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My wife is dying

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SanJunipero · 13/01/2019 01:26

My beautiful, wonderful wife is only 33 and I'm sitting next to her bed in the hospice tonight watching her die. She's had cancer for a long time and I knew this was coming, but it's so very hard to watch.

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mistermagpie · 18/01/2019 20:27

I'm so sorry for what you and your lovely family have been through, your wife sounds brilliant and the world will be a little bit darker without her in it. Thinking of you and sending strength for the days and weeks ahead xx

stayathomer · 19/01/2019 03:53

Flowers take care of yourselves, so sorry for your loss

Ethereal23 · 19/01/2019 04:28

I cannot believe a beautiful loving couple like you are being torn apart and minimised, whilst completely messed up and dysfunctional couples, families still live through their 60s. What I mean is, we need couples/families this happy and beautiful, it will make the world a much better place. Oh no, I can't believe what I am reading...I am aware this is such a bad feeling for you...worst of all for your son...a great mother is going to be taken away from him...

Ethereal23 · 19/01/2019 04:33

Sorry for your loss, please do not hate yourself for not knowing it better. But be assured that whatever hardships, pain she had in her life is now gone and she is now in peace. Please, stay strong for your son. I hope you can get therapy, if you need it and some closure.

Orlandointhewilderness · 19/01/2019 17:50

So so sorry. Xxxx

BBInGinDrinking · 19/01/2019 19:38

You, your son and your DW are still in my thoughts, SJ. I hope that the appointments went ok - as ok as these things can go, anyway. I am glad that you and your boy have good people around you in life, and I hope that he is a comfort to you, at least some of the time. Sending you another strong hug and mug of sweet tea across the miles. Mind you, I'm tentative about the tea - I remember my dear friend's normally mild-mannered DH saying with great feeling in a similar situation 'if I get offered another f mug of f sweet tea I'll swing for them!' So here's an alternative from my own supply, just in case. Just the one (or two), mind. Gin

ChippingIn · 19/01/2019 19:59

Just to let you know there are still lots of us here when you need someone to talk to, a place to shout, vent or get some hugs...whatever you need and absolutely NO pressure to post at all 💐. Take care of yourself xx

DangermousesSidekick · 19/01/2019 21:49

Flowers RIP. Take care of yourself and your little boy.

noodles44 · 19/01/2019 22:16

I'm so sorry for your loss. I am on the cancer thread and remember your wife posting on there and as others have said, she talked of her love for you and your son. Thinking of you all.

Take care xx

justilou1 · 20/01/2019 00:30

Hi Sj.... I went to the funeral of my best friend’s mum the other day. She was lovely, and adored by many. She was also the conductor of a choir. Everyone sang this at her funeral, which was a perfect celebration of her life, and I thought of you and your DW and smiled as well.

X j
Smotheroffive · 20/01/2019 02:53

Just calling by to have a quick catch up, and let you know am keeping you and your DS in my thoughts, and sending comforting hugs across the miles, and bagsfull of strength to get through each of these days you wake to face it all. Small steps, with hopes you are managing to get through 💕

Paddy1234 · 21/01/2019 11:02

Just popping by to give you some hugs and hoping you are taking care of yourself X

Torvi · 25/01/2019 11:50

Hope you're doing ok San Thanks

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SanJunipero · 30/03/2019 10:14

Hello everyone. I hope you don't mind me popping back on this thread after a little while, but I wanted the chance to thank you all properly for all the support you gave me back in January (and beyond). I wish I could thank you all individually for your kind words and virtual hugs; you made such a difference at a very dark time.

It's been two and a half months now. I wouldn't say that things are easier, but we're coping. It was my son's first birthday this week, which was bittersweet. I want to say a special thank you to everyone who nominated us for a woolly hug. I've accepted the offer and our beautiful blanket is underway. It will be absolutely treasured, I promise xxx

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minmooch · 30/03/2019 10:29

@SanJunipero it's still such early days for you but glad to hear that you are coping. Your ds will be a lovely distraction during difficult days, moments, hours.

I received a beautiful Wooly Hug after my son died. It has bought me much comfort over the years and not only do I feel him when I wrap it around me but the love from all those who were part of the process. I hope your Wooly Hug will do the same for you and your ds xx

2018SoFarSoGreat · 31/03/2019 06:57

Good to see your update. My lovely mum died the day before your wife and I lost track of your thread. Sorry for the loss. Our losses. We will survive and find new normals. 💐

anniehm · 31/03/2019 07:39

Glad to hear you are coping, birthdays and other landmarks will be bittersweet but kids can put things into perspective, they live in the moment. My friend did produce a wonderful memory book for her son about his father, the original is high on a shelf, but they scanned the pages and had it produced as a board book that lo could have all the time - just an idea for the future if it's not too painful. Thanks thinking of you both

Cantchooseaname · 31/03/2019 08:05

How was the cake??
Can’t imagine your pain.
Hug your little one tight.

SuddenlyISee · 31/03/2019 08:40

Thanks for coming back. I think about you often. Take care of yourself and your little boy x

Paddy1234 · 31/03/2019 14:57

San - I think about you and your little boy often
Be kind to yourself
❤️

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