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My wife is dying

620 replies

SanJunipero · 13/01/2019 01:26

My beautiful, wonderful wife is only 33 and I'm sitting next to her bed in the hospice tonight watching her die. She's had cancer for a long time and I knew this was coming, but it's so very hard to watch.

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 16/01/2019 11:48

Oh Sanjunipo.
Im so sorry. Please take comfort in the knowledge that you were there for her and all the loved you shared, well still share together.
I was with my mum when she passed. We knew she wasn't going to get better it would have been a miracle, if she did. When she did pass it was also a relief.
My thoughts are with you.

Knittedfairies · 16/01/2019 11:49

I'm so sorry. Her passing was peaceful and you were there telling her she was loved; none of us can hope for more💐

Purpleboy · 16/01/2019 11:49

SAN I'm so sorry for your loss,I have been silently following your thread and thinking about you all constantly. Your story has touched so many peoples hearts, possibly because we have been living it with you as opposed to hearing about if after the event. You sound like a beautiful family, and no doubt you will do the best for your son for the rest of his life.
My thought, prayers and condolences go out to you all at this heartbreaking time. Xxxxxx

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 16/01/2019 11:50

It probably won't hit you for along time, if it ever does fully.
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ThanksItHasPockets · 16/01/2019 11:50

I’m so, so sorry.

Please look after yourself. Try to eat. Accept offers of help. Flowers

BifsWif · 16/01/2019 11:53

I’m so very sorry x

Damnpeskykids · 16/01/2019 11:54

Oh @SanJunipero I'm so so sorry. I've been thinking of you all the last few days. Sending lots of love & a virtual hug to you & your little one xx

Commonwasher · 16/01/2019 11:54

I’m very sorry for your loss, it must all be so bewildering.

For what it’s worth, it seems you have the collective love, moral support, prayers and solidarity of mumsnet far and wide. Bereavement can be a lonely journey but we are with you in spirit.

May your wonderful wife rest in peace in heaven’s love and light.

xx

EdgyMcNervous · 16/01/2019 11:56

I’m so, so sorry. You did a wonderful job of looking after her, and it will have been such a comfort to her having you there until the end, and knowing your son was in such good hands and will be so well loved. You are all in my thoughts. Xx

Aebj · 16/01/2019 11:58

Sending love to you and your ds . No words can take the pain away but you are in everyone’s thoughts

LoubyLou1234 · 16/01/2019 11:58

So sorry for your loss. Take heart in the fact you were there for her when she needed you. Words can't make this better but sending love.

PiggyPlumPie · 16/01/2019 11:59

Much love to you and your DS. Your love for your wife will live on. Flowers

mightyoak100 · 16/01/2019 11:59

Just want to send you 💕 , so so sorry. It’s heartbreaking, i pray you’ll find strength to get through. Flowers

MadisonAvenue · 16/01/2019 12:00

Oh San, I'm so sorry xx

Loubilou09 · 16/01/2019 12:00

So very very sorry for your loss, lots of love to you and your DS X

WH1SPERS · 16/01/2019 12:01

It will hit you in bits, it’s nature’s way of helping you cope. It’s too much to take in at once.

One minute you will be sobbing and falling apart. But 5 mins later you will pull yourself together to change baby’s nappy. That’s completely normal.

I’m glad that she passed peacefully and you were together at the end.

I hope that you are able to arrange a funeral / service of remembrance / celebration of her life that will be a true reflection of who she was.

And that you have lots of RL friends and family to support you in the days ahead.

💐🌷🌹🥀🌺

Angelinthenight · 16/01/2019 12:02

So sorry for your loss,lots of nice people are on here if you need anyone to talk too x

myname666 · 16/01/2019 12:09

😢 well done to you for being strong for her 'til the very end. What an incredible brave woman you are.
Your wife is at peace now, I hope you in time can find peace to and you and your child can go on to have a good life filled with love.
Be kind to yourself. ❤️

Wateringhole · 16/01/2019 12:11

So sorry for your loss. Look after yourself and your little boy xx

Tutlefru · 16/01/2019 12:11

Be kind to yourself SJ. Flowers

You sound like in incredibly strong woman, I hope you’ve got some to take care of you as well.

X

Paddy1234 · 16/01/2019 12:12

I am so sorry for your loss
However take comfort that you were with her on the final stage of her journey
Much love to you all and take care to look after yourself now as well
❤️

Geib8314 · 16/01/2019 12:12

Oh so sorry.

itssquidstella · 16/01/2019 12:15

Sorry to hear about her passing, @SanJunipero. I'm glad you were with her at the end. Be kind to yourself now - don't feel you should be feeling this or that. It will feel very strange for a while and there is no right way to grieve. Sending you and DS love and strength x

TeachesOfPeaches · 16/01/2019 12:19

It's so lovely you had that time at the end to say everything you needed to say Thanks

Zoflorabore · 16/01/2019 12:19

I'm so sorry lovely :(

No words are enough. You and baby ds are in my thoughts and prayers xx

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