledrizzle · 13/01/2019 08:21

I've told her that it will be over soon and that she can go when she's ready - she doesn't have to hold on.

That's one of the kindest things you can do for a person. You sound so lovely.

Nanalisa60 · 13/01/2019 08:27

Just hold her keep telling her how much she is loved and how happy she made you. !! My heart is breaking for u it is just so unfair for this to be happening to her at such a young age.

BedraggledBlitz · 13/01/2019 08:30

I'm so sorry you are all going through this, sending lots of love to you all xxx

areyoubeingserviced · 13/01/2019 08:35

So sorry OP
Sending you love

Largepiecesofcrookedwood · 13/01/2019 08:41

Sending love to all of you OP, and hoping that the coming days are kind to you Flowers

ridiculousridiculousness · 13/01/2019 08:44

I'm so sorry to hear that this is happening to you and your family. I know we are strangers on the internet but please know I'm sending love and thoughts your way.

WhereAreAllTheUsernames · 13/01/2019 08:45

Thanksso sorry

RandomWok · 13/01/2019 08:45

Love and light to you all. You can tell that there is so much love in your family. X x x x x x x x